Dr-Joe

May 11, 2009

I transitioned my gender from female-to-male 8 years ago. I recently joined OkCupid and I am pleased with the site. My primary purpose or goal for posting this particular topic was to give anyone--in particular--women, who are genuinely interested and open to meeting transmen, an opportunity to ask questions, explore curiosities and talk about the various ways "dating a transman" may or may not be different then dating non-transmen (or biologically born men). I will attempt to answer all questions as openly as possible. Additionally, if you are not genuinely interested in engaging in an intellectual, open-minded and respectful discussion about this issue, then I am asking you to keep your comments short and to the point. Additionally, it is probably important to recognize that I may not respond back to you at all unless doing so will help broaden your mind or clarify an important point to others. Therefore, I invite you to bring on the questions and allow me a chance to dispel the myths, address concerns and open your mind to an entirely new type of man and potential dating experience.
LeahIsRad

May 11, 2009

Can you get a hard-on? Serious question. I really am surprised at how manly you look.
wambulancetaken

May 11, 2009

Leah would date ya. :D
CapeCodEmily

May 11, 2009

How big is your cock? Does it get hard and function for sex like with an average 5-7" biologically born man? That's my only concern with transgendered f2m otherwise I really wouldn't care.
Dr-Joe

May 11, 2009

LeahIsRad, It would probably help if you clarified what you mean by hard-on, because, women actually get them too. The cliterous is constructed of the same tissue as the penis and works/functions in much the same way, just on a much smaller scale. Like the penis, when turned on, the clit fills up with blood, which is then pushed out during orgasm (a hard-on). Once on testosterone, most transmen's cliterous' grow into what looks like and functions like a micro-penis. So to answer your question, like non-transman (or biologically born men) transmen DO get hard-ons. Dr-Joe
LeahIsRad

May 11, 2009

By not knowing what a hard-on was, you just failed the man test. Sorry. You totally didn't answer my question, but thanks for letting me know what happens to my clitoris. Can you have sex with a woman, buster?
G_mac

May 11, 2009

You're fucking lying Dr.
CapeCodEmily

May 11, 2009

You're pretty hot. I just stalked you. I honestly can't see how you ever passed for a woman because you do look very manly! You didn't answer my question though...
G_mac

May 11, 2009

CapeCod......he is lying...
Dr-Joe

May 11, 2009

CapeCodEmily, The average size penis is between 5.1" to 5.7" long. However, most transmen cannot penetrate with their phallus, unless of course they have had additional bottom surgery. Additionally, I always like to remind people that you can--in essence--penetrate someone with almost anything; toys, fists, feet, tongue, the list goes on. I've had sex with my fair share of women (straight, bi, lesbian, queer), both pre and post transition and satisfying them sexually has never been an issue, and I am sure, if you met the right transguy, it wouldn't be either. Dr-Joe
CapeCodEmily

May 11, 2009

Gmac why do you think he's lying?
LeahIsRad

May 11, 2009

Then honestly no. Not to be mean, but seeing a cock get hard before my eyes or in my hand is a major turn for me. And then the whole actually having sex part...most likely not.

I'd also get kinda weirded out if my boyfriend could give me advice about...girl stuff.
Dr-Joe

May 11, 2009

LeahIsRad, Of course I can have sex with a women. In my world, sex consists of many things, and is not just about "intercourse." However, if you are asking--can I have intercourse with a women, I absolutely can. Dr-Joe
LeahIsRad

May 11, 2009

Fair enough. It sounds like you are very happy with your decision so I wish you the best.
scottwm1013

May 11, 2009

What Leah is saying is, she likes big hard man meat. not toys
CapeCodEmily

May 11, 2009

Most women like toys... but not instead of big hard man meat.
G_mac

May 11, 2009

This guy is doing an experiement....maybe for a class...maybe for the hell of it.....If he was telling the truth, he would post a pic of himself pre-trans....I don't think he's lying...I know he's lying...
Dr-Joe

May 11, 2009

LeahIsRed, I totally understand. You are absolutely entitled to enjoy what it is you enjoy. Being sexual with someone, or falling for someone, is certainly a preference thing, and if you want a 6" cock, then you should have it. In regards to getting women advice from a boyfriend, I can certainly understand not wanting that too, which is why it is important to recognize that there is a world of diversity out there and that there is someone for everyone. Dr-Joe
craigmachine

May 11, 2009

7, it took 7 posts until an angry response. I thought it'd be way less, and in all fairness to G_mac, way angrier. I have no idea if he's lying or not, but I'm going to assume he's telling the truth because I don't care enough to call someone on here a liar. That being said, I'm semi-hypocritical. I wouldn't date a transwoman, but I do consider a transman a man, and a transwoman a woman. I also wouldn't care if one of my friends dated someone transgendered. I just wouldn't date one myself.
Dr-Joe

May 11, 2009

Craigmachine, Thanks for the kind words and open-mindedness. Dr-Joe

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