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nahgems
30 / F / Straight / Married
East Rochester, New York
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I'm not saying I'm homicidal....
I try to be a fantastic person. I volunteer, I'm vegetarian (except gummi bears), and I use energy efficient light bulbs. I subscribe to greendimes so that I'm not contributing to the 100 million trees that are ground up each year for unsolicited mail.
But there are lots of things that I don't do. For example, I'm sure most of my clothes were produced in horrible fiery sweatshops by starving abused children with big sad puppy dog eyes. And I still eat gummi bears with gelatin (and I mostly don't feel bad about it). I'm not perfect (or even close).
The people that I enjoy spending time with don't have to choose the same causes as I do. They don't have to tutor, rescue puppies, or be vegetarian. Some of my friends are actively involved in politics (I'm not really, and I realize I should be). Some take underpaid jobs that help society instead of rockstar jobs that pay well. But generally the people that I like try to have a net positive impact on the world.
Then I started thinking about what having a "net positive impact" means. According to the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency, the average American generates about 4.5 pounds of trash per day, with just over 1 pound of that being diverted for recycling. And In a single year, the average American home uses about 84,000 cubic feet of natural gas for heating and cooling, heating water, cooking, and other purposes. There are countless atrocities that happen far away (and we are all vaguely aware of) that go into making our everyday lives as comfortable as they are. And while we all realize that all of our consumable goods have a horrible impact on the world, we generally ignore this.
I'm not so sure that tutoring one night a week, and fostering puppies, and avoiding meat, and mostly recycling, and stopping my junk mail, and fostering kids, and using energy efficient light bulbs can make up for that. I don't think I have a net positive impact on the world. Perhaps it would be a better place without me?
I'm not saying I'm suicidal (or homicidal). But I am having a
really hard time justifying my existence and I try really hard to
be a good person. I'm having an even harder time justifying almost
everyone else’s. At this point I don't really think any of
us have a net positive impact on the world. Do you?
UnsaneUnicorn commented on
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nahgems commented on
Sure, as USers we have a lot of impact on the world that isn't fair. But here we are, doing what we can, and although it is limited, it's not nothing.
There is sure a lot of freeflowing angst out there lately. I've never seen so much meanness on okc, for instance, and it could be a reaction to all the proscribed feelgood of the season.
Treat yourself to something that makes you feel glad to be alive for at least a short time. You can't be an asshole, or you would be doing it all the time, in much more damaging ways than eating gelatin.
mcwho commented on
nahgems commented on
If we judge it on the highest level- well- it's all ultimately moot. One day some rock will slam into us, or a our sun will die, or the universe itself will collapse. And we will have NOTHING to do with it.
But I'm going to assume we're on a more immediate level- the wellbeing of life. In which case, no one's going to have a "positive" impact. We're mammals- our entire physiology is built around absorbing from others. Worse still, we're *predators*- we're designed to ENJOY destruction. And we're tool users- designed to enjoy creating. And we're far too good at merging those two pleasures together.
Far as I'm concerned- the only truly positive thing we can do is improve humanity. If we can get ourselves, and our favorite species, off this planet- then we'll be making a real difference. What's one puppy on earth compared to a million of them living quite cheerfully on mars, venus, or some unnamed rock under an alien star?
A former user commented on
Oh, good. I was noticing that, but having been on the site less than a year, I thought I must be misunderstanding some phase we go through from time to time.
Diacritic commented on
When I first came on Pumba was being driven off by a "gang" after he got to be just too much. Various people disappeared and reappeared as others, and it calmed down. It may well be a cycle, and it may well be a very human tendency of predation and digestion and search for connection gone haywire.
I suppose we all do a lot of evil without realizing it, but I like to create magical beliefs to soothe myself. I believe that humanity is growing into a greater collective unconscious which will allow us to improve our lives for a common good.
Kinda like Santa flying around giving everybody presents.
Whatever works for everyone is what they get to create. I'm not too interested in destruction.
mcwho commented on
Of course, no one cares about bugs- they're not cute and fuzzy. We humans only feel bad for the destruction of animals we like.
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nahgems commented on
I admit I destroy, but try to be conscious of it and limit it.
You can just tie yourself up into knots if you take this too far. I'm fighting self-hatred, not feeding it.
mcwho commented on
I have noticed that as well, I attributed that to finals and the holiday season. Last year around this time I received my first hate mail from OKC, but I do not recall the meanness to be so ubiquitous.
The barrier to having a net-positive impact on the world is that we have yet to figure out how.
hippie2049 commented on
Humans are merely the most skilled at an ancient, selfish, killing art. It's a truth. And truth, like nature, is rarely kind. Beautiful, absolutely- but not kind. We can mitigate our destructive forces- even to the point where nature's healing potential exceeds our destructive influence- but we cannot change it.
The best we can hope for is to make our presence worth it. To make our impact as a whole worthy of what it costs our world. It isn't something to despise or mourn- it's something to remember. A sacred responsibility to ourselves, our species, and our world.
In purely human terms- your son- was he worth the effort of carrying, birthing, and then caretaking? It's an apt, if somewhat incomplete, analogy.
A former user commented on
I'm with nahgems in that I think levels of cognizance matter. I think the degree to which something can feel its own suffering matters as much as the degree of that pain. I also think happiness has a value, and that an action's potential to cause happiness needs to be weighed against its potential to cause suffering in order to determine its moral value.
I think it's reasonable to place humans on top of that scale of suffering, with mammals being most of the creatures near enough to worry about; I also tend to treat octopi as basically sapient, because I think that their cognizance is an open question.
I try to minimize the amount of human suffering I cause, and maximize the amount that I alleviate. I do contribute to causes of suffering, but it's important to realize that my contribution is a small portion of large-scale problems, while my personal impact on other things is relatively large. Buying a shirt made in a sweatshop should be avoided as much as possible, but it's also important not to take full responsibility for the existence of every sweatshop just for the act of buying one shirt. The action is not blameless, but the blame is small, and the impact of not taking that particular action is miniscule.
nahgems, you say you subscribe to GreenDimes. That particular action has a relatively large, personal, positive impact on the environment, compared with not subscribing to GreenDimes. If you want to see things in terms of net happiness created, or net suffering alleviated, it "pays for" a lot of neglecting to check into the backgrounds of the companies that produce your clothing.
Now, it would also be easy to succumb to availability bias here. I may overestimate my positive impact merely because I can see it, and minimize my negative because I can't. I'm open to being convinced of that. What I'm not going to do is pretend that I'm Atlas, and that every time anyone in the world suffers it is partly my fault because, if I'd known, I could have done something about it.
Well, I'm not going to do that very often. Only when I'm feeling down on myself.
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The fact that J. Craig Venter exists is a tribute to the unique land of which you are a citizen. He is a brilliant product of democracy and capitalism and he would be happy to personally tell you that. When he led the race to chart the human genome he inspired a coalition of scientists to join a U.S. government-sponsored effort, because people were frightened that he would patent his findings. He, of course, beat them, his small team against a massive elite squad. A compromise was made and a joint annoucement was made at Clinton's White House but observers of that race have never forgotten the brilliant innovations of Venter.
You should be proud of that American and proud to live in a democracy. The West for the last few decades has made major efforts to recycle and to find new energy sources. In the nineteenth century whales were on the point of extinction and their much needed oil was close to vanishing. What happened in America saved the day. Oil was discovered and now it appears that once again in America and in Europe new reliable energy sources will be found.
There will come a day, due to people like Venter, that we will clean up our industrial messes, and, of course, you're to be commended for being so conscientious. To answer your question: I will just point to Venter. Venter exists because America exists. You won't find a Venter in that land that used to be called Burma.
When it comes to deciding if it is worth it to have painters, sculptors, dramatists, novelists, orchestras and guitarists, pianists, violinist, you are framing the question so that you reduce everyone to the level of communism where all are of equal worthlessness. That's how you currently feel?
I am proud to be free and proud to a citizen of two democracies.
Your worth can be found in that you live in a free society and can speak your mind. What you make of that opportunity says everything about you.
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sebastianknight commented on
Yes you do. Yes I do. Don't be stupid.
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A former user commented on
Okay darling much-knowing one, champion of specific language, so what is a "net positive impact," in your decidedly not humble opinion? How does one achieve such an impact? And what is stupid about questioning it?
I am ignoring your /end tag, obviously.
A former user commented on
So?
And what do you mean by "any of us"? Humanity? Do you believe the world has any purpose outside of what humans assign it?
A former user commented on
Everyone has their own unique answer to these questions, and none is objectively better or worse than any other. That's irrelevant to my point, which is: People who do not think they have a net positive impact on the world remove themselves from it.
And what is stupid about questioning it?
There is nothing stupid about questioning it. What's stupid is claiming to have reached the conclusion that the OP did. If you truly did not believe that anyone had a net positive impact on the world, you would make it your life's work to eradicate humanity, including yourself. So either she does not really believe this, or she is too stupid to follow her train of thought to its logical conclusion and do something about it.
A former user commented on
or... she is trying to find a way to have a net positive impact that isn't the eradication of humanity. i assume this is partly because the destruction of humanity is (to her) a far worse alternative than letting humanity exist.
dur...
A former user commented on
Maybe I'm a horribly selfish person and I don't really care that my net impact (and everyone else's) is negative. And there are certainly large groups of people who I unquestionably think contribute nothing positive to society (the entire state of Indiana, and any other fundamentalist Christians who spend all day watching Jerry Springer reruns). Just because I truely believe that, doesn't mean I am going to nuke them. That would make me feel guilty. And I hate guilt.
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eliteromance commented on
Regulation won't solve it by itself. The tax structure must shift off of income and payroll to pollution and stop subsidizing energy to make it cheap (subsidize rather energy efficiency upgrades). That way society is not wasting so much of the energy.
<em>and I'm so cynical about government and politics that I can't convince myself to try to make any difference there.</em>I don't know where's the most efficient entry point into politics in the US. Cities have a large roll to play to achieve sustainability and I suspect city politics is much easier to get involved with than national politics.
picardData commented on
If she thinks the destruction of humanity is a far worse alternative than letting humanity exist, then she believes that humanity already has a net positive impact.
dur...
A former user commented on
It is because you are a horribly selfish person that we can be sure you don't actually believe this. You value your life, or you would end it. This is self-evident (metalol).
And there are certainly large groups of people who I unquestionably think contribute nothing positive to society (the entire state of Indiana, and any other fundamentalist Christians who spend all day watching Jerry Springer reruns). Just because I truely believe that, doesn't mean I am going to nuke them. That would make me feel guilty. And I hate guilt.
If you truly believed that, then you would not feel guilty about nuking them. You are mistaken.
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