Tulefel

Feb 17, 2013

Today I saw my friend whose birthday is next week. He will be 92.

He was a good friend to me when no-one else was. Age didn't matter.

 

For being friends – no, age doesn’t matter.

 

Tulefel

Feb 17, 2013

Women who are quite a bit younger than me, say around 17 or so, are pretty awful for the most part.

 

Women around 17, as well as men of that age, are not women and men strictly speaking. They are teenagers. Their bodies may look like adults’, but their brain isn’t mature yet. Takes some time, I’m afraid. Experience of decisions and losses, of falls and raises, of fire, water and victorious trumpets.

 

Intense_City

Feb 17, 2013

Youth is wasted on the young.

unassuming_guy

Feb 17, 2013

Wealth is wasted on the rich.

rustydov

Feb 17, 2013

"Experience of decisions and losses, of falls and raises, of fire, water and victorious trumpets."

Is this a quote? It is very poetic.

 

 

 

I read the entire thread with interest. IMHO this thread isn't about "dating" as much as it is about your hope for a "lasting" relationship. If you go into a relationship with this man, holding the idea of it being your last, best hope for "forever after" you will, quite likely, be disappointed.  If you go into it with the idea that each of you will grow, enjoy, and part in an attitude of respect and with memories worth holding, each of you will have become richer for the experience.

rubyhat

Feb 17, 2013

If you go into it with the idea that each of you will grow, enjoy, and part in an attitude of respect and with memories worth holding, each of you will have become richer for the experience.

I think I am richer for having read this. Thank you.
Tulefel

Feb 18, 2013

Youth is wasted on the young.

 

Wisdom is wasted on the old :)

 

Tulefel

Feb 18, 2013

Wealth is wasted on the rich.

 

Poverty is wasted on the stupid?

 

Tulefel

Feb 18, 2013

 

 

Is this a quote? It is very poetic.

 

Well… thank you. And yes, it’s a quote, but not as such. I’ve combined it of my experience of my decisions and losses. And consequences. And gains. And values.

 

What I could read from profiles, people often complain about the options given in “Questions”. “It’s not that straightforward”, “It’s not that obvious”, “There are exclusions”, “The first doesn’t exclude the other” etc (and they answer nonetheless). “Hell, it is!” – I say. There are no exclusions. And it is straightforward. In the real life you more often than not have to choose between bad and worst. You can’t comment. You can’t explain. You can’t draw anyone in the fall, when and if… You make your choice and take consequences. You are “dead and naked”. And completely on your own. In short: the optimum, given time and space and means available.

 

“Don’t tell how many times you’ve fallen. Tell how many times you’ve raised.” (Only last time counts, is my guess.)

 

“Fire, water and …” is a name of an old Soviet film for children based on Russian folklore (wonderful actors, old school). The hero – a (young, smart and, yes, handsome) man had to go through a lot of hardship in order to gain a right to propose to a young, beautiful king’s (tsar’s) daughter. He managed everything but fame: victorious trumpets. I believe, there is Western version of the theme: to kill the drake.

 

And then I prefer books: “Bookish children

 

PS Previously in this thread, it was discussed that a younger partner indicates the power and significance of the older partner. I don’t compete with anyone, but myself. My shortcomings, laziness and slentrianism. When, and if, I manage to overcome those, it wouldn’t be because of a younger partner. It would be because I’ve managed it. On my own. As naked and dead as I am. No index needed.

Thank you.

 

 

Swampy65

Feb 18, 2013

Did you at least get a dinner out of him?

 

Tulefel

Feb 18, 2013

I'm not hungry.

unassuming_guy

Feb 18, 2013

Well, now what happened with the boinking vs. non-boinking
vs. je-ne-sais-quoi?

We need some specific details here

Tulefel

Feb 22, 2013

Encounter “bonking” vs “no bonking” (as you nicely put it) always loses to romance (as a very young man with my favourite shape of ears once put it).

 

But nonetheless, thank you for the link. It’s very sexy indeed. My answer would be rather melancholic, sorry for that.

 

lydiaravens

Mar 20, 2013

for me a much older woman dating a younger man doesn't seem like it would work, almost sounds more like the woman is trying too hard.  hate to say but to me this is one of those times where it should go one way.  older men dating younger women makes more sense.  for me i don't even like guys my own age 90% of the time, i like guys 30-50, so long as they don't look super young or super old, i like maturity.

gushgush99

Mar 21, 2013

13 year age gap here

corn_dog_soup

Mar 21, 2013

^ You have one year left, and mayo will swipe her from you.

Tulefel

Mar 22, 2013

older men dating younger women makes more sense.

 

Would you like to elaborate this statement? To whom it would make more sense and why?

 

ladycunegonde

Apr 5, 2013

I was thinking the same thing Tulefel

And half of the emails I get are from 20 somethings so I'm thinking there must be some new Cougar/Grannie fetish going on that no one told me about.

Tulefel

Apr 6, 2013

And half of the emails I get are from 20 somethings so I'm thinking there must be some new Cougar/Grannie fetish going on that no one told me about.

 

Don’t know whether it’s fetish, but there certainly is some kind of trend. Have talked about it with my friend, who is 20 years older than I am, she told that when she was in late forties-early fifties, she got a lot of attention from younger men. So it’s not a new trend.

 

I can see the objectives for it. A man in his early thirties doesn’t want (yet) to start a family and get children. A woman in my age doesn’t want (already) to start a family and her children are adult. We have a common goal: to spend pleasant time together here and now, no future planned, no responsibilities, no obligations. Simple and convenient.

 

Given that younger women are not in hurry to respond to mating song from younger men and older men are hunting younger women, older women and younger men are just pushed towards each other.  :)

 

ladycunegonde

Apr 6, 2013

Interesting take on it Tulefel. I think you might be right. Thanks

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