Would you date somebody who was a virgin at the age of 25?

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shelly86

Jul 12, 2008

id definatly date someone...who would be so shallow as to not be interested in someone just because they were a virgin...or even to makw a big issue out of it..i mean if someone shy and not very confident there is something seriously worng with them that there are still a virgin??? thats not right..give ppl a chance..i dont mean to offend anyone and please correct me if im wrong but it is abig thing in america to loose your virginity early isnt it...even if their sex partner is not someone they even have any feelings towards.....

inmortal75

Jul 12, 2008

JM : It was implied by your statement, however, and I still maintain that your statement, "only a mental issue would prevent a 35 or 45 year old person from enjoying the feelings/sensations that having sex brings" implies that rape is more psychologically balanced than virginity.

In your twisted mind it clicks that way, but my statement does not "imply" that I am refering to that scenario.

 

JMStarling

Jul 12, 2008

^Now you're really baring your prejudices.

inmortal75

Jul 12, 2008

You are the one that has rape at the tip of the tongue and then dare express I am the one being judgemental.

classic

 

CodeNameJessa

Aug 10, 2008

"at 45? please. Mental issues more likely. How else can you not find in 45 years somebody "worthy"? Not have loved somebody with so much passion that you don't wish to seize her body? To not wish to get lost in the entanglelment? Feel the closeness that sex brings?"

 

You assume that being a virgin = not desiring sex.  That's not always the case.  Hell, there have been many a guy that I have wanted to "seize in passionate entanglement."....But it just hasn't happened for me yet.  It's not that I;m waiting for marriage, or for that super duper extra special person.  But, I do have standards, and I won't let any old joe that walks by stick it in :) :) :)

 

 

kutaly

Aug 10, 2008

Are gonna have these questions separately for age 20, age 21, age 22, age 23, age 24, age 26, age 27, age 28, age 29..... ?

organizizer

Aug 10, 2008

virgin at 25 does strongly tend to imply some issues.

 

multimeter

Aug 13, 2008

organizizer:

virgin at 25 does strongly tend to imply some issues.

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My ears are burning. :^D

As a 25-year-old virgin, I thought I'd chime in.

My question for everybody talking about issues: why do you assume all "issues" are permanent? I, personally, had a lot of intimacy and self-esteem issues when I was a teenager that made having sex an extremely bad idea for me. However, with the help of my friends and some therapy, I've worked through a great deal of it. I can socialize now in ways that were impossible for me a year ago.

I'm still a virgin, but then again, I've only been open to losing it for four months.

What scares me though, are people who think of people's mental health as "sane or insane"...

 

nygreen

Aug 30, 2008

For a guy, I'm not sure there need be any "issue" behind later-than-average virginity beyond shyness.  If you're a shy guy, you probably don't know many women, you don't try asking out many women, and women by and large don't ask guys out.  Nor is he going to "seize" somebody, whatever that means.

ShawnD

Aug 30, 2008

"My question for everybody talking about issues: why do you assume all "issues" are permanent?"

Depending on what the issue is, a lot of them are permanent. If the person is a virgin because they are partially autistic, that doesn't go away. One of my friends is probably a schizoid (we keep guessing what's wrong with him), and I'm fairly certain he will never change since I've known him for 10+ years and he's still really creepy. Even shyness doesn't go away in some people, or it takes a really long time.

 

I voted only if they would give it up. Shyness isn't so bad, but willingly being a virgin just doesn't match with what I'm looking for. If the person doesn't enjoy sex and has no interest, the relationship has no long term potential. It doesn't count as a fling either. That leaves dating out altogether and the person can be nothing more than a friend.

crabbie_patty

Aug 30, 2008

Sure.

Thogar

Aug 30, 2008

What scares me though, are people who think of people's mental health as "sane or insane"...

 

I know what you mean.  I don't know about you, but I've certainly never met a sane person before.

tstyron

Aug 30, 2008

Steveeatsbeef: I feel like saying "ditto" to that, JM.  My experience was that when you're in your 20s and still a virgin, isn't by choice but rather because you're so undesirable noone you know is desperate enough to touch you.

Ah, that explains all those sexual offers I've turned down.

danroche01

Aug 30, 2008

"virgin at 25 does strongly tend to imply some issues." You stupid people and your "morality" "issues", not wanting to lose your virginity at the first opportunity with the first person who comes your way...
Thogar

Aug 30, 2008

"virgin at 25 does strongly tend to imply some issues." You stupid people and your "morality" "issues", not wanting to lose your virginity at the first opportunity with the first person who comes your way...

There's a vast stretch of middle ground between "wanting to lose your virginity at all costs" and "pointlessly making yourself more frustrated and uptight for over a decade rather than accept that human beings have flaws", man.

DarthJesse

Aug 30, 2008

Is it that better than having being a single mom with 5 kids from 5 different fathers? 

humbugunlimited

Aug 30, 2008

^ Whereas having fathered five kids by different mothers doesn't matter?

kxrm

Aug 30, 2008

Sorry, but I was a virgin until 27, relationships just weren't a priority for me and the right person never came along.  I don't think I was or am a head case because of it.  I was just extremely shy.  I don't know why people place status on this really.  The only time it should enter into the picture is if you are the one having to commit to somebody in such a situation.  All other's opinions don't matter.

I don't judge anyone who loses thier virginity "early" so why judge me for doing it "late"?  Also I think the "only if they are willing to give it up" answer is kind of silly.  Of course they are going to give it up.  Maybe it should have said, "only if they aren't waiting for marriage".

Thogar

Aug 30, 2008

I don't judge anyone who loses there virginity "early" so why judge me for doing it "late"?

Precisely.

NewCaney

Aug 30, 2008

Is she a virgin because she is so ugly nobody would consider doing her, or is she hot and holding out?

either way I would probably do her.. as long as she did not tell anyone.

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