Do you find it hard to come up with something to put in "What I'm doing with my life..."?

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WhigLite

Jun 12, 2010

I used to think I found this section troubling because I'm not as active as some folks.  Lately, though, it's just seemed redundant, not for me, but based on some other profiles, too.

I have been editing my profile this week - I'm trying to put it on a diet, and y'all know my profile has a low metabolic rate.  When I cut some things, my Self-Summary lost flow, and I was thinking of moving some of "what I'm doing" up to the Self-Summary. I'm sure I'm not alone in considering what I do at least part of who I am, even if I don't let it define me.

Then what's left to say What I'm doing?  I find it so vacuous & cliché when a gal says: "living it to the fullest" [w/o much elaboration] or "I'm living it" [no shit, I thought you were dead and I'd become Jennifer Love Hewitt]. 

I guess I could move some of the self-summary down there - how I spend my time, how I approach life, but this also makes my point:  If Self-Summary and "What I'm doing.." are such substitutes, so fluid, then why have a separate section?!

ThunderNut

Jun 12, 2010

I'm far from cliche.  I think! This is what I'm doing with my life:

I spend my days sipping alcoholic beverages, staring out windows, and reflecting wistfully on the life I once had. Then I pass out and do it again the next day. Kidding.

Or am I?

I'm a woman of many talents. I recently closed my local business to properly focus on my education. I'm looking for new friends, new adventures, new perspectives, and someone with whom I can talk or not talk to for hours.

In addition to fulfilling my daily duties of full time dreaming and parenting, I have an imaginary list of goals I'd like to achieve in reality this year--because I'm turning 40! Plus, my inner micro-manager says if I achieve them, I'll get a raise! This year's Vital Few Objectives include skydiving, marathon running, comedy writing, and traveling outside North America. Fun goals to have, eh? Interested in joining my team?

Oh, did you have a question, Whig? :P

 

Roger_Dodger

Jun 12, 2010

Then what's left to say What I'm doing?

Create a link to this thread. It will paint a clear enough picture.

(I've contemplated putting a link to the forums in that section on my profile.)

geek_grrl

Jun 12, 2010

I think it would be dating suicide for Whig to link from his profile to DAF. 

CaptainEsoteric

Jun 12, 2010

Lately, though, it's just seemed redundant, not for me, but based on some other profiles, too.

You're going to take this as a dig, but it's not intended to be one: the reason the question seems redundant and boring is because there's a lack of creativity in the answerer.

^How can you kill what was stillborn?

WhigLite

Jun 12, 2010

^ Your comment wasn't a "dig", but your crass response to Geek_Grrl was.

As to your actual comment to me, I believe it's pretty appropriate.  I find it hard to be creative when I'm manufacturing a profile for an unknown, general audience.  I don't just instantly turn on as if a light switch were flicked and splash in to me.  I'm generally more formal until I get to know someone.

ThunderNut has a good "What am I doing" section, but notice it's stuff that could be in a self-summary.  It just seems to me that the other sections are more distinct from one another, but the distinction between the first and second is so fluid as to sometimes disappear.

Jairaye

Jun 12, 2010

I just wrote about me. Fuck it.

CaptainEsoteric

Jun 12, 2010

Not to self-promote, but click mine.

There's "who I am and what I'm about in a nutshell" and "what I'm doing." One is almost asking for descriptors, the other is begging for events.

It's "I'm a guy who has a sweet tooth" versus "I started baking cookies and selling them as a side business." "I'm a guy who likes to relax instead of living a trendy high-octane Hollywood lifestyle" versus "I'm exploring all the local landmarks big and small such as the Getty, the Wilshire, Vrooman's, the Viper Room (fucking great name), Little Tokyo and Chinatown."

Or you can make shit up as you go along like I did.

Jairaye

Jun 12, 2010

Your second paragraph is me. But I'm still not attracted, bro. I don't date black men.

geek_grrl

Jun 12, 2010

Self Summary

 

Currently searching for the last man on the internet who knows the difference between your and you're.

A love of XKCD and Dinosaur Comics is a plus.

I'm also amazingly happy. I love what I do, my neighborhood, and am fortunate enough to be surrounded by good people. Life is good. Could be better with a cutiehead boy, though.

You should know that I have an unholy love of A&E's Hoarders. If I was a little kid with a life threatening illness, I would call Make-A-Wish and ask to be one of the Got Junk guys so I could spend a day at the Crazy People Zoo.

While hiking is a valid lifestyle choice, and I support your outdoorsiness, I have issues with bugs, sun, and mountain lions. So you're on your own. I do love walking LA, though. I'm more of a concrete hiker, I guess.

I am smart, cute, and creamy cool

 

What I'm Doing

 

I'm a writer, my second book will be out in the fall, if everything goes smoothly. I also work in aerospace, and write for a group science-in-popular-culture blog. I was once introduced as an "internet personality" at a cocktail party. It's oddly true, and I bask in the geeky-coolness of that.Big fan of children's literacy non-profits.

Spend a great deal of time sifting through books in the local indie bookstore. I garden, take the dog to the park often so we can run around.

Kair

Jun 12, 2010

It's rather important. I mean if it's a person who isn't doing anything with their life, and they don't even care about this fact, that is troubling (and personally, a turn off for me). So since recently, I'll skip to that part and the "You should message me if" section, before I read the rest.

WhigLite

Jun 12, 2010

CaptainEsoteric:

See, instead of "stillborn" comments, when you just share your perspective, I think you make a lot of sense here:

There's "who I am and what I'm about in a nutshell" and "what I'm doing." One is almost asking for descriptors, the other is begging for events.

Talk about something rarely seen on OkCupid:  The accurate dichotomy.  I hadn't thought of seeing it in that light.  I thought of "what I'm doing" as career, serious interest/hobby, and that's about it.  So, I should probably move some interests down there.

Also, I'm more of a passive person than an active one on a continuum.  [I don't find that a negative - I think being too close to either pole is a negative.]  This probably explains why I front-loaded too much:  I related to what I do in terms of it describing my interests, not in terms of "events."

Kair:

It's rather important. I mean if it's a person who isn't doing anything with their life, and they don't even care about this fact, that is troubling (and personally, a turn off for me).

I agree - but my point was that what you're doing might have already been mentioned in the Self-Summary.  For example, when Geek_Grrl says she's a writer in her "What I'm doing...," that's something I'd put in the self-summary, because being a writer is more personal than say a stock broker (to me).  You are a big part of your work, and more personally invested (or so it would seem to me).

Yes, I have less to say I'm doing, but I don't have nothing, I just wasn't seeing a summarize / do dichotomy as very useful.  Describe / event makes more sense ...Describe is narrower than Summarize to me, while event is broader than do!

CaptainEsoteric:  THAT is why your comment is so helpful - the way I understand your terms in relation to OkCupid's terminology allows me to achieve the shift I was trying to do (more of the latter, less of the former).

geek_grrl

Jun 12, 2010

Vrooman's

Vroman's? I did my book release party there! My fave bookstore.

CaptainEsoteric

Jun 12, 2010

Been to Vroman's a few times and I can understand why people like it, even though I don't read much. I even like their little attached coffee shop. I got a hot chocolate there that not only failed to taste like the typical Starbucks hot chocolate (that is, crushed coco puffs mixed with back sweat), but it was actually genuinely good! I'm really big on keeping the local establishments in business. I need to visit Galcos.

 

 For example, when Geek_Grrl says she's a writer in her "What I'm doing...," that's something I'd put in the self-summary, because being a writer is more personal than say a stock broker (to me).

If I were a writerand using this idea of how to break down a profile, but I really identified with it in such a way that I had this compulsion to include it in my Self-Summary, I'd say I was a writer, but say what my current project/aspiration was in the "What I'm doing" section. So in the summary goes, "I'm a writer that doesn't suck" and in the "What I'm doing" section goes, "I'm currently drafting the next great American novel. Or some sleezy bullshit to pay bills. Who knows?"

You're welcome, Whig. I will probably take jabs at you later, even still. It's not just you, I do this to other people too.

I wonder if anyone saw what just happened up there, and how it relates to our profiles, though.

WhigLite

Jun 12, 2010

^ B&N used to have "hot chocolate" and "hot cocoa", and the latter was Godiva!

Not anymore :P

 

Tyler's used to also have their own baked goods (around 2000/2001), then they, too, fell to the cheesecake factory selection :P  So much for huge lemon poppy seed muffins, fresh-baked cinnamon buns, and apple turnovers!

Jairaye

Jun 12, 2010

Bigg's (in Ohio, as far as I know) has the best fucking muffins. Lemon poppy seed and blueberry for the win.

wimsey70

Jun 12, 2010

I use my self-summary to describe me, and I use my "what I'm doing" to describe how those characteristics manifest in my everyday life.  It didn't seem that hard to differentiate for me, but I have a number of "hobbies" and interests and things I do for fun, plus I talk about what I do for a living.

ThunderNut

Jun 12, 2010

^^ & ^^^ I am very hungry and my arms are sunburnt which does not make for a fun cooking experience.

WhigLite

Jun 12, 2010

^ I got some cinnamon rolls from Wal-Mart...you want one?  Want me to nuke it 20 sec?

ThunderNut

Jun 12, 2010

^ Whig, I'm a bit of a food snob.  No wal mart and no nuked baked goods.  But I thank you for the offer. :)

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