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Help and FAQ

All about OkCupid, how it works, and how to get around. Much more useful than our actual FAQ page.

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Is my profile flagged? by MsOtis posted Today – 1:54am

Questions From Us To You

Every once in a while we get the crazy urge to ask our lovely users their opinions on OkCupid. This is where that hot action happens.

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What's Going on in Flagmod / Report Moderation? by polyAVD posted Apr 24

Match Questions

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What causes Earth's seasons? by Space-Bob posted Apr 20

Rants & Raves

Love a feature we added? Hate a change we made so much you're frothing at the mouth? Post your rants and raves about OkCupid here.

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Fake profiles: men in their 40's by NotAdamSandler posted Today – 4:21am

A-List General Discussion A-List

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THE Definitive "Blocking" Thread by Luc83 posted Yesterday – 11:45pm

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Success - Failure

Did you meet your Significant Other on OkCupid? Are you getting married? Were your new match's pictures a wild departure from what they looked like in person? Post all your successes and failures here.

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Are there any decent women on this site? by eat-pray-die posted Today – 5:22am

Date Suggestions

Your woo of the week agreed to meet you in person, but now you're at a loss on where to go and what to do. Help your fellow OkCupidians plan dates or get help planning dates here.

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Why don't more women voluntarily write messages to guys? by cassthelast posted Today – 5:02am

Profile Suggestions

Help others with the content of their profile or get suggestions on your own.

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What impression do you get? by cass_uk posted Today – 4:52am

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Discussions for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, and Questioning users.

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Barely Any Lesbians by Neequxsan posted Apr 17


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LETS PLAY BANG OR PASS - redux by cass_uk posted Apr 23

Life Advice

Seeking any help that doesn't fit into the "Love Advice" forum? Post here.

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Scientists have uncovered why hipsters grow beards by vvarriors posted Today – 5:48am

Dating Advice

Post questions here, and you'll get advice from the OkCupid community. Everyone: be gentle.

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Busty women by TryUsingBees posted Today – 5:46am


Discussions about life and love.

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Why are asian women in particular afraid to approach/speak with me? by MsOtis posted Today – 2:59am

Hello Quizzy

Hello Quizzy is where tests are fun! Discuss interesting tests, tips and tricks for test creation, and get feedback for your latest test.

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Word Nerd: Fun words by roxxr posted Apr 23

Alternative Lifestyles

If you are worried about offending the mainstream post here.

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Why are most poly people on here fat, into video games, renfaires, and wiccan? by ctsnola posted Apr 24

Unmitigated Drama

For people who love that sort of thing.

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Let's write a happy story together. (five words each, please) by La-Ritournelle posted 20 minutes ago

Get Togethers
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Past Meetups

Interested in seeing what cities have had events, or sharing pics and stories from meetups you've already attended? Post here.

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Please review by controversyatx posted Apr 5

Group Meetups

Want to plan or attend a group OkCupid meetup in your area? This is the place!

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Any Californians still here?? (Esp NorCal) [drops pin] by Sapiosenses posted Apr 12