OkCupid.com: Free Online Dating
“The Google ofonline dating”
— The Boston Globe
“The bestfree dating site”
“A favorite hangoutfor internet goers”
— The Village Voice
— Some guy on Yelp
27 / m / Straight Oslo, Norway
Jan 17, 2010
It's not like mye profile is that interesting, but I'm kind of
surprised I don't have more visitors. I would think most people now
and then uses the "find matches feature" just to check out whatever
profiles okcupid thinks you would like. I do, at least. So, one
explanation that comes to mind is that a lot of people are browsing
anonymously. Could this be it? Or are women just so revered on
sites like these that actively pursuing anything just seems like a
needless wast of time?
What's wrong with this comment?
42 / m / Straight Dittmer, Missouri
Why would you get visitors? You haven't even filled out your
profile. Your thumbnail photo doesn't show you clearly, looks like
a parking lot at a supermarket at night.
Beyond that, you are correct in your supposition that women
don't need to look at profiles. According to a post explaining why
they created icebreakers, an OKC staff member mentioned women don't
even look at their matches, they just look at their inbox.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but wouldn't you have to view my
profile to know this? I could have lots of information, just not in
my summary, I could have more pictures, etc. So it doesn't
explain the absent visitors.
Btw: I don't want to come off sounding (too) bitter here. I know I
haven't done much to attact attention, and I don't care that much.
I'm here mostly because OKCupid seemed to have a cool concept, and
I was curious as to how good the matchmaking mechanism works (it's
not as great as I thought it could be, after trying things out for
myself seeing a high compatibility doesn't instill that much faith
in me that we're really that good of a match - but I digress).
I'd imagine a lot more women browse anonymously than men, but I
still receive plenty of visitors every day. I've noticed that on
OKC, especially with the amount of men flooding the "news feed" for
the women, you really get more visitors by popping up on it.
You know when you're on the front page, and see some girl you
haven't looked at before pop up? It's because they either posted a
new image, or updated something and are on your automatic search.
Most of the women I've talked to since I've been on OKC, I met
through seeing them on there, as opposed to going through the
So, on the topic of getting yourself noticed more, here is an
example; back in the day when I used to use the forums pretty often
I'd have 100+ visitors a week according to the stats. Now that I
rarely use them, and don't really update or put new pictures up,
I'm only at 38.
But, most of these were probably forum users that aren't local
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