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I dont mind a person's race but I will say those with a culturally diverse background strike my fancy as being interesting, for sure. Race doesn't really occur to me unless a person of said race is keeping to some silly stereotype for approval. (i.e. black guys like rap and thusly have demo CDs, Mexican guys have to keep 'machismo' and be emotionally void) I feel that if one feels they have to act a certain way because of the color of their skin or to be socially accepted by the standards set by their peers then that's not who you are.

I find it different, however, to be proud of your heritage and culture. I think that is awesome. I learned a lot from dating a Croatian guy, a Vietnamese chick, a French woman, etc.

I dont think it matters at all....as long as they are a cool person that i'm attracted to....

Actually, it's not really about dating, but I thought you might find this and especially this interesting. :-) (Edit: Oh, and this is very relevant.)

@Elle: I'm so glad you brought it up with exact numbers. I often wonder what impact this under-representation (and especially the often highly stereotyped representation) of non-white people has on us. I mean, the effects of seeing few African Americans (or black people in general) are obviously going to be different for you and me, but I cannot but think that it affects us all. (And I don't think the argument "It's fairly accurate for the US distribution" holds much merit. US culture is globally exported, and shapes beliefs and conceptions in other countries as well. I volunteer as a point in case.) Actually, there is a whole lot of research out there showing that it does, but it's very hard to predict in which way – and anyway, I am quite sure soon someone's going to butt in and say s_he's not influenced by the media at all.

I looked at the links you provided, especially the one you pointed at - the one where "white" people's reaction was less negative towards minorities that less strongly identified with their communities. There are multiple problems with those studies.

For starters, the specific contention would be true for most people looking at certain racial / ethnic groups. I mean, if I knew a "white" person strongly identified with the idea of "whiteness" and wore KKK logos, I would be uncomfortable around that person (given that such people usually are racially motivated). The same would apply with an AA guy who sported black panther logos. But that might not be as true if a Chinese-American guy ate at only Chinese restaurants, and attended Shaolin kung fu class.

Second, they studied only AAs and latinos (I mean are these social "scientists" blind to the fact that there are other minorities that exist - what kind of a scientist looks at a graph with two points and says - "Oh, what do you know, they lie in a straight line !" ?). In the US at least, these two communities have the lowest levels of economic advancement / educational achievement (that is just a fact). So, how do they remove any pure racial feeling, from a class-related issue, especially given the stereotypes ? They can't, because apparently in academic social science "research" (if it can be dignified by that name), you basically have people wasting research dollars while acting like six blind men around an elephant.

I somehow doubt that the reactions would have been equally strong if they had looked at Asians or Indians, who equally strongly identified with their respective communities.

Regarding your last link, I have to admit that talking about race makes me uncomfortable (but I do enjoy this exchange since there is an argument involved here - and my love of argument is greater than any distaste for the topic). I personally think that while there are racial/ethnic correlations in lots of things, and bias / prejudice exist (and not just among "white" people), far too many politicians, "academics" and "thinkers" spend too much time obsessing about it (and only about certain kinds of biases - while others, like the very strong AA-latino racial/ethnic issue is quietly swept under the carpet).

In my opinion, economic class is a much bigger divide in the American society, especially given the decreased social mobility due to the accelerating loss of the productive base of the economy since the mid 90s.

And yes, US culture is globally exported and that is poor argument for changing the representation of people in it. It grew up and still thrives in a certain cultural mileu. An art form cannot be expected to simply acquire artificial characteristics just because its marketing has been a runaway success. I mean, do you seriously expect Hollywood to put one Indian and one Chinese in every group of 6 actors, because that is roughly the breakdown of world population ?

That argument would equally well apply to the much bigger Bollywood which is also becoming a global force nowadays. However, I am yet to hear anyone seriously suggest that they should give up the long dance and song sequences and gaudy costumes (though it would make watching the otherwise largely plotless and predictable Bollywood movies bearable for me - there are honourable exceptions to this, but those movies I consider good almost never seem to do well at the Indian box office.).

I have been in relationships and had relations with women of many ethnicity's and races and am totally open to it all.  You never know were youl find love and its always refreshing to get different perspectives of different people.  And every one shows there affection differently.

I'd like to start off by saying i like your face :) so it's all good

Personally for me, I'm already mixed. So I've kind of been taught that it doesn't matter what race you are if you like someone you like someone. But I'm mostly interested in white guys. But that's NEVER stop me from replying to all sorts of different people.

It's pretty much how you were raised which affects your judgement of people

^ Great job failing at reading comprehension you fucking cunt. You have no clue what I said, do you? Kill yourself.

I'm gonna post it one more time, so everyone else can see what an idiot you are:

xJealousOrchard you look like you need some therapy lol.

Right. You are the one saying shit like this:

Indian and Asian guys are small and that is just the way it is.

And IM the one who needs therapy? Jesus Fucking Christ I hope you are a troll.

In order for you to even MAKE such an outlandish statement, you would have had to personally fuck hundreds upon hundreds of Indian and Asian men. While the odds of you being a whore are pretty good, I highly doubt you have done this. You are an imbecile who bases their "facts" on stereotypes, plain and simple.

Fuck, I should not even be wasting my time trying to reason with you, as you are most likely a troll. No teacher can be THIS FUCKING idiotic, it's depressing even to think about.

I am kind of going to reiterate what someone else said. I think race does play a role in how interested I am in someone initially, but I wouldn't not reply based upon race. I would definetly carry on a conversation and see where things went. I'd even meet up and if the chemistry isn't there, than at least I end up with a new friend!

I don't need to fuck half the men (or 4" half men lol) to find out what I know srsly. I like black guys. (Not girls lol).

LEMME SPELL IT OUT FOR YOU, YOU CUNT-FACED CUMBUCKET BITCH.

"WHAT YOU KNOW" IS AN OPINION BASED ON STEREOTYPES AND SOME PICTURE YOU'VE SEEN ON THE INTERNET.

IN ORDER FOR YOU TO MAKE THE STATEMENT "ALL INDIAN AND ASIAN MEN HAVE SMALL DICKS, HERP DERP" YOU WOULD HAVE HAD TO FUCK HUNDREDS UPON HUNDREDS UPON HUNDREDS OF INDIAN AND ASIAN MEN, VERIFIED THAT EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM HAD TINY DICKS, AND THEN MAYBE YOU COULD POSSIBLY MAKE A VALID CASE AS TO WHY YOU THINK ALL INDIAN AND ASIAN MEN HAVE SMALL PENISES. IT'S CALLED STATISTICS.

YOU DON'T FUCKING "KNOW" ANYTHING FOR SURE UNLESS YOU'VE DONE THAT.

IF I WANTED TO SAY, "OH, I DON'T EAT GRANNY SMITH APPLES BECAUSE THEY ALL HAVE WORMS IN THEM. I MEAN, ONE TIME I BIT INTO ONE AND THERE WAS A WORM IN IT, PLUS MY FRIEND SAID THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO HER SISTER ONE TIME. SO OBVIOUSLY ALL GRANNY SMITH APPLES HAVE WORMS IN THEM. I KNOW SRSLY." I WOULD BE A COMPLETE FUCKING IDIOT BECAUSE THERE IS NO WAY I COULD MAKE THAT KIND OF STATEMENT UNLESS I BIT INTO HUNDREDS UPON HUNDREDS UPON HUNDREDS OF GRANNY SMITH APPLES AND EACH AND EVERY  G O D D A M N E D ONE OF THEM HAD WORMS IN THEM.

HOW FUCKING IMBECILIC CAN YOU BE, GODFUCKINGDAMNIT. I AM GOING TO FUCKING MURDER YOU IN YOUR SLEEP.

xJealousOrchard.  You bite into a zillion green apples to prove that they are not that sweet lol ? Does it bother you that I like black men ? There is plenty to go around.

Deffiently would not reject a person by their race, but personality! c :