zyxz

Jan 7, 2009

I've met some jerks in my life, but this one has been by far the worst.
I'll start off by saying how I noticed a lot of men here complain about not getting messages. Therefore, I decided to take it upon myself to message men in my area who I found interesting. This one in particular was creative, intelligent and handsome...or so his profile led me to believe. We messaged each other on and off through here and IM for about 3 weeks before we met. It's amazing how much of a connection you can make with someone just by talking to them online. We had a lot in common and a lot of the same outlooks. I could not wait to meet him in person.

So the day we meet rolls around and I dress up nicely and wear my hair beautifully, and let's face it...I looked HOT. We meet at a little cafe/restaurant place, and he was just...rude. He barely made eye contact with me, he spoke in a bored monotone voice. I did most of the talking, and I swear to God he would kind of roll his eyes in a childish way. He habitually checked his watch and his cell phone. When the meal ended he only offered to pay for his half, and then bails. Doesn't offer me a ride or anything. What did I do wrong? It was so depressing since I really liked him online.

Naturally, I go home and drink almost a full bottle of wine when I get a text message from him. He asks if I want to come over his place and hang out, maybe watch a movie. I thought "This is great, he's going to make it up to me and maybe he was just nervous before". Well I get there and drink some more with him, and next thing you know we're having sex. At the end of the night he calls me a cab and I go home, THINKING that this is just the first of many dates. The last thing he said was that he'd call to take me out to concert nearby.

A week comes and goes, no word from him. I text him and no reply. I call and get the answering machine. I write him on Okcupid and he deletes his whole account. I was so baffled. That was until saw that he created a NEW profile just yesterday. All it says is that he had a bad okcupid experience, and to please have a full shot of your body.

Ok. I get what this asshole did. He treated me like complete shit because I'm not super model skinny. I don't have a full body pic, but I did tell him that I was average, which is TRUE. I am average, I have curves, I don't fit into a size skinny jeans. Is this reason to treat me the way he did? GOD it's scumbags like these which make me lose all faith in mankind!!!
Hamden1

Jan 7, 2009

We meet at a little cafe/restaurant place, and he was just...rude. He barely made eye contact with me, he spoke in a bored monotone voice. I did most of the talking, and I swear to God he would kind of roll his eyes in a childish way. He habitually checked his watch and his cell phone. When the meal ended he only offered to pay for his half, and then bails. Doesn't offer me a ride or anything.

That sucks I was totally prepared to agree with you that this dude was a jerk and all that when all of a sudden...

Naturally, I go home and drink almost a full bottle of wine when I get a text message from him. He asks if I want to come over his place and hang out, maybe watch a movie. I thought "This is great, he's going to make it up to me and maybe he was just nervous before". Well I get there and drink some more with him, and next thing you know we're having sex.

lol wut

zyxz

Jan 7, 2009

Yeah, I was drinking and the dipshit took advantage.
RansomReynolds

Jan 7, 2009

ouch... that sucks hard. You really got played... mostly by yourself though. Take it as a learning experience. If someone doesn't show you respect from the get go, let them go.
MajorThomas

Jan 7, 2009

I don't know where to start.
MajorThomas

Jan 7, 2009

why did you have sex with him when he was acting like a jerk? oh ya the alcohol
Hamden1

Jan 7, 2009

More like you had sex with some dude you met online.

Damn, beat. I was busy for a few.

ridilinkid

Jan 7, 2009

so lets see this guy was a total dick to you during the date and to teach him a lesson you went over to his place and fucked him. oh yeah, you showed him! dude seriously......
MajorThomas

Jan 7, 2009

So this is a Success? I need to incorporate more booze into my dating routine.
green_lantern18

Jan 7, 2009

who woulda thought that some guy would ever do this sort of thing?
Paragon19

Jan 7, 2009

Fair warning: I will not react kindly if you have no FBS in your profile, or at least down to the waist, and then find you're not what I imagined. I think that goes for a lot of us. You're the one who didn't provide one in first place.


Also, maybe lay off the booze.
zyxz

Jan 7, 2009

I told him I was average. You're all missing the point!
mikeaz123

Jan 7, 2009

Hey, at least you got some sex out of it. I had a recent dating experience that was the same as yours, except she didn't pay for her end of the bill, and it ended after we left the restaurant.
ShivaTheMascot

Jan 7, 2009

Oh man I could not believe the surprise when I saw this shit posted for everyone to see. I was so tempted not to respond, but here goes. I'm the "scumbag" she so kindly described in the above scenario. I have so much to say I don't know where to begin...
absurdadventure

Jan 7, 2009

I've been hanging out in the forums FAR too long. I've reached a point where the trolls and the actually stupid have become one amorphous entity and I can no longer tell the difference. I think the only reasonable thing to do at this point is have a mental breakdown.. brb.
BLACKHEARTNINE

Jan 7, 2009

I agree with the above posts, if you think he's a jerk right away, your instincts may be saying something to you. Also, if you find yourself in a predicament like that and are unsure, stay a bit sober so you can get the full picture of his personality. Then, you leave and you get a text? Ahhhhhh...go home. Too late now, but yeah, that was a last stich attempt at a booty call. Oh well. Live and learn.
Hamden1

Jan 7, 2009

No. You're missing the point. He is a JERK. You know he is a JERK. His response after re-creating his profile is the response of a JERK.

Yes. A new challenger appears... Shiva what's your side of the story? Why did you take advantage of this young lady?

wild9

Jan 7, 2009

zyxz: "I told him I was average. You're all missing the point!"

yeah everyone, this is america... average = slightly overweight

Paragon19

Jan 7, 2009

^^More importantly, was it worth it?
gnarfle

Jan 7, 2009

You had me until the part where you agreed to go over to the house of a really rude guy who was not interested in you and have sex with him.

What the hell?

I'm getting some popcorn and waiting for Shiva's response, this should get interesting.

Side note, why the hell do so many people bash okcupid dates on the forums? Do you think no one else on the site ever visits them?

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