smashingmayo

Dec 22, 2012

well if he's as crazy as the average woman, they constantly contradict what they say after breakups. (or before or during relationships or any other time in life, actually)
stuckinitaly

Dec 22, 2012

looks like you're in a pickle.

why did he convince you to leave your old job?

why did you listen to him?

you NEVER should quit a job until you have a new job in place.

Maybe he wanted you entirely dependant on him ( a control tactic ) so you couldn't just go.

as for living with him, you broke up in FEb, so 10 months ago!?

you need to go, and go fast.

go to your parents, regoup, and get on with your life.

don't have the money to get there, MAKE HIM PAY FOR THE TRIP, least he could do. if not ask your parents.

a man like this will never change, and the fact that he slept around once, means he'll do it again when the next better thing comes around.

don't waste your time.

and while still there, no free sex.

Go to your parents,give your head a shake, and get back on track,

good luck.

tudorspace

Dec 23, 2012

#1 is to make some money. Manufacture/sell drugs, sell pussy (yours or some other girls), start a business, rob a house, whatever. Just make money.

Miss-Music

Dec 26, 2012

^^All kinds of this.

Why on earth would you move across the country to get a fast food job? And then quit said job because a man told you to?

PLEASE move out of that house. There is zero reason for you to be there. If you broke up 10 months ago...you can't get any sort of a job in 10 months??????

Go home to your parents, and learn from this. Learn you need to find a career. Learn you shouldn't move if your not financially able to take care of yourself. Learn that a man convincing you to leave a job for no reason is a control tactic. Learn, and this will all be worth it. If you continue to not be a responsible adult, this will happen again.

smashingmayo

Dec 26, 2012

Ha. gotta love music lady baffled by everyone except herself when she makes some mighty odd decisions.
phyxius

Dec 29, 2012

Feel fortunate. My ex just sent a tag request on facebook to label one of my photos "I beat women". I think she blames me because our son has disowned her.

missdewey

Dec 29, 2012

This sounds like a really crappy situation, honestly, you should be doing everything you can to get out of there.  What it sounds like is that he cheated on you because you (for whatever reason he may or may not give) were not good enough for him, and left you to try to pursue something more with the girl he cheated on you with. When that didn't work out, he is likely lonely and seeking your companionship (which you really shouldn't give). When I say companionship, by the way, this could be platonic or intimate, it's hard to say until he brings it up.

I think the fact that he brought up a sex story of yours during a conversation means he's been thinking about it, and wants you to think about it. He sounds like a complete loser, and you need to get back home as soon as you can. You can move on with your life, and be happy, and this can absolutely be achieved without him.

 

Whenever you start to think that it's okay to get closer to him, remember that he cheated on you and dumped you for that girl.

You were engaged, ffs.

Do not be a part of that, he does not deserve you.

MsOtis

Dec 29, 2012

She's going to take him back, even though there's some very good advice in this thread.

She already knows she shouldn't.

She's stringing it out as long as she can

although

she hasn't posted lately.

 

...

 

...

 

 

They're probably doing it, right this minute.

 

 

 

 

missdewey

Dec 29, 2012

/sigh

Kids these days.

stuckinitaly

Jan 1, 2013

yeah well, MsO, you may be right.

I too was one of those silly girls, all the good advice went in one ear and out the other.

She needs to grow up, stop letting her heart rule over her brain.

Some need to learn the hard way.

again

and again

and again

until one day while wallowing in self pitty, she asks herself "WHY DOES THIS ALWAYS HAPPEN TO ME????" and takes action in correcting it.

 

OP take charge of your life.

some of us older ladies have been there done that, shame you don't take our wisdom.............

hey, maybe she's on an Amtrack as we speak?

maybe her folks don't have internet

hoping for the best

and would like to hear how OP is doing, please let us know.

 

 

Miss-Music

Jan 2, 2013

I really can't agree more that until people decide to really change, they are going to keep landing in the same relationship situations and ask why.

In the last year I realized that the issue was with me - what I put up with, what I expected, who I loved, how I loved, what I did in my life...and it took a lot to change, and I stumbled some and will stumble more - but you are all 100% right in saying nothing will change until she is good and ready.

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