Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color / racial background?

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MetroTonPanton

Sep 16, 2013

@colorsWolf

I think that in order to understand human beings you have to acknowledge that human beings, to various degrees, care about race. That idea has motivated people a lot and it has resulted in bad, neutral or good results. Also, in certain circumstances, skin color is a reasonably good proxy for cultural proximity. Of course, in some other circumstances, it isn't. It's a complex question.


OctoberTens

Sep 24, 2013

If I were a merman, I would be totally into mermaids only.

I'ld Be like: Dat flipper. Ungh. 

Hey baby where did your parents spawn?

Hells yeah. Like a boss.

That being said, I don't think I would care if mermaid in question were a saltwater mermaid or a freshwater mermaid.

Are there freshwater mermaids?

Rather, if merfolk were real could there be freshwater merfolk?

The mind boggles. Also Daryl Hannah is the only reason I ever watched "Splash".

 

Mmm dat flipper.

:)

Tulefel

Oct 6, 2013

Yes, I strongly prefer merfolk, they are cooler, that’s why. Yellow submarine… Catty Sark… Naiads and Nereids… feels like my element.

 :)

Quid_Malmborg

Oct 6, 2013

The mind boggles. Also Daryl Hannah is the only reason I ever watched "Splash".

That and John Candy speaking Swedish.

lysol623

Oct 13, 2013

I think the wording of this question should be changed. Take out the strongly prefer part. The intent is for people to see who will date interracially but most people don't strongly prefer anything.

aliments

Oct 21, 2013

 

"Would you like to go out with some one of your own cultural background?"

That's a much harder question to answer, though, seeing as culture is very poorly defined, whereas race is usually immediately visible at a glance, and is very well defined for people who aren't complete retards (aka who can tell between Asian and native American, or black/Indian). 

Also, as far as the racial question goes, I think it'd make a ton more sense if it were changed to "What races are you willing to date?"  As of now, the question is basically only useful when looking at white women, and some white men. 

manipulapril

Oct 21, 2013

i loathe whities.

ebb_isanalias

Oct 22, 2013

So white women are the biggest impediment to improving race relations, huh?

KLex-nim

Oct 22, 2013

Yes, I would whole heartedly agree to a question that says "What races are you willing to date"  In my heart of hearts I'm really starting to feel that OkCupid should change its name to OkCaucasian lol.  Because it really appears that the new trend that I am seeing over and over at the end of profiles says "No black guys" or "I prefer white guys only". I'm not really mad, because you like what you like, but I WOULD like a way to have that weeded out because I'm tired of spending 10 minutes reading a profile only to see "No blacks" at the end OR waste an additional 10 minutes coming up with a message only to have absolutely no chance because my race is already a filter. Successful black women, I'm talking about you ;)

GimmeThaLoot

Oct 23, 2013

I feel like a disproportionate number of women here on this site are naggers.

RandomImpulse

Dec 28, 2013

I really don't like this question, it makes people sound racist.

I do prefer going out with my own race, because that's what I'm most attracted to. Of course, answering "no" to this question makes me look like an ass.

It "sounds" racist because it IS coming from a racist place.  Your preferences are your preferences, and nobody can tell you you should change them.  But to deny that they come from a racist part of your mindset is absurd.

Many people have varying amounts of racism in their psyches.  If you really don't like being in any way racist, then change it.  If you don't want to or can't, then accept it, don't try to deny a part of yourself because you are ashamed of it.

ArtHouseAddict

Dec 29, 2013

I wish that questions like this one actually factored in to Quiver matches. Most of my Quiver matches are with white women who "strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color / racial background." I honestly am not bothered by those who prefer such (you have a right to your preference), but matching me up with someone who won't go out with me is pretty useless.

Thirdeyeblindxo

Dec 29, 2013

It is not a racist question at all. You can't help what you're attracted too, wired that way. 

I did answer 'yes' to the particular question, as humans we are natural attracted to people similar to us so I would prefer someone my own race. 

I do find a lot of Indian men attractive but would not date them due to culture differences and would be more comfortable with someone similar to myself . 

It also saves people more time by saying what you're looking for. We are on a dating site full of people we can afford to be picky . 

RandomImpulse

Dec 29, 2013

Whether or not you can help it is irrelevant to whether or not it is racist.  A part of your internal psyche is evaluating all races besides your own as inherently less desirable as potential partners.  That's textbook racism.  Maybe it came from your upbringing or environment, and is so ingrained that you can't help it.  That doesn't make it not racism.

Now I'm not going to tell you its your responsibility to 'fix' that.  It's your right to be attracted to whatever you want, nobody can tell you otherwise.  Not everyone has to be the perfect 100% un-racist saint of interracial relations.  But trying to deny that this comes from a racist part of yourself is delusional.

empirestv007

Dec 30, 2013

I have seen other questions that are more blunt on this question.  When answering this question it begs for an explanation and if someone doesn't explain their answers then that is on them.  By taking the dozen or so questions that circle around this race issue the person looking at the profile can get a better idea of that person.  A person's racist ideology can influence who they are attracted to even at the subconcious level.  A person's desire for their race or outside their race can influence their racial ideology.  So, its a case by case basis that requires an interrogation of the profile user.

 

Jim_fromspace

Dec 30, 2013

I think it's weird that according to the stats it's all white women putting they only like us, because pretty much all media about interracial couples since Guess Who's Coming to Dinner has been about white female and "other" male. I think it must just be an American thing.

MetroTonPanton

Dec 30, 2013

@empirestv :

the vast majority of couples in the usa and north america are intraracial, so people preferring to mate with people of their own racial group is banal and the standard. Who are you to "interrogate" the vast majority of couples ? lol.

As for Europe, I'm guessing that even though the borders are open between a lot of those countries, the vast majority of the French are marrying fellow French and the same can be said for the Germans, Spaniards etc. Even within races people prefer the familiar so it's not surprising that between races people would prefer the familiar.

In any case, just how much racism is measured by that question is unclear. I'm sure that my white ex gf would have answered YES to that question and would still answer the same way.

 

empirestv007

Jan 1

MetroTonPanton: Pew research determined that 8.4% of marriages are interracial but that 15.1% of new marriages were interracial as of 2010.  While the trend is positive only a small minority of marriages in the US are interracial.  The percentage in Mexico is small at around 5% between Mexicans and Asians.  So, that needs some backing up.

People are not likely to admit they are a racist to a prospective date.  So, in order to dig that out of them it requires lengthy interviews and probing to discover it.  

 

empirestv007

Jan 1

Jim_fromspace:I think Hollywood realizes that white men with minority women threatens the status of white women which is a strong tv demographic.  

 

trish6912

Jan 2

but more often than not TV interracial couples are white men and black women, so that shoots your theory all to hell.

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