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I'm too lazy to be bi
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You must learn to except the Vagina as your own personal savior. Until then, you cannot find girl-on-girl salvation. |
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Um, dump the girl and find a someone who is sexually compatible with you and who you actually like? Sounds to me like it's not a sexuality issue, you just don't like her very much. I do understand the whole "OMG a girl is paying ATTENTION TO ME FOR ONCE" thing, 'cause hey, been there myself pretty recently. But she's not the only one you'll meet (especially with your looks... aherm...) |
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I'm neither a lesbian nor Yoda, but I think this has less to do with your sexuality being off kilter and more to do with you and this girl being just plain incompitable sexually. She wants penetration, but being a lesbian, doesn't want a man attached to it. I'm assuming that you being bi means you're less put off by the male attached to the cock.
Be insistent about compromising on the strap on issue. Also consider inviting a man (a submissive one that wont talk much or generally turn her off by being a male 'presence') to do all the thrusting while you two enjoy each other. |
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Yeah, I really don't think this has much to do with sexual orientation either, just compatibility. |
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Okay here's the deal. You have a pillow queen on your hands. You either: A. Have a pow wow sit down with her and tell her that you have needs too and say that you want to try something different sans the strap-on for once. If you don't talk about your wants and needs (communication) then it's never going to change and it's going to be all one sided. Period. OR B. Get rid of her because the way you talk about her i.e. " first cute girl who paid me some attention. She's young, stupid and crazy" is translated as "I'm just not that in to her, I'm settling." There are plenty of women out there that aren't pillow queens, that would be willing to be all about the vagina, and that want to reciprocate. |
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introduce electroshock therapy into the relationship. that will get her to move around a bit.
dead fish of any sexual orientation suck. |
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Am I the only lesbian who doesn't like strap-ons? It's all vag for me. If I wanted a cock, I'd be bi. |
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See, right here, problem solved. You can even get some wonderful strap-ons that include electroshock. And while this is not a full solution (since as others have said, sounds like some general incompatibility), if she is going to insist on a strap on, have you considered getting a good harness with a strap-in? They can do wonders for stimulating the top, even if it is still one person doing all the work. You could also try positions where the receiver has more incentive to be active. |
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I'm living in a dorm room right now, so a sexual contraption hanging from the ceiling might put off my professors just a bit. If I'm going to be perfectly honest (and I always am), cute and dumb was what I was going for. She's cute (group profile picture, second from the left), and although she's very intelligent, socially she's a little - well - retarded. A female version of the boy-toy. I'm really busy with school, and I just wanted a fuck buddy, not a serious relationship. But I was expecting a lot more BANG for my buck. I am pretty hot (so I'm told), and she's not that experienced. There should be all kinds of things she's been fantasizing about doing to someone like me. But you're right, I should try opening up the lines of communication a little more. I just don't want to have to do the whole "oh, we're girls so let's share and talk about our emotional dysfunction" crap. That's one one the reasons I'll never give up men. They know how to turn their emotions off when necessary. There are some other lesbians around my immediate vicinity, but they are russian, and russian lesbians are even crazier than french lesbians. |
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Not.. quite what I meant. I was referring to a strap on harness that has a dildo (and or buttplug) for the wearer. The quality of the experience for the giver seems to be heavily related to the quality and design of the strap on... it seems to matter a lot less to the receiver. On a purely physical level (as in, all the right parts get rubbed), a good harness can do a lot for the giver. That does not automaticly make it fun though since personal taste figured in.
Or just find the right girls. I have met some very cold lesbians over the years. Though it will probably involve changing your search criteria since they tend not to be the 'cute and dumb' kind. More like 'hot and scary'.
Well, at least you would get access to a very sexy language. And now I am envious at your options ^_~ |
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^^I think he may have been refering to something a little more like this (middle one on the top row is awesome) |
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Okay. It looks like I'm getting my toy education and...ouch. I don't think so. I might be a little too prudish for those. It would take a very special person to get me strapped into one of those. Maybe I'm too dominant. Not enough submissive qualities. |
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^ *ponders* in what way is that submissive? The giver is still in control of the situation and what is happening to both boddies. |
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I never understood why a girl would want another girl to use a strap on thing. If you want a boy, go get one. Lesbians should like girl parts. |
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Some people want the sensation of penetration without having to deal with an icky dude. |
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Some people like the sensation of being penetrated but haven't yet been comfortable enough with a dude . . . . .
Lady Adina, I'm confused. You're okay with strapping on to mount her, but you're NOT play with having a small insert for you on the strapon? I'm sensing a disconnect there somewhere. |
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@Jythexinvok - Submissive in that I would go along with what somewhat else wanted sexually (the use of toys and strapons) as oppose to what I wanted and was initially after. Yes, I know. It's a little selfish, I should indulge my lover's fantasies a little more - and I do often; however, I'm definitely the one who likes to determine the menu. I'm actually not okay with the strapon. I tried it a couple of times, and it was okay, but I wasn't crazy about it. There's also the fact that she prefers me to wear it. I have small hips and no thrusting power. I haven't talked to her yet (but I'm here sharing it with all of you. shameful.) but if I come to the conclusion that she's not trainable, I may have to dump her. This would be weird because 1] I've never actually broke up with anyone before (my last boyfriend broke the news to my previous one). Mostly I just disappear or wait until they leave, which brings us to 2] she lives directly across the hall. Awkward. This is another reason why I'll never give up men. So much easier to train. |
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I'd let someone use one on me, but I think my enjoyiment would be in direct proportion to her own--I'd do lots of things I normally wouldn't to see someone's face get really happy, but strapping one onto myself is where I draw the line. |
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Not to be too critical of you, Adina, but speaking as someone who has happily suffered under your tyranny, you've named this post perfectly. You're actually kind of too lazy to be straight as well. As I recall, us being together was sort of like the relationship between me and my boss. I would have to come up with all the ideas and you would only go along with the ones you could take credit for. As a matter of fact, if not for my strategic engineering, you would have never done the work to cross the border into Vaginaland to begin with. You are way too intolerant and untrusting of your lovers. Remember that time I pissed you off and you threatened to release the Seedy-List (a very long list of all my personal faults and transgressions). You've written to me about how you've felt that you have grown as a person over the last few weeks, but here you are in the forums posting this questionable thread. And although I loved the chaos you use to create, I can't help feel sorry for Claudette who's obviously too naive to know what she's in for. Go easy, babe. |
Get ready for the dirty post, guys...
So I've just started a relationship with a lesbian. This is my first real girlfriend and only the second girl I've had sex with since going bi (though, technically, still bi-curious). My first mistake is going for the first cute girl who paid me some attention. She's young, stupid and crazy, (not to mention French) but has the cutest vagina. Really, it's adorable.
I can work with the high-maintenance personality.Where I have a problem is she wants me to do most of the work sexually - including wearing the strapon - which I'm not okay with because frankly, it's doesn't do much for me and it's kind of exhausting - it's all for her. I'm not a lesbian, so I can find some cock if I really need it. Besides, what's with a card-carrying lesbian and a strapon. I would have thought they were all about the lady-parts.
Am I being too one-sided? Do I still have much to learn about the sisterhood and it's mysterious ways? I'm in need of a good bi/lesbian Yoda, here. Someone who can guide me in my newfound love of the labia.
Please help!