BuckyGoldstein14

Jan 29, 2012

This happens often. For the women I imagine something better comes along.
Kair

Jan 29, 2012

Lets see:

 

Boy: Wussup

Girl: Hey

Boy: So what's happening?

Girl: nothing much. u?

Boy: Just hangin'

Girl: Oh, ok...

User has gone offline

 

Why did this conversation die?

AlCappuccino

Jan 30, 2012

I find that messages die when only one side is asking the questions and the other responds with only answers and no questions towards the first side.

I've been there myself, if she's not interested or gives answers but doesn't seem like she wants to continue the conversation, I just delete it and move on to someone who does want to chat.


 

 



 




danram9

Jan 18, 2013

ginnyrollin iS A FAKE PROFILE.....probably a MAN ....look at this myspace account from 2006...   http://www.myspace.com/missylockebitch     And this FREAK is trying to pass her pics off as recent pics

ShawarmaMan

Jan 19, 2013

For me when it happens I really am trying to whip dead horses, really.

 

You start out with a message (lengthy or not), and then if you get a reply it totally depends on the other person really. If they just answer the questions you give them you can hardly call it a conversation, then it's pretty much set she's not into you. Kind of pointless and irritating really, when it does happen. If you don't want to talk then don't reply, it's only normal that a lot of questions asked by people are going to be similar. Regardless, most of the time the conversations I have are decent at least. Just once in a while there's this stick that doesn't at all hold a conversation. 

MessageAfterTone

Jan 19, 2013

I'll figure out the reason just as soon as I figure out how to get a response.

Conrad_Nomikos

Jan 20, 2013

For me when it happens I really am trying to whip dead horses, really.

How is this different from what is happening here?

Scrubtastic

Jan 20, 2013

@OP: Because people are shit tier conversationalists in person, and it shows on here as well. I don't bother responding to messages from women that are a simple statement when I put in the effort to ask open-ended questions that leave room to navigate. Nobody should.

ShawarmaMan

Jan 20, 2013

@Conrad: It is not any different. I'm just trying to say that not everyone replies with the intention of holding a decent conversation, which makes it feel like your whipping dead horses. The result is the same, but how you deal with it is different.

vdubzinabox

Jan 20, 2013

shit or get off the pot. A failure to ask them out in person in a timely fashion. Some girls want it off the bat, and usually there the ones who stop messaging after a two. 

Conrad_Nomikos

Jan 21, 2013

This whole thread is whipping the proverbial dead horse. Stop stinkin' up the joint...

Tharmus

Jan 24, 2013

Because people don't know how to keep a conversation going.

eastknight

Jan 26, 2013

Glad the OP said "most" and not "all" which is very true. 

 

Reason, in my humble opinion, is that you see someone you think you like, and you start talking, then you feel like WTF I am not interested. It's as simple as that. In other cases, though, there is this strange, strong, inexplicable connection one might feel for a certain person, leading to a different kind of conversation, where genuineness is rather obvious, and interest in the person is clearly on a deeper level. This type of conversations has a potential longer span than the former one, and it could lead to a serious relationship actually. 

McChubbin2012

Jan 29, 2013

People who can't type properly drive me insane. They could be the nicest person ever but if dey typ liek dis, dear Lord they become utterly repulsive to me.

Also, messages that come across as "daymn gurl you so fine i wan 2 take u out so sexy". NO. Just. No.

beingme22

Feb 10, 2013

I agree with DiscoJer. She's talking to a lot of other men and simply chose to cut you from the team. This goes for when they initiate conversation with you as well. They may very well have messaged 10 other guys along with you, and whomever she likes the most, she'll stick with. Chances are, you're the better pick, but think of all the man-hours you've put into having a career, car, home, knowledge... etc. Then consider that these other guys have used an equal amount of time learning how to be more social than you so that they can charm the girl ;) It's a shitty deal, but that's life.

 

For the record, this doesn't go for all women. I'm sure there are lots of great women out there who don't just look for the charmer. But it is a common thing in the online world. What can I say? Nice guys are boring.

amp-here

Feb 20, 2013

I've been there myself, if she's not interested or gives answers but doesn't seem like she wants to continue the conversation, I just delete it and move on to someone who does want to chat.

 

From what I've seen, people ask open-ended questions when they think you're really cute...and closed-ended-to-no questions and one-word answers when they've decided you're not physically attractive.

   Can you pull out of that when you're not physically attractive to the other person?  Sure...but you have to be laugh-out-loud funny.  "Cool jokes" that simply show you know about something or can trick someone, such as most of the jokes on these boards, don't count.

  A rare case is you meet the woman's potential love (often a guy stereotypically better looking than yourself) and run circles around the guy (doing things he tries to do, but can't...for example), making him act the fool, and look dominant over him.

  I have only had that happen twice but, when it happens, the woman will at least kiss you, if not ask you over for more.  People like handymen/bosses/personal-trainers IMO get more shots at the type of thing than others...but the occasional pick-up artist saying something like "I came in here to save you from making a big mistake with that older guy." -Top Gun might be able to pull it off.

amp-here

Feb 20, 2013

Then consider that these other guys have used an equal amount of time learning how to be more social than you so that they can charm the girl ;) It's a shitty deal, but that's life.

 

   Been saying this for ages.  Women who think they are actually helping men "get their @--es in gear" and be more productive are full of it: the work could ideally be better used at actually getting things done rather than creating "charm" presentations.

  But, apparently, most women prefer charm presentations...and I have a hunch low attention span/high impulsiveness, and not "fear of danger from men", is the root cause.  It's a problem echoed in how women usually shop for brand-name clothes without trying any alternatives: like Veruca Salt, they "want it now".

7Ataraxia

Feb 20, 2013

awkwardness? a better deal comes up?

Kair

Feb 20, 2013

Most interactions in life die after a few exchanges. What happens online is just an extension of the same phenomena. Take any given individual: Most people in the world are incompatible with him/her. Finding someone with whom you click, with whom you have a dynamic interaction that feeds of itself and nurtures each party, is very very hard.

Swampy65

Feb 20, 2013

The answer to why they die is simple:

Entropy.

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