LaPonySwagJones

Mar 3

Recently, I've been having immense success on this site after many months of failure. FWIW, I am happily dating somebody right now, and had been on four dates with four different girls this month before deciding on one. I would not consider myself overly attractive, perhaps above average (took down pics). My main reason to post is I used to have very poor success rate with the site.

So here are my tips for guys who are struggling...

#1) Make your profile insanely funny. Steal other people's jokes, if you need to. Use content from a great author to describe yourself...Write your profile in a different language, etc. Use a ghetto or lolcatz translator, something ridiculous. Spend at least 5 hours on it. 

#2) Come off as unconventional and that you don't give a f%%%. Both in profile and messages.

#3) Only message girls who seem to share your sense of humor. Keep the message short and funny.

#4) Log in to the site ten times per day (on your phone) to get more views. This only takes a few secs. 

#5) Change your profile frequently to get more views. Make one minor edit, etc. Answer questions.

#6) Change your status from seeing someone to single or vice-versa often. This gets you views. 

#7) Have your hot female friends rate you highly or beg hot females to do so. There seems to be some odd formula where you are perceived as more desirable and shown to more attractive people when you're rated highly. You can even create your own fake female profile to do this, although you could get in trouble for that.

#8) Create two different profiles with slightly different approaches. Again, you might get banned, but this doubled my success rate, and I was never caught doing so. Worst case scenario, you save all your content and start a new one....

#9) Use pics that appear to be taken by somebody else. They should be action pics or you doing something mysterious. Have a female friend tell you which pics are your best. Or use a lame site like hotornot to get a sense for which ones are most attractive.

#10) Send most messages late at night (after midnight or later). You are most likely to be the top of a girl's inbox the next day. Use the site more on Sunday, or rainy days. 

Hope this helps! I know some of this is controversial, but this site is controversial. And if anybody wants to see the girls I've been out with, I will happily share their profiles. 

 

LaPonySwagJones

Mar 3

I should add, you will not have much luck meeting people if you don't have some sort of goal or vision for your life. 9/10 people asked me what I did before I met them. I would not include this in your profile, though. Let them ask. They just want you to be passionate about something, but telling them right away in your profile is more likely to make them judge you. 

Palebluedotizen

Mar 4

Thanks for the tips.

MisterCreep

Mar 4

You forgot the most important thing: HAVE FUN!

BiggestCockEver

Mar 4

LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST!

LaPonySwagJones

Mar 4

Duh

corn_dog_soup

Mar 4

This clown is onto something.  Although I'd personally take it easier on the ghetto translations (maybe a few sentences), my key to being successful is being really funny and interesting in my profile.  I've even gotten a conversation started by just having the first word in my profile turned upside down.  Look at lots of other profiles... men and women, find the common trends... and defy them.  See what the women commonly bitch about to get ideas of what irritates the masses.  Soliciting casual sex or talking about your junk immediately comes to mind.  Be a little more discreet if that's what you're actually looking for.

 

#5 always works good, and #6 really puts you on a lot of peoples' home screens, if you don't abuse it.  Logging in often helps too.  I used to Quickmatch large blocks of (like 200) people five stars when activity slowed down, too.  I don't so much anymore, but it seems to help get the ball rolling again.

 

There are some non-mirror photos that are really cliche, too.  Pics clearly taken in other countries, color run photos (at least for women), skydiving, bar shots, shit where you're trying to be overtly badass or macho (for men).  Setting the timer on a camera, then running out there and posing for a shot, is much better than a picture of your abs with a toilet visible over your shoulder.  I remember a guy who used to post in the forums who had a scenic photo of what looked like him stooped over, possibly farting on some flowers, as his default.  That was an example of a good picture.

 

And yes, this site tends to promote or advertise you more if you receive lots of visitors, messages, are rated highly a lot, and so forth.  

 

I don't send first messages anymore, and in fact make a big deal out of not doing so, but when I did, I found that subtly customizing a couple of details in your profile to a person you really want to respond is helpful.  I guess it also can also do the same when trying to entice someone into messaging you.  Key here is subtlety.

LaPonySwagJones

Mar 6

Amen, yea I agree with all you've added. My profile prob borders on being too long but I find it keeps people's interest to keep reading...

superhero2u

Mar 7

Not sure if serious.

LaPonySwagJones

Mar 7

100% serious. I swear to Jesus this stuff works. I mean we're not talking about guarantees (for incredibly ugly bastards), but we're talking greatly improving your chances. 

Note also that I live in Boston. Idk how this advice will play in more rural or southern areas. 

niturje

Mar 23

I've tried quite a few of the suggestions and have heard others suggest them as well, and they do help increase views a bit. I do fall into the "ugly bastard" and "soutnern area" categories though so the tips haven't helped me with replies or a date, but at the very least a few of them help with profile views.

So if nothing else, update your profile often and answer questions, it helps to bump you up to be viewed more often. After that it's up to how pretty you are.

squigless

Mar 23

As long as you're stealing other peoples' jokes and writing to describe yourself, you may as well just go onto the profile of a girl you wanna bang, and copy/paste all of her favorite foods/movies/musics/etc. and stuff from the other sections to make you two seem like two peas in a pod.

Of course it'll work. But honestly, if you've got to lie to get a girl to talk to you, why the fuck would you want to waste so much time and energy pursuing her anyway? It's a lot more rewarding to date people who admire you for the man you genuinely are.

niturje

Mar 23

I dunno where you're coming from with that reply.

From my experience on here it takes noting short of an act of god to make a girl reply to a message on here, let alone taking time to make a lie to get her to reply to.

squigless

Mar 23

I dunno where you're coming from with that reply.

It's in response to OP's instruction to "steal other people's jokes" and to "use content from a great author to describe yourself." It wasn't aimed at you specifically.

Anyway, perhaps I'm old-skool, but if you're not getting any play, I wouldn't say the solution is to lie about yourself so as to appear more attractive; the solution is to genuinely improve yourself so that you are more attractive.

Willpower. Determination. Ambition. Embody these traits, and women will flock to you in droves - no act of god required.

TryUsingBees

Mar 23

but if you're not getting any play, I wouldn't say the solution is to lie about yourself so as to appear more attractive; the solution is to genuinely improve yourself so that you are more attractive.

Willpower. Determination. Ambition. Embody these traits, and women will flock to you in droves - no act of god required.

This is correct.

And even if those traits aren't your thing, you can find other attractive traits to embody.

Forum dudes always think they can find some Konami code to unlock access to vags and true love, but that isn't how it works. If you are an admirable person, women will admire you. If not, that's where your effort should be going.

Sushibitch

Mar 23

From my experience on here it takes noting short of an act of god to make a girl reply to a message on here,

If you're not getting replies, chances are you're writing messages which just aren't very interesting or appealing. It may be worth reading some of the other threads here about exactly this, or posting an example or two of the kind of messages you're sending, for some feedback.

WskyTangoFoxtrot

Mar 23

From my experience on here it takes noting short of an act of god to make a girl reply to a message on here,

I only email 2-5 profiles a week...   After sorting out who emails me first there are still more I like than who reply to my first contact.  However, It's 50-60% replies for me the last few weeks.  God must like me...  The cause of this response rate really is learning how to select the right ones to email.   

I start by searching sorted by join date and then I use google image on all interesting results to check for catfish/scam/etc.  

The newer they are to OKC the better.  If they have been on a while they either become burned out by all the daily douche-mail or jaded/nitpicky/stuck up..    

Image search will allow you to see if that photo really belongs to someone else or has been used by scammers.  

After that I read every line of their profile in order to pick up on personality and sort some out.. Example, any profiles that reek of entitlement issues get ignored..   

Out of 100 profiles I run through my pre-messaging checks and balances there might be 2-3 left worth messaging. 

Why compose the perfect message only to send it off to a fake or someone stuck up enough to make a Kardashian jealous?  Choosing who you are saying it to is more important than figuring out what to write. 

After trying various online dating sites over a few years what seems to be the bottom line is .9% of it is knowing how to pick the right ones to approach.  What you say is only .1% of it so just 2-3 good lines of email are all you need the first message.  The remaining 99% is all about your profile photos.  

Mathman1ca

Mar 26

"From my experience on here it takes noting short of an act of god to make a girl reply to a message on here,"

If you're not getting replies, chances are you're writing messages which just aren't very interesting or appealing. It may be worth reading some of the other threads here about exactly this, or posting an example or two of the kind of messages you're sending, for some feedback.

You should read the man's profile sushi. This may shed light on a few key details. 

But I agree with him. Most guy's just don't get many messages. Perhaps this is because there are so many more men than women, or because people tend to go towards their most natural state when online (women scrutinize more, men send idiotic messages more) or because large cities with a lot of high powered professionals tend to have a statistically high amount of racist/sizeist/moneyist women (Dammit, where is that article?). 

The sentiment that men just need to send better messages obfuscates from the fact that a message can be good to one person, but be bad to another. Also, that a message is what gets the reply in the first place. Sometimes people just reply to the person/profile...of course a message can reduce chances if it is sufficiently terrible, so.

lost7194found

Mar 27

anyone have any good examples of what "good message" is? Personally it seems to make things more difficult / unnecessary to put to much thought into two stupid lines in a stupid text.

Sometimes it seems just saying "Hi" is enough. 

Curious what others think

Sushibitch

Mar 27

anyone have any good examples of what "good message" is?

I would say that a good message has to be personal to the person sending it and the person they're sending it to; as such, it's quite hard to suggest examples, because an example which worked when person A sent it to person B will be useless when person C sends it to person D.

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