Would you date someone who doesn't own a car?

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SpicyLunch

Apr 21, 2008

Do they just choose not to own one for some reason or are they poor, does it matter to you? What about in a city with good mass transit?

HighKey

Apr 21, 2008

I wouldn't date anyone who lives in a city with good mass transit, either.

 

Because that would mean they lived too far away from me.

themonbon

Apr 21, 2008

If the person lives close and/or pitches in for gas or pays for dinner when I'm driving, that's cool.

Cowman715

Apr 21, 2008

Mmhmm! I love driving in general, and there is nothing better then having a girl hold your hand on the shifter while you're driving :)

Tits_Mcgee86

Apr 21, 2008

It would become annoying.

Thogar

Apr 21, 2008

Note that it doesn't say the other person can't drive - just that they don't own a car.

beelicious

Apr 21, 2008

Naturally, I'd date a girl who doesn't own a car. I don't have one either. It limits the the possible choice of partners, but I live in a large town - which is still better than living in a shithole and needing a car to get anywhere.

RabbitMage

Apr 21, 2008

I know some people do-but I can't imagine living in this city and NOT having a car. Our only mass-transit option is the bus, and they're really not that great.

The only folks I know personally who don't have cars rely on mommy and daddy to take them everywhere-and when you're in your early 20's that just becomes kind of silly, IMO.

magical8ball

Apr 21, 2008

From what I've seen on here....  Most guys will date a gal without a vehicle, most gals will not date a guy who doesn't have a vehicle.

/shrug

I personally don't mind, if they have their way to get around thats cool, if not thats something I can easily live with. Will I be their ride everywhere they wanna go? Nope. Would I expect a gal to cart me around if we were dating and I didn't have a vehicle, absolutely not.

That been said I know alot of guys who've been dumped or turned away for not having/losing their vehicle.

jazzymas

Apr 21, 2008

That question is a smokescreen for the real question which is: "Are you an extremely superficial individual?"  So in answer to the latter question:  yes I would date someone who doesn't have a car.

atomicturtle

Apr 21, 2008

No. And I'd publicly ridicule them.

The bus is for losers.

themonbon

Apr 21, 2008

"No. And I'd publicly ridicule them. The bus is for losers."

 

And somehow, none of us is the least bit surprised.

atomicturtle

Apr 21, 2008

In all seriousness though, public transportation is kind of a joke.

I mean, the greatest modern convenience is personal transportation. It allows you the freedom to traverse great distances (with materials, no less) on your own schedule. If you're one of those PT-worshipping jackasses, you have to live your life around the bus schedule.

For instance, when I lived in Seattle, I'd occassionally ride the commuter train to work (only if I knew I didn't have to go anywhere that day). But riding the train kind of sucked because A) I had to go to it, and it would only take me to a drop-off point - not to my actual destination; and (more importantly) B) because it locked your whole day away. Suppose I got a call from a friend at noon wanting to get drinks at the bar across the street after work? Nope, can't. Gotta catch that last train before it leaves.

And god forbid there was an emergency during the day. If your school were to call you at work saying that your kid had to go to the hospital, what - are you going to stand around and wait for the right bus that'll take you across town?

The problem with public transportation is that you have to become a slave to it - to its locations, and its schedules. It's a nice idea in theory, but in practical application, public transporation is pretty much useless.

We don't live in tiny little towns where all our needs are on one street anymore. Everything is spread out. We've got commerical centers that are separate from our suburban living centers. Personal transportation is pretty much a necessity in any metropolis.

Thogar

Apr 21, 2008

Except London, where if anyting it's considerably more hassle to drive than it is to use public transport.

Not that I'm a huge fan of the underground, but it's still more useful than a car.

atomicturtle

Apr 21, 2008

Except London, where if anyting it's considerably more hassle to drive than it is to use public transport.

Yea, until you have to make a sudden trip from London to Manchester before the end of the day.

I'm actually not terribly familiar with the layout of London. Is there a lot of 'urban living' there (as opposed to the urban/suburban separation we tend to have in the States?)

Thogar

Apr 21, 2008

Tonnes.  We have suburbs, but even in those it's largely easier to just use public transport, and most everyone needs to go into central at least some of the time.  For anything remotely near central london, using a car is widely regarded as futile because of traffic, parking and prohibitive costs.

For long distance journeys a car is obviously better, but many, many people make so few inter-city journeys (Londoners are famously terrified and suspicious of everything outside of London) that owning a car for them would simply not be worth it, and for major cities the train links are, while ridiculously overpriced, adequate.  It's very unusual that anyone would need to leave London in a hurry on anything like a regular basis - everything, basically, is already there.

ig02iiteh

Apr 21, 2008

Humm.. I don't have a car.  I think the train system in Chicago is actually pretty good.  The stations are not far, and it can take me just about anywhere I want to go downtown.

If I had a car, it would only be used take the occasional drive from school back home.  I'd take the train if I wanted to do anything in the city.

omniart

Apr 21, 2008

I've been in two relationships when I haven't had a car (& not having a car had nothing to do with the break-up).  You just have to remember do not ask for any unnecessary or even semi-necessary rides.  We lived within walking distance of each other & downtown Laramie, Wyoming (yee-haw, big city life!).

Otherwise, I've known quite a few people (mostly women) who choose not to own a car & do just fine.  I think I also read somewhere not too long ago that there has been a significant decline in the number of teenagers getting licenses.

And last.  Yes, I like having a car again.  Not having one definitely made dating/beginning a relationship more awkward: 

"Would you like to go out for dinner Friday night?"

"Sure."

"What time would you like to pick me up?"

If they know you already, it's not a problem, but if they're someone whom you are just getting to know, it would be.

Mojorisin683aim

Apr 21, 2008

Funny thing is I have a car, live in a NYC "suburb" and refuse to date any girl who lives in Manhattan because of the commute via public transportation even though we'd only be 20 miles apart. 

I have dated girls who didn't have cars before.  It's no problem picking them up before the date, in fact it seemed right to me.

fp17114

Apr 21, 2008

I initially said "sure, having a car doesn't matter!" And then I was with a guy without a car. I hate picking a guy up. If we alternate that's alright, but if a guy is taking me out, he should literally take me out. It almost emasculates him a little in my eyes, every time I have to pick him up... If his car is in the shop, gets in a wreck, etc I don't mind helping, but full time is a bit of a deal breaker.

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