rip59

Jan 31, 2013

In my RL conversations ; I am being constantly reminded that many women would not even carry a special needs baby to term ; yet alone date the father of an intellectually impaired child.  Most do not want the added challenges.  Hypothetically, would you date a guy who was the custodial parent of a cognitively impaired child?  Just curious.  I've met a wonderful woman about a year ago who has added so much to both my daughter's and my life. This topic often surfaces with Dads of my ilk ; many seem to be great guys just getting passed over because of deciding to accept the biggest challenge in a parent's life. 

pseupseudio

Jan 31, 2013

no

DrGeniusWiener

Jan 31, 2013

The dutiful sexretary loves children with Down's syndrome and has worked with many of them over the years, so for someone like her it might actually be a plus.

But all in all, I'm sure it adds to the difficulty of dating. 

rip59

Jan 31, 2013

Pretty much expected as much from pseudo.  Makes one wonder the future of those who are "different" in this new secular , humanitarian, global world. 

trish6912

Jan 31, 2013

I thought you believed in an "every man for himself, only the strong survive" world?

pseupseudio

Jan 31, 2013

rip, when you say "cognitively impaired" i think of people like you

and i don't want to encourage the survival of such persons

Hakuna_matata

Jan 31, 2013

All I read is "would you date someone with children?" And the answer is no.

kidneybeltdrive

Jan 31, 2013

Nah. I don't date dudes, especially not dudes with kids.

 

You don't even want to know about my views on infanticide as it relates to the success of the human species from the neolithic period through today.

OhnoezItsthatguy

Jan 31, 2013

Women without kids don't date single fathers because it is evident that they fail at relationships.  Either they couldn't make a relationship work and split up or they allowed the mother of the child to die.

 

Chicks don't wanna die.

rip59

Jan 31, 2013

Sure I do , Trish.  Parental responsibility is key to keeping the government at bay.  Incidently, I expected as much from all the usual "brain surgeons".  My next question to 99/100 postees : where the hell where your parents? 

Sushibitch

Jan 31, 2013

^ Are you asking because you want to date our mothers?

rip59

Jan 31, 2013

All set thanks.  

wutsthishere

Jan 31, 2013

it's when my dates are cognitively impaired that I get annoyed.

especially when it's due to the devil weed marijuana.

lol...just kidding. I love the devil weed marijuana.

anybody spare a bowl? anyone?

pseupseudio

Jan 31, 2013

it will ruin your gorgeous lungs

wutsthishere

Jan 31, 2013

pseupseudio

Jan 31, 2013

i was hoping you were linking me to x-rays :(

rip59

Jan 31, 2013

Go play D/D DWEEB.

ThatCharmsChick

Jan 31, 2013

Not long ago there was a man at work whom I was beginning to gain interest in who had a special needs son. I'm not good with kids in general (except my nieces and nephews), but I was still willing to go out with this guy and see where things went. I left that job before anything panned out though.

stuckinitaly

Feb 1, 2013

I wouldn't rule it out....but I wouldn't go looking for it. You have to have a big heart. Not many do, these days, or rather they don't think they do. Put in the situation, a mother will usually muster up the strength. A non-birthmother, well...hard to say, I would like to say sure, but I'm an idealist. We don't live in a perfect world.

I was seeing a guy, back home years ago, a good catch. But there was a glitch, he had got his ex GF prego, she hadn't told him,they broke up, I was dating him,she contacted him with this news,that the baby had downs and that she planned to keep it. He manned up,broke off with me, married her,and they had their son.

I did walk by his house years later, with my own toddler son (to go see the fire station across the road almost from his house),wondering if I would see him and his family,but never did.

I hope they are doing well.

Good luck to the dads, I think there is a special woman out there with a big enough heart to deal with this.

sandyvs

Feb 2, 2013

Rip, you have a small taste of what women with children go through every day, whether the child has special needs or not. So many women are passed over by men because they have children, but I can't say as I blame the men, any more than I blame the women. You've got to be true to yourself, and if a preexisting child is a deal breaker, special needs or not, there's your answer.

Also, at different stages of my life I would 'probably' have answered the question of bringing a special needs child into the world many different ways.  Course, we'll never know now, and I'm SO glad that I didn't ever  have to make that decision. It wasn't until I was pregnant that I realized how much I could love an unborn, unseen baby.

many seem to be great guys just getting passed over because of deciding to accept the biggest challenge in a parent's life.

Also, on that topic, I've heard/read many times that a 'big challenge' in a parent's life tends to brings some big rewards/happiness.

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