terick707

Nov 13, 2013

I send a woman a message after I find her attractive after reading her profile and looking at her pics etc..... LOL I've sent over 40 messages to 40 different women and NOT a single response from any one of them..... My message entailed, " Hi I came across your profile and I found it to be interesting.  Would you like to chat sometime?"

squigless

Nov 13, 2013

Nope, no trouble here. You sure your messages went through? If you get even one letter of her email wrong, or do a .com instead of a .org or whatever it's supposed to be, then she probably won't get it.

OctoberTens

Nov 13, 2013

Me too.

I sent a very similar message to at least 10,000 women. And then I sent it again just to be sure the message got through all the other similar massages.

I'm going to attempt a third mass mailing.

I'll keep you posted on progress.

laquist

Nov 13, 2013

Bizarre. I've always found that women respond well to being spammed with nondescript form messages.

terick707

Nov 13, 2013

yea guys I look through my "sent" folder and see that the messages have been sent to all 42 women LOL.  sigh.... this site hasn't been of much luck for me, I'm also done with approaching women for good.  Thanks gentlemen.

kxrm

Nov 14, 2013

Are you this much of a pansy in real life too?

terick707

Nov 14, 2013

go away faggot troll or just /suicide

BiggestCockEver

Nov 14, 2013

You have to recognize that women on here are flooded with messages every day, and yours has to stand out to get any response at all. For more information, look in the Profile Suggestions section, where hundreds of men have asked the same questions about why nobody responds to their messages.

 

Hi I came across your profile and I found it to be interesting.  Would you like to chat sometime?

It's polite, and courteous, but on here that's just not enough. In real life situations that might be a fine invitation. It just isn't effective online anymore. You need to make a better effort to draw women in and make yourself sound interesting to them.

terick707

Nov 14, 2013

thanks biggestcock.... I'll do that. thanks for the advice mate.

wombatsammich

Nov 14, 2013

1. The first thing a woman is going to do when she opens your message is look at your picture. Yours is distant and has a wine bottle blocking your face. Get a good closeup of your face and use it as your main pic.

2. Speaking of pics, you have two which show you drinking wine from a bottle, alone. This is probably sending the wrong message.

3. If we like what we see in the pictures, we look at the profile. Yours begins with one giant paragraph. The punctuation and capitalization are inconsistent. Edit your shit. You're not paying for space, so let it breathe a bit. Make it easy to read.

4. You don't have to knock yourself out coming up with stuff to message, but at least make an effort to show you've actually skimmed a lady's profile. Mention something you have in common, or better yet, ask a question. Most people love to share knowledge about things they're good at. The more specific, the better. Or, if it's a subject you know a lot about, send some off-the-wall factoid she may not know. "Hey, I see you love penguins. Did you know....?" 

5. You (hopefully) are a unique snowflake. Don't be afraid to stand out. Some of the best conversations I've had on here were with guys who took a chance and let their weird out. 

Sushibitch

Nov 14, 2013

" Hi I came across your profile and I found it to be interesting.  Would you like to chat sometime?"

Think of it this way; the fact that you're sending her a message already tells her that you came across her profile, found something in it to be interesting, and that you'd like to get to know her better. So the content of the messages you're sending doesn't tell their recipients anything they don't already know, which makes them uninteresting. In addition, imagine walking up to someone in the flesh, and saying "Hello, would you like to have a conversation? You start!" Awkward, right? Inviting someone to have a conversation in a message is just as awkward. In general, people don't sit around thinking "I wish I could have a conversation, and I don't care who with or what about"; they want to have an interesting conversation, about something that catches their attention, with someone who seems cool. So rather than inviting someone to have a conversation, _start_ a conversation, about something interesting, which will appeal to them, and which shows you to be the kind of person they want to talk to.

Also, you say you've looked at their profile and found it interesting; if their profile is interesting then it shouldn't be hard to find something to say about one of the things they've mentioned, right? There are a lot of guys copying and pasting the same message to dozens or women, and so a lot of women won't even think twice about a message which doesn't _demonstrate_ that the sender has read their profile. So starting a conversation about something they've mentioned is way better than telling them they're interesting, bit not showing that you're sincere, and inviting them to start a conversation with you, which requires more effort on their part than you have put in.

Zelandoni

Nov 14, 2013

I only reply to full frontal nudity.

StudMcRoughlove

Nov 14, 2013

write them a poem

a haiku preferably

chicks dig shit like this

Vuht

Nov 14, 2013

just learn to write like you're on the internet.

if you treat this place like real life it'll go well about 5% of the time.

Swampy65

Nov 14, 2013

write them a poem

chicks dig shit like this

How the fuck would you know? You only write poetry for guys.

terick707

Nov 14, 2013

@wombatsammich lol what part about my profile has incorrect punctuation and capitalization? 

wombatsammich

Nov 14, 2013

@Terick: The sentences which don't end in a punctuation mark, followed by the ones which don't begin with a capital letter.

I love sports(,) although I do not follow them like the typical sports you see here(,) like baseball and basketball(.) I don't really follow the whole Giants and warriors craze. (R)rarely I will ever go to a game(,) and if I do(,) it's probably most likely a basketball game. 

I hate lazy people(.)I believe lazy people do not belong in this planet(.)I hate lazy people simply(because)of the fact that they don't (drive)thrive themselves to become a better person(,) or take the easy way out and cheat/lie. 

(S)so aside from all that(,)I am a very humble person(.)I blend well with others(.) I can be a bit shy at the beginning(,) but I tend to talk too much once I crack open out of my shell. 
I'm not even out of your self-summary yet.
Also, have you heard of commas? How many commas do you see on your page? 
(Interesting - the quote button seems to be broken.)
WskyTangoFoxtrot

Nov 14, 2013

Did you use google image search with their photos to check if the profile was legitimate?

I do this and I am about 4 out of 10 for replies.  Most are just looking and killing time on here..  I am at probably 1 date per 100 replies.  

Also if there is the slightest little thing wrong like bad photos, a long winded profile or bad grammar you will probably get no replies.   If they are hot they are getting swamped with email.  If your email isn't short but potent, your profile a quick but impressive read and your first photo awesome you will never get a reply from that type.   They will just skim quick, delete and reply to the best handful of guys emailing them.

Vuht

Nov 14, 2013

reading this thread has reminded how weird online dating is.

terick707

Nov 14, 2013

lol I'm not here to have perfect punctuation.... I'm college educated.  I know when and where to apply the context where it matters.... I didn't know a dating website required that, even though most people's profiles use the incorrect grammar/punctuation for their/there/they're/your/you're etc..... So don't start with that shit please.  Welcome to how people chat online, this is standard actually.  Do you not have internet? Do you live under a rock?

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