OkCupid.com: Free Online Dating
“The Google ofonline dating”
— The Boston Globe
“The bestfree dating site”
“A favorite hangoutfor internet goers”
— The Village Voice
— Some guy on Yelp
24 / m / Straight Grayslake, Illinois
I was thinking that one of the biggest obstacles in finding
decent people on this site is the fact that certain people (mostly
women) have to deal with a preposterous number of messages, and it
can probably become overwhelming.
If you have like 1000 messages in your inbox, the best you can
do is just read through all of them one by one, and after reading
like... a hundred messages in a row that are short and pervy and
terrible, you might become unnecessarily unenthusiastic about all
messages. But what if you could sort your messages in certain ways
to make sure you start with the ones that are more likely to be
worth your time?
So I thought... it might be convenient if there were ways to
sort inbox messages to help people get to the messages that they'd
One idea I had was that maybe you could sort the messages by the
length of the primary message. I mean, if someone wrote you a whole
bunch, it probably means they're thoughtful and interesting and
whatever, and it'll shove all those universally despised one-word
messages to the bottom. But I realize that maybe this isn't the
best because a lot of people are here to make quick connections,
and they might not want to read a whole novel to get acquainted
Still... someone might like this option, so if there were a sorting
feature, I'm sure it'd be readily utilized.
Another idea was that perhaps you could sort messages by
match/friend/enemy percentage with the sender... preferably match
percentage. That way... assuming the match algorithm is not a sack
of crap, you'll be able to see the messages that might be most
worth your time right up at the top, and you can streamline your
online dating experience.
One more idea that I had was that maybe you could filter
messages by the number of total messages (or the frequency of
messages) sent by the person who is messaging you. The idea behind
this is... if someone's going to be sending out like a thousand
messages a day... they're probably sending out mass messages, and
those messages probably aren't too good, and the person sending
them isn't really interested in you particularly... they're just
interested in someone. No huge loss if you don't get ever
get back to them.
My favorite idea that I came up with is that you could filter
your messages by the average message rating of the sender. I
mean... we already have that little star rating thing at the bottom
of messages where you can rate the messages you get from people...
it'd be cool if it were put to good use. Even if you'd get messages
from people you'd probably never date maybe, those messages would
at least be entertaining.
Now obviously, there can be problems... the system isn't
perfect, and some of the options can be gamed. The sort by message
frequency option might encourage people to make an immense number
of parallel accounts just to keep their apparent messaging
frequency low. That can probably be avoided to some extent by
tracking IPs of new members... though that might not be worth the
The sorting by user's average message quality option can be
gamed by people creating fucktons of accounts, messaging
themselves, and then rating themselves highly. This can be
prevented again by tracking IPs to make sure that people don't have
multiple accounts, but it can also be handled by making sure that
people can't actually rate messages until they've been around for a
while, and are potentially trustworthy... which I think the site
already analyzes... I mean, they track usage stuff to determine who
is worthy of being a site moderator, they could give message rating
and whatever other trust-related privileges to people who have
earned it like they do for moderation.
All in all, I think this is a good idea because it gives people
the option to not get as bogged down in messages they'd hate,
they'd not get so tired of the site, and they'd probably be quicker
to find good dates, which would boost the success rate and traffic
of the site, which would bring in more revenue.
I kinda worry that these features would be made available... but
only to people with A-List... which would probably get a lot more
people to sign up for it, but would screw over everyone else who
can't afford it. I know this is a business, and if people get in
and out of this site too successfully, and too quickly, it
potentially limits revenue, but people come here to be less prone
to lifelong misery, and helping them out a little bit more with
that would be cool. I think that each one of these options could
improve the desirability of the site by a massive amount, and would
be worth it to implement at least one of these ideas for free.
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42 / m / Straight Dittmer, Missouri
Also, they should replace your regular coffee with Folger's
54 / m / Straight Northbrook, Illinois
I think this idea has merit. I would also like to be able to
sort the messages I sent and I received by various things... like
the ID of the person. Also make the messages searchable... I have A
list and it's a pain to scroll through all my old messages to try
to find one that I sent before to see what I said.
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