amp-here

Jul 23, 2013

but disproportionately message those towards the top end

This has been discussed before.  Likely reason: many men come on here not to date seriously, but to cast a lot of lines and see what happens, figuring if they, say, each message 100 attractive women, at least one will take the bait for a FWB situation.  I've known people who admit to doing that...the important thing is, it's not about dating, but hook-ups.

 

So that whole "the top few get most of the attention and the rest get almost none" is much more true of men's messages to women than vice versa

   Still, it's quite true to *both* sexes.  Also, the survey appears to rate messages in terms of percentages, not wrote numbers.

  So, for all we know, the least attractive men could be getting 1 message every couple of weeks (including responses along with first messages sent to them) while the least attractive females could be getting 10 (IMO, quite a decent amount already)...even if the most attractive women may be getting some insane 200 or more per week (also see, complaints from women of full inboxes).   Judging from what I've heard on the forums, it's not uncommon at all for a man to get 1-2 messages every few weeks or even a quite overweight and odd-looking female to get over 10 per couple of weeks.

Sushibitch

Jul 23, 2013

Still, it's quite true to *both* sexes.

But much more so of men writing to women than of women writing to men; you seemed to think it was more typical of women writing to men.

So, for all we know, the least attractive men could be getting 1 message every couple of weeks (including responses along with first messages sent to them)

Don't any of the other OK Trends articles deal with actual numbers? At any rate, they say short messages from men to women (which have the worst reply rate overall) still have a response rate around 20%.

also see, complaints from women of full inboxes

You've mentioned that before, but when I asked you for examples, you could only come up with women complaining about getting too many crappy messages, not women complaining about getting too many messages overall.

Judging from what I've heard on the forums, it's not uncommon at all for a man to get 1-2 messages every few weeks

I don't know whether the forums are representative of most OKC users though.

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