_imaginary_

Apr 26, 2013

Meaning, who here really has one?  Note that it's a western cultural thing to assume 'alternative' here means something sexually involved. I dispute that because the form of your sexuality may be interesting but it's just fulfilling your need for physical interaction. Abstinence.....um, outside of any religious or otherwise psychological issues.....would be an alternative.

So, fire away.....

Rodney69

Apr 26, 2013

I think I would actually consider being asexual as an alternative lifestyle. I would say, as far as this website is concerned, anything that is not a hetero couple is alternative. That is only because this site is clearly based on monogamous values. 

As such, I would consider my relationship an alternative to that.

What9Thousand

Apr 26, 2013

I form non-exclusive partnerships. That's alternative, right?

daishaface

Apr 26, 2013

3 parent home?

DrGeniusWiener

Apr 26, 2013

Nothing alternative about my lifestyle.

I'm just a guy who likes to fuck.

_imaginary_

Apr 27, 2013

@DrGeniusWiener: HAHN HAHN HAHN HAHN HAHN, GOOD ANSWER.

@Rodney69: OKC's format is het strong, while also allowing a slew of other things, to an arguably significant degree. That people need to belong to any group, let alone be represented by and representative of one, is their problem.

@What9Thousand & Daishaface: following on that last, and re-enforcing my initial statement: not if they're subscribing to and being led by *any* cultural convention/practice, let alone biological imperative.

While 'alternative' is contextual, the 'why' it is or might be is more important than that it is. The 'whys' in most cases today are not only limited in scope, they're trivial.

Lilith-Luluwa

Apr 27, 2013

Polyamorous and in an authority exchange relationship - beyond that, involved in some of the sub groups of the goth community that tend to squick even those in some of the edgier BDSM players in the BDSM community.  :-)

_imaginary_

Apr 28, 2013

Squick? Haven't seen that one. You meant repulse, and not eclipse, right?

Anyways. These things are not lifestyles, but elements of lifestyles. It's like diet. It's what you eat, in large. Now serious drug addicts you can say drug use is there lifestyle, although theft and usery and other shit might be under that umbrella.

An alternative lifestyle would be something without cultural context.

daishaface

Apr 28, 2013

So are any of us schizophrenics stumbling through life in one long chaotic episode?  Maybe mayo.

What9Thousand

Apr 28, 2013

An alternative lifestyle would be something without cultural context.

That's stupid. Why would that be your definition for an alternative lifestyle? There's nothing about the word 'alternative' that implies that. Any kind of lifestyle sufficiently divorced from the mainstream should be an alternative lifestyle, and we can argue about what constitutes sufficiency, or what the word 'lifestyle' truly encompasses, but to arbitrarily decide that an alternative lifestyle needs to be devoid of cultural context is silly; you're not going to find anyone here like that.

smashingmayo

Apr 28, 2013

Im not a schizo. I'm just awesome-o.
_imaginary_

Apr 29, 2013

you're not going to find anyone here like that.

Beside myself, there may be a few. I like how you get all fussy about it, though. There are....alternative....thoughts to yours. Like, perhaps there are no 'alternative' lifestyles, but merely lifestyles. This would satisfy your need to be included, yet allow you in your desire to be separate. Hmm.

@daishaface: a lack of goal(s) does seem to make most aimless. Alas, there are....alternative....modes.

What9Thousand

Apr 29, 2013

Beside myself, there may be a few.

Wait, you think your lifestyle has no cultural context? None at all?

You are mistaken.

Like, perhaps there are no 'alternative' lifestyles, but merely lifestyles.

Okay, but let's go back to the part where you said that 'alternative' means 'without cultural context', because I don't care about the rest of this thread, and that's the part I'm harassing you for.

daishaface

Apr 29, 2013

Yeah, I think this dude must be working with some sort of ridiculously narrow concept of what culture is.

Maybe me means he lives media-free or some shit.

lmaoroflwtflolz

Apr 29, 2013

I'm a LARPer. I don't take it to the same extent as others, but there are some who travel the country to spend every weekend doing it. It is a lifestyle to them, but only a part-time hobby to me.

RuralRouter

Apr 30, 2013

I think the OP is trying to say that the term 'alternative lifestyle' connotes certain things to most people who hear it or use it, and excludes some other things which, arguably, are just as 'alternative'.

calandale1

Apr 30, 2013

My whole life has always been pretty much outside any normal range.

I blunder around in shadows, not seeing how others can survive as they do.

_imaginary_

Apr 30, 2013

I think the OP is trying to say that the term 'alternative lifestyle' connotes certain things to most people who hear it or use it, and excludes some other things...

due to a need for categorical, and sub-cultural, identity. Even biological identity.

Things in the cosmos are interesting, fun, exciting, useful...but they do not define me. That I use them, and more importantly *how* I use them, is how I'm defined. Like anything in the cosmos is defined - by its function.

I do not 'belong', though I do exist.

People would have a lot less problem if they realised a similar mode. But the topic is more generally about the dissolution of the need for identity. One step at a time, you know.

Camuscando

May 1, 2013

_imaginary_

May 1, 2013

Alternative? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xmUZ6nCFNoU

Oh, probably nowadays it's called proto-alt rock neo-psychadelic. Um, Core. Yeah.

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