navifid

Apr 17

I'm not getting too many replies to my messages. Maybe some changes to my profile would attract more visitors. Could you take a look and tell me what you think? Any comments or suggestions would be appreciated.

Sidebar: what's a good first message that has a chance of drawing a reply? I normally keep it short, start with a greeting ("Hey, how's it going?"), mention something I liked in their profile, and toss a question or two. Is that enough?

Sushibitch

Apr 17

I normally keep it short, start with a greeting ("Hey, how's it going?"), mention something I liked in their profile, and toss a question or two. Is that enough?

If you're not getting replies, then no, probably not. The problem with that sort of message is A) it's exactly what every other guy is sending and B) it does show anything of interest about _you_; you've read her profile, you've seen something in there that appeals to you, and you've decided you want to get to know her, so now the job your message needs to do is bring her to the same point you're at, by showing her why she should get to know you (rather than the other ten guys writing similar messages to her).

unsw1tchd83

Jul 12

What about mine???  Any advice on how I can improve mine would be highly appreciated :)

Crystal_Chrome

Jul 12

Sidebar: what's a good first message that has a chance of drawing a reply? I normally keep it short, start with a greeting ("Hey, how's it going?"), mention something I liked in their profile, and toss a question or two. Is that enough?

Your messages need to stand out in a good way. I'm sure you already know that, but you probably have the common misconception that every other guy is being sexually aggressive and sending links to dick pics. That's not the case. Virtually every other guy is sending what you're sending. There are many ways to break this pattern while still keeping the messages personalized, so get creative and experiment.

Sushibitch

Jul 13

^^ I'd recommend getting some better pictures, and n the meantime, maybe try changing your main pic to the one which doesn't have the messed-up lens? The splotches and blurriness don't give a good impression, and I think that's probably offputting to a lot of women.

In terms of the profile, there's no mention of what you're doing with your life at the moment; work, education, volunteer work, anything? And I think you could do with being more concrete and specific; you say you're "living life to the fullest", but that means different things to different people, so it might be better to talk about the specific things you're doing with your life, whether in terms of work or school or stuff you do for fun.

TrystAble

Jul 14

You already have two strikes against you - a profile heavy on mediocrity, and messages that are heavy on mediocrity.  Sorry to put it that way.  Juice up your profile, and STOP tailoring your messages to match her preconceptions.

 

Honestly, the best possible of all paths is to wait for (and hope for) women to message YOU first, but that only happens with an enticing profile.  So put no more effort (for now) into messaging at all and focus deeply on fixing your profile.  Look at other mens' profiles, find some good ones, and plagiarize like crazy.

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