aliments

Dec 16, 2012

I noticed that more women than men on this site admit to having an Asian fetish. However, the most common interracial relationship in real life is between a white man and an Asian woman.


First off, it's not white men with yellow fever as much as it is "vanilla fever" on the part of Asian women (Disregard the fact that vanilla is actually black).

But I can see why a woman would admit to this fetish more readily than a man.

1) most guys with actual Asian fetishes (in contrast with simply being open to asian women) are creepy and socially inept.

2) guys on this site are always going to be more self conscious and careful about what they say, lest they drive off women with creepy behavior.

3) It's possible that some white girls are "in the know" about the racial dynamics of dating, so they emphasize their unique preference in order to get asian guys to message them.  (Normally, an asian guy may just assume that a white girl wouldn't be interested in them, and not bother messaging in the first place)

mintcandy

Dec 16, 2012

Oh, you silly Americans, and your assumption that Asia doesn't go further west than China.

I had the most wonderful time trolling a pushy Vietnamese girl when she claimed she wanted to visit "Asia". Apparently, Kazakhstan, Saudi Arabia and Pakistan aren't part of Asia of anymore. I'll have to remember to tell them that they got kicked out of the club.

pseupseudio

Dec 16, 2012

in order, that's central asia/turkic states (though i believe partially in eastern europe), middle east, south asia/indian subcontinent.

most people use "asia" to mean east and southeast asia, particularly when they're talking about ethnicity.

i don't think the average afghani would be confused by this usage.

aliments

Dec 16, 2012

"Asia" as it is is just a eurocentric construct. It was used to describe anything east of Greece. 

Europe itself is not a continent, and neither is Asia.  You can make a case for India being one, though. 

mintcandy

Dec 17, 2012

most people use "asia" to mean east and southeast asia, particularly when they're talking about ethnicity.

In the United States, maybe.

Can't tell you how many of my Indian peers get peeved when India is not included in the whole "Asian" label.

user458

Dec 17, 2012

Indians have their own label -- Indians. Native Americans no longer encroach on that. Give us yellower-people our all-encompassing label, plz.

mintcandy

Dec 17, 2012

Indians have their own label -- Indians. Native Americans no longer encroach on that. Give us yellower-people our all-encompassing label, plz.

I have, but I get very odd facial reactions when I start using 'the Golden Horde' to refer to east and southeast asians.

aliments

Dec 17, 2012

Indians have their own label -- Indians.

Not in the U.S.

 

Native Americans no longer encroach on that.

Just about everyone and their mother still refers to NAs as "Indians".  Where the fuck do you live? 

pseupseudio

Dec 17, 2012

perhaps that is because the golden horde had their genesis in a very specific subset of east asia, and in effect were primarily turkic?

user458

Dec 17, 2012

Where the fuck do you live? 

A better question is when.

ebb_isanalias

Dec 17, 2012

Indians have their own label -- Indians.

They have their own f**king ocean too.

Can't tell you how many of my Indian peers get peeved when India is not included in the whole "Asian" label.

They're probably just pissed because they don't have the whole damn continent too.

Actually it's just a physical appearance issue. Indians are not labeled "Asians" because they don't look  east/southeast Asian. Otherwise, white Russians living in eastern Russia could be called Asians too. The first Asians to immigrate to the U.S. in large numbers were the Chinese. Americans were just as bad at geography then as they are now, so, out of ignorance, they labeled them "Asians."  Anyone who looks Chinese is "Asian," like it or not.    

    I prefer to NOT like Asian guys because they remind me of my cousins and that's just an icky feeling.

That's like whites not liking whites for the same reason, but almost all whites would date their own...even if they are cousins.  Are you sure there isn't some self-loathing here? 


    (Normally, an asian guy may just assume that a white girl wouldn't be interested in them, and not bother messaging in the first place)

I think Asian guys will find that a lot of white girls are open to dating them, if they just make that first move.  That will leave more white guys available for the Asian girls to date...hey, it's a win-win!

corn_dog_soup

Dec 18, 2012

I don't like to yappity-yap yap about such stuff all that much, but I typically don't find myself all that attracted to Asian women. 

Nyamuk

Dec 18, 2012

That's like whites not liking whites for the same reason, but almost all whites would date their own...even if they are cousins. 

Relevant.

Chaeddd

Dec 19, 2012

It is technically impossible to have an Asian fetish.

Asians are humans, so being attracted to them is normal. To have a fetish one must be interested in something weird.

pseupseudio

Dec 19, 2012

that is not the definition of a fetish, asshole.

fetish is essentially sexual synecdoche. if your sexual drive substitutes a conception of "asian" for the reality and fullness of a person in the process of pursuing desire, you have a fetish.

uachuriliuant

Dec 20, 2012

What about Nordic fever? Do men who only date women with blonde hair and blue eyes also have a fetish?

rip59

Dec 20, 2012

Nordics, Aryans and descendants of Leif Erickson are no longer welcome here sir. 

Chaeddd

Dec 20, 2012

"if your sexual drive substitutes a conception of "asian" for the reality and fullness of a person in the process of pursuing desire, you have a fetish."

Asian people have the reality and fullness of a person, why? because they are people.

Nyamuk

Dec 20, 2012

What he means is if you see a person as a set of physical characteristics first and a person second (or not at all) you have a fetish.

Not all people who date outside of their race have fetishes. Some do. 

pseupseudio

Dec 20, 2012

i shouldn't be surprised that this dude managed to interpret what i said in an exactly backwards fashion, but thank you for clearing it up regardless.

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