tiki876

Mar 18, 2013

tell them sister!

Happyness4Evar

Mar 18, 2013

I think what's needed is to be more open-minded here. Yeah, it's easy to fall back on the sexist excuses, and I was kinda expecting them, but you can be a better person than that.

From this line alone, OP is either a troll or just plain stupid. Also lolshaminglanguage.

I have a suggestion; you guys who feel that men absolutely can't get the same response rates ED is suggesting, pick ten women's profiles, and send the links to ED. ED composes messages to send to those ten women. You send them, unadulterated, and report back on your response rate.

I'd upload pictures and fill out a profile just to test it.

ExtremeDating

Mar 18, 2013

^now that IS some vindictive butthurt.

By the way, what is a rape apologist? I've never encountered a man whom apologizes for the rape another man committed. I don't recall seeing anything of the sort on this forum. No doubt, most men will agree that rape is a crime that should be prevented and punished. That's not tantamount to an apology, though.

Sounds like lolhysteria to me.

But wait! There is hope. You can be not-lolhysterical. Whenever you want to blame an entire indiscriminate portion of society for your woes---don't.

Remember, only you can prevent lolhysteria.

Do they even have Smokey Bear outside of the U.S.? They should. Smokey Bear is badass.

Even though you're a bitter misogynist, rape apologist, and MRA gunslinger, some of your posts are pretty amusing -- my fav so far being the one in Profile Suggestions about the guy and his car.

MsOtis

Mar 19, 2013

It's sort of too bad that the good advice gets ignored in the effort to shoot the messenger.

 

xJealousOrchard

Mar 19, 2013

Hmm... this guy must be doin' it ri---

OP is a girl

LOL

Edit: Skimmed the thread. Apparently OP is a sock. Carry on.

MsOtis

Mar 19, 2013

OP is a girl. There's a big difference.

ExtremeDating, you'll be glad to know that I worked 'lolearnest' into three conversations today on the boards, and also used it in the "let's write a nice story" thread on Unmitigated Drama.

Just doing my bit to spread your good advice.

 

Camuscando

Mar 20, 2013

Internet terminology always sounds like verbal vomit when I try to read it aloud, but if you're referencing something pretty abhorrent with it then I guess it's an appropriate characteristic.

WskyTangoFoxtrot

Mar 20, 2013

So you're pickier online than in real life? Or you're using a filter upfront in real life which you're not using online?

In both my standards and who I am it is the same online as IRL. Therefore it is not me being pickier online.  Think about it this way a woman online may be comparing profiles and emails to the best profiles out of 1,000s and waiting for the profile (could be fake) of the doctor with the male model looks to email.  

Out in the real world being the best available in that social setting is the result of being compared to a much smaller number and none of your competition can fake it on a grand scale like online. 

Also online it is similar to the economics of supply and demand.  A limited number on one side and an excess on the other. Similar to the real estate market in areas of LA.  Sellers know there are not as many homes for sale right now and a lot of buyers so they all think they are worth $300 a sq/ft but nobody is buying it because they are selling closer to $200. 

Overall I think it is a different ball of wax online because many regardless of gender are operating with fantasy standards and not their real world set.


Sushibitch

Mar 20, 2013

In both my standards and who I am it is the same online as IRL. Therefore it is not me being pickier online.

But you said when you read someone's profile, you often find yourself thinking they're a PITA, right? Could that be because they're saying things in their profiles that they wouldn't say (at least on first meeting) in person?

Think about it this way a woman online may be comparing profiles and emails to the best profiles out of 1,000s and waiting for the profile (could be fake) of the doctor with the male model looks to email. 

And that's equally true of men, right? They too are comparing profiles and emails to the best out of thousands, and possibly waiting for a response from the (possibly fake) profile of the supermodel whose father owns a pub, right?

Out in the real world being the best available in that social setting is the result of being compared to a much smaller number and none of your competition can fake it on a grand scale like online.

OK; so perhaps that's why you feel like the women you meet in real life are of a higher quality than the women you meet on OKC; because in real life you're comparing a smaller pool?


Also online it is similar to the economics of supply and demand.  A limited number on one side and an excess on the other. Similar to the real estate market in areas of LA.  Sellers know there are not as many homes for sale right now and a lot of buyers so they all think they are worth $300 a sq/ft but nobody is buying it because they are selling closer to $200.

But in this case, that doesn't seem to be working; if it were, surely you'd value women on OKC more highly than women in real life, since you seem to be better able to meet women in real life than here?


Overall I think it is a different ball of wax online because many regardless of gender are operating with fantasy standards and not their real world set.

But you feel that applies to other people, and not to you?

WskyTangoFoxtrot

Mar 20, 2013

But in this case, that doesn't seem to be working

Actually it is a perfect example.  They place a higher value on the home than what it is actually yielding in the market.  Much as many in the online gender minority think they are a much hotter commodity than in IRL.   

With the real estate some foolishly buy anyway.  Others wait for a better opportunity or a different market.

Online she may be closer to that pedestal in the mind of those without as much free time to spend or social skills to use in IRL settings.  Others will push away from the PC and head out as opposed to dealing with the stagflation. 

 

But you feel that applies to other people, and not to you?

 

I know it does not apply to me.  I know myself and while I can't speak for every other individual I have observed the overall trend.

lolearnest or earnest...LOL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-uHMENLC3M

Sushibitch

Mar 20, 2013

I know it does not apply to me.  I know myself and while I can't speak for every other individual I have observed the overall trend.

But you do know that every person you've observed that trend in thinks the same thing, right? That it only applies to other people and not them?

ebb_isanalias

Mar 20, 2013

Yeah, but often women get blamed for the dating asymmetry. We could just as easily blame pathetic men.

You can't really blame women for the dating asymmetry. They have the advantage partly because men  hand it to them. Why should women not capitalize on that?  It's the same reason why men pee standing up...because they can. Of course, it would be thoughtful of them to feel a woman's burden and squat to pee. But, you really can't blame them for taking advantage.

Invisible_Hand

Mar 20, 2013

She's right. I just did this and had 10 of 12 answered in the last two days. Okay, really need to sign off. 

arapacis

Mar 20, 2013

This whole thread is lolearnest. (Thanks for bringing me here Hand)

I think Han said it best. "Keep your distance, but don't look like you're keeping your distance..." "Fly casual." But then, he was Solo.

Damn, that Sock is pretty. Anyone GIS that and see if there's noodz in the set?

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