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RenoiteGuy

Jan 8

It's just imbalanced beyond repair. There's like at least 4-5 guys per single woman and it doesn't help a lot of these guys are horny spammers who flood out ones who are for actual relationships. I think a few years ago online dating worked but now it's cluster fuck.

HottieUnlimited

Jan 9

No, still works. Try working out.

MusicMogul

Jan 9

I'm currently dating (as in just going on dates) with three different women I met online. But then again the gay community here isn't that big so not a whole lot of spamming going on.

I also have noticed that if I just check out a girls' profile a couple times and she checks mine out a couple times, and I see her out at the bar/club, she will more than likely approach me asking if I am from on here. And then boom, get her number. Works like a charm

RenoiteGuy

Jan 9

Didn't know going to the gym magically makes online dating work, if that was the case I would be in like 50 relationships by now.

HottieUnlimited

Jan 10

Being a dweeb magically makes online dating not work.

RenoiteGuy

Jan 10

I bet it works well for assholes, and you should take your own advice with the gym you don't exactly look like an Olympian yourself.

MademoiseleP

Jan 10

Hear hear ..  Relationships/dating is getting quicker and shorter with Tinder/HotorNot type apps. Truly, people looking for something really valuable online in my experience are growing less  by the hour. Every want is easily accessible and satisfied depending on location and in an hour . Most people opt for the now -   instead of the content/quality .

HottieUnlimited

Jan 10

I am hot & smart, I don't need to go to the gym. 

You're a stupid nerd, and the gym won't work for you, I was just hoping you'd have a dumbbell fall on your face or something.

La-Ritournelle

Jan 10

so youre saying I should have some beautiful women at the gym throw dumb-bells at my face?

is that the secret?

should I throw the first dumb-bell, or just wait for her to throw one?

RocKrawlin

Jan 11

sausage fest.....enough said

PicRelated

Jan 12

I definitely think there should be some sort of anti-spam policies implemented to prevent creepy old sugar daddies from copy/pasting the same message to 200 profiles. Maybe a captcha would be required after sending a certain number of messages in an hour? Or maybe some kind of originality filter that would "mute" your message after sending too many identical ones.

RenoiteGuy

Jan 14

HottieUnlimited is so attractive and smart that he doesn't need to put any effort into getting the ladies as he spends more time trolling on the okcupid forums instead of chasing after the ladies.

HottieUnlimited

Jan 16

Did ur mom help u w/ that one?

MisterCreep

Jan 16

There's like at least 4-5 guys per single woman and it doesn't help a lot of these guys are horny spammers who flood out ones who are for actual relationships.

 

 

FOR YOUR INFORMATION! Some us horny spammers are looking for relationships too. Douche!

 

 

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    Hear hear ..  Relationships/dating is getting quicker and shorter with Tinder/HotorNot type apps. Truly, people looking for something really valuable online in my experience are growing less  by the hour. Every want is easily accessible and satisfied depending on location and in an hour . Most people opt for the now -   instead of the content/quality .

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XozWJgzgnT8

     

    ExtremeDating

    Jan 17

    It's just imbalanced beyond repair. There's like at least 4-5 guys per single woman

    That sounds like a guess on your part. A few years ago, the official ratio from OkCupid staff was 4:3 men:women, and Quantcast traffic demographics supported this ratio.

    Online dating works for plenty of guys. Ignoring heteronormativity, each date a girl gets is a date some guy gets. If a minority of guys are doing all the dating, that's just a reflection on the fact that most guys on OkCupid are some combination of ugly, stupid, unfunny, boring, ass-kissing, approval-seeking, and anti-Taoist.

    WskyTangoFoxtrot

    Jan 19

    It's imbalanced but not due to an imbalance in the ratio of male to female profiles.. 

    An average man who sends 18 messages to women his own age can be 50% certain he'll receive at least one response. For women, they need to send only 5 messages to be 50% certain they'll get a response. 

    Looking at higher confidence levels, if a woman wants to be 90% certain she'll receive a response from a man her own age, she'll have to send 13 messages. A man will have to send 58 messages.

    Finally, to be 99% certain she'll receive a response, a woman must send 25 messages to men her own age. 

    A man will have to send 114 .

    This leads us to believe that one potential cause of the disparity between the male response rate and female response rate is the system itself.

    If men must spam women with messages in order to elicit a response, then women will be more selective when responding to the surplus in general. Since women are understandably disinclined to respond to all the messages, men must send out more in order to guarantee any response. It's cyclic. 

    Everyone is acting in their own self interest, inadvertently leading to further imbalances in the system. 

    It's one of the fundamental issues with online dating in general. 

    That's why...  http://www.businessinsider.com/online-dating-message-statistics-2013-7

    It's also why I have not sent a first message in weeks.. 

     

    ZarethKnyght

    Jan 19

    Interesting article Yipeekiyamf. Can't say that I'm too surprised though.

    WskyTangoFoxtrot

    Jan 19

    I have not sent the first message since 2013..    Today I was emailed first by an attractive woman and her profile started out ": Warning: I like the man to make the first move. :)"  

    Really work on your photos and your profile.   Then sit back and relax because done right you can trigger even an out of character message. 

    TryUsingBees

    Jan 19

    Online dating is fun and easy, and if you're having trouble it's because you suck at it.

    WskyTangoFoxtrot

    Jan 19

    Don't try too hard..  If you try to force it, it will turn out crappy.  

    Kind of like a fart..  

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