WskyTangoFoxtrot

May 10, 2013

Looking into statistics 33% of men in my age group are obese and 93% in my group earn less.  I wonder what the numbers are for being truly fit or not having any kids?

Even shortly after earning a purple heart I feel great at 38.  I think about my attributes and how interesting it would be to see just how small a percentage of single men in their 30's combine,intelligence, morals, fitness, no kids, wealth, not balding..etc..   

Sh*t  I get hit on minding my own business in real life.  Online it's 40% replies with only 1 in 100 replies actually turning into a date. Most replies are fakes, flakes and catfishers that evade GIS and other methods.

I also wonder what % of women with profiles actually date anyone. The girlfriend of my best friend says most her GFs have impossible standards online yet get buzzed and hookup with much lower standards when they go out.  

 

asudevil16

May 10, 2013

That's just how it goes online. Finding someone on a website is a slippery slope since people can be and often are a lot different in person than they are through messaging. It makes women skeptical from the start. Then you have to consider that most of them have scores of messages to wade through, so it takes a lot for any one guy to stand out. And I think messages often don't end up sounding as good to the girl as they do in the guy's head as he's writing it. A lot gets lost in the translation so to speak.

In the end, this should be treated as nothing more than something you look into here and there when you're bored, on the off chance that something may eventually come of it. It's sort of like buying a scratcher ticket.

Your best bet will always be meeting someone in person through work or mutual friends.

rip59

May 11, 2013

^ Pretty sensible post.  Ah, OP, getting hit on IRL , as you profess , is cool.  Why resort to on-line?  Just askin.  Congrats the decoration , thank-you. 

Tulefel

May 11, 2013

On line dating involves a lot of imagination, so chances are you are not competing with overweight, dull and sweaty loser with poor teeth, but with Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt or whoever is regarded as etalon of male beauty and success the current week. (Women face the very same kind of competition, if it’s any consolation.)

 

And as already has been said: why to complain about lack of success on line when you’ve got all you want in the real world? Or is it just another women bashing thread?

 

lmaoroflwtflolz

May 11, 2013

All us perfect guys are getting all the women.

None for you.

Deal with it.

bikesbeerbourbon

May 11, 2013

I have a respectable reply rate and an extremely high reply to date ratio. I attribute this to my not being a douchebag, which even many men who earn good money, are in their 30s, have no kids, aren't bald, are in shape and smart tend to be. So I'm with lmaoroflwtflolz on this one.

Nyamuk

May 11, 2013

Wait...OP, it really news to you that sometimes people sleep with people they wouldn't want to date? We have a whole underground industry based on that concept...

Chaeddd

May 11, 2013

Nobody's perfect. If a man is close to perfection he is already married.

Chaeddd

May 11, 2013

My advice to you Nyamuk, is check the obituaries for married women who have died while they are still young. Go to her wake. You will find a widower there who is more likely to have the characteristics you want in a man.

Nyamuk

May 11, 2013

My suggestion for you is that you move to a state where cousin marriage is legal.

Chaeddd

May 11, 2013

both of my cousins who I would want to marry are already married.

Sushibitch

May 11, 2013

Thing is, OP, the "perfect" attributes you're listing are nice and all (although not necessary for some people; some women are quite happy to date someone who's balding or tubby, for example, or aren't very interested in how much a guy earns), but they may not be what women are actually looking for. You could look like Brad Pitt and earn as much as he does, but online, if the messages you're sending make you seem humourless or misogynistic or, perhaps worst of all, boring, you're not going to get many dates.

Since you bang on at every opportunity (and indeed create threads for the sole purpose, as far as I can tell) about how often you get hit on in person I honestly don't know why you don't just date the women who hit on you in person and stop whinging about your lack of success, but the fact is, the comment variable in all your lack of success is you. If what you're doing isn't working, then do something different; complaining about how it's all women's fault may make you feel better, but it isn't actually going to help.

Nyamuk

May 11, 2013

He likely thinks that the women who hit on him in person aren't good enough. 

It's the same old cry thread. It all boils down to "Only men are allowed to have standards."

WskyTangoFoxtrot

May 11, 2013

Initially online was a way to broaden my social exposure and meet more women than I would would meet with a bust work schedule.    When I deployed it was nearly the only way to be exposed to new women.  

 

M_ss_ng-L_nk

May 11, 2013

intelligence, morals, fitness, no kids, wealth, not balding..etc..   

Thing is, OP, women don't really give a shit about this stuff IRL. On the internet this stuff is crucial to getting you that second look because initially this is all women have to go by, but once you start conversing it's all about personality and how you make them feel.

Real life encounters are a lot more efficient because you can skip the attribute check (all those things you listed) and dive straight on into their emotional world. Even dumb, amoral, fat, balding, poor fathers will get more pussy than you if they know how to masturbate a woman's emotions.

WskyTangoFoxtrot

May 11, 2013

Everyone can and should have standards.  The problem online is unrealistic ones.

Disgusting fat body guys will send a lewd hooked on phonics email only to the closest they can find to a Victoria's Secret model.  Most women from slightly above average and beyond come off as more demanding and pretentious than absurdly attractive women I have met IRL.   There I bashed both genders.. 

Numerous women sent me emails thanking me for serving and talked about having a brother or sister overseas.   At the end they added they were not interested.   When I ask why not date someone doing something they respect the answer is they respect what we do and go through but won't date because of it.

On the way back I spent a week just outside DC. Changing just my location to match resulted in many emails.  Responses when I emailed were really high.  I have lived and worked many places in the US and overseas.  East coast, Midwest, West Coast and places inbetween.  LA is the absolutely the toughest for dating by a long shot. So brakoholic enjoy Ohio... it does not exactly take rocket science there.

Nyamuk

May 11, 2013

I think it's perfectly acceptable to respect what someone does but not want it to be an intimate part of one's life. 

And if you're curious about how if any women on here date IRL, I will direct you to the conspicuous absence of threads on here started by women whining about how men way out of their leagues won't date them.

WskyTangoFoxtrot

May 11, 2013

Considering men do most the work from contacting to date planning it's easy for women.  Few have anything to complain about apart from geezers and pervs to ignore.  When they do complain women are more passive aggressive about it. Instead of whining about how men out of their league won't date them they flame men in forums who ironically also would not date them. 

After years and years of being able to date some great women making passes offline I know where my league is.  Most women online think they rate higher than reality.  Instead of lowering my standards I'll just log off and get out.  Problem solved.

M_ss_ng-L_nk

May 11, 2013

Instead of lowering my standards I'll just log off and get out.  Problem solved.

Great. So quit looking to us to validate your decision, and fucking do it.

Nyamuk

May 11, 2013

When they do complain women are more passive aggressive about it. Instead of whining about how men out of their league won't date them they flame men in forums who ironically also would not date them. 

Again, we're not the ones with the problem getting dates. You can choose to listen what people ITF have to say, you can choose not to, but at the end of the day, you're the one with the issue.

For example, you might think a girl like me would be "lucky" to get a guy like you. I, however, think the prospect of letting someone who was in middle school when I was in diapers near me is more than a little icky. See? We both have standards. They both filter people from our respective dating pools. But I'm not the one with the problem getting someone who meets my standards to go out with me.

So, therefore...

quit looking to us to validate your decision, and fucking do it.

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