Would you date somebody who was a virgin at the age of 25?

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kyguypaul

Jul 11, 2008

why would you not? are you prejudice against virigns?

JMStarling

Jul 11, 2008

I think men would be excited about being first in, but women are often turned off by this unless they are virgins as well.

RandomGod

Jul 11, 2008

Most men (IME) are a bit turned off by it as well.  Especially at such a high age.  It tends to indicate ... issues.  Of some sort.

 

I would consider it, indeed I've done it.  But it's a definite red flag ... I'd be concerned/worried.

And I wouldn't expect it to be real. Casual dating.  Of course, that's pretty much a default as long as she remains a virgin!

cheri_amor

Jul 11, 2008

i wouldn't be worried about it at all. it'd suprised me to find a man who at 25, hadn't done it yet, but it's kind of nice to see a few people who weren't screwing everything in sight in the name of "just having fun"; not that everyone who's not a virgin is doing that.

i think the only thing it indicates is someone who decided to wait until they were ready; "ready" is not the same for everyone

Benfergy

Jul 11, 2008

I say yes.

First of all, everyone who ends up in a sexual relationship has to start sometime, and ages differ.

Second, I'd be a bit of a hypocrite to not date someone on this basis, considering that I was a virgin until I was 24.

 

I seriously wonder why anyone would say no to this question.

themonbon

Jul 11, 2008

Date? Yes. Sleep with? Hells no.

JMStarling

Jul 11, 2008

themonbon:

Date? Yes. Sleep with? Hells no.

 

So you'd have someone else on the side?

Tindytim

Jul 11, 2008

It would depend on why, and whether or not they were willing to give it up. And whether their hymen had popped (it would be surprising at 25, but then again so would being a virgin).

Gimmikk

Jul 12, 2008

Yeah, I kind of have done. Wouldn't bother me at all.

Kristine_991

Jul 12, 2008

Yes, why not?

themonbon

Jul 12, 2008

Cheating is cheating, JM. You don't have to have sex to be in a relationship.

sunset_sonata

Jul 12, 2008

Yes, definitely, no doubt about it. Heck, even if the guy was a 35 or 45 year old virgin, I'd still date him. Actually, it would turn me on. Being a virgin is a rarity in today's society, and this would tell me he respects himself as well as women.
inmortal75

Jul 12, 2008

sunset_sonata: this would tell me he respects himself as well as women

at 45? please. Mental issues more likely. How else can you not find in 45 years somebody "worthy"? Not have loved somebody with so much passion that you don't wish to seize her body? To not wish to get lost in the entanglelment? Feel the closeness that sex brings?

Who would want to wait 35 or 45 years to experience that?

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at 25 is ok ... borderline.

Gimmikk

Jul 12, 2008

It might be rare, but that doesn't mean there aren't guys who find it difficult to meet the "right person." For some people, maybe that doesn't happen till they're in their 30s or 40s.  Doesn't mean they have mental issues.

Although not all "issues" mean the guy is crazy. I am 20 and have problems meeting girls because I have Aspergers Syndrome and social anxiety. That doesn't make me a nutcase or mean I'm incapable of having successful relationships though.

JMStarling

Jul 12, 2008

It doesn't make a guy mental if none of the women he has been interested in have felt the same way.  Do you expect him to go to a prostitute, or worse, force himself onto an uninterested lady friend?

inmortal75

Jul 12, 2008

JM : It doesn't make a guy mental if none of the women he has been interested in have felt the same way.

It means the person doesn't have to go hunting for the holy grail. Looking for a mate w/a checklist will only make you miserable. Many times when you are not in the "quest" fortune tends to smile at you.

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Do you expect him to go to a prostitute, or worse, force himself onto an uninterested lady friend?

Dude, whats wrong w/you that you are suggesing rape?

 

 

JMStarling

Jul 12, 2008

I'm not suggesting rape, I was suggesting that you were saying rape would be preferable to male virginity.

inmortal75

Jul 12, 2008

JM : I'm not suggesting rape, I was suggesting that you were saying rape would be preferable to male virginity.

that is a very false presumption from your part, not related to what I posted.

my post described that only a mental issue would prevent a 35 or 45 year old person from enjoying the feelings/sensations that having sex brings...

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that rape better than virginity bit was all you.

JMStarling

Jul 12, 2008

It was implied by your statement, however, and I still maintain that your statement, "only a mental issue would prevent a 35 or 45 year old person from enjoying the feelings/sensations that having sex brings" implies that rape is more psychologically balanced than virginity.

Steveeatsbeef

Jul 12, 2008

"It doesn't make a guy mental if none of the women he has been interested in have felt the same way.  Do you expect him to go to a prostitute, or worse, force himself onto an uninterested lady friend?"

I feel like saying "ditto" to that, JM.  My experience was that when you're in your 20s and still a virgin, isn't by choice but rather because you're so undesirable noone you know is desperate enough to touch you.

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