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-Sandy

55 M Vancouver, British Columbia, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:21am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
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The surprise, of course, was to find myself at this age: still whole, still healthy - and still alive. The fact is that I hadn't made plans for that eventuality. Luckily, I've accidentally had several successful careers- and successfully learned to live relatively simply, with a small carbon foot-print. I've also found a career which incorporates intellectual stimulation, enjoyable physical work - and sufficient chaos to satisfy my appetite for constant challenge.

On top of that, my interests: photography, book stores, movies, hiking, gardening, naturalization.

After many years of trying (really!) to be monogamous, I've come to accept that it's likely that non-monogamy is a state of being that a lot of people share with me - whether they're "serial monogamists", "occasional cheaters" or "temporary singles" .

I've been lucky enough to have developed a happy relationship with someone who feels the same - and has felt the same since we first met as casual lovers. Surprisingly - and although we both resisted - we fell from like, to lust, to love - and to a committed long-term relationship. And all while respecting the fact that we were capable of commitment to others - as well as to each other.

I'm not looking for conquests, recreational sex or a harem: been there; done that. Similarly, seeking a "relationship" is not my main focus. A relationship is a long-term accretion based on much trust and much shared experience: it's the prize we get for treating one another well.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys the infinite possibilities presented by the phrase "it's complicated" - and is looking for an emotionally trusting, mutually supportive, honest and committed friendship.
What I’m doing with my life
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Enjoying every bit of it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Applied Physics
Pattern Recognition
Reading people - individually and in crowds
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Quietude
A wicked smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors (current)
Lorrie Moore, J.M. Coetzee, Jeannette Winterson, Vasily Grossman

Authors (not-so-current)
Burroughs, Walter Rodney, Self (Will, not My)

Graphic
Winsor McCay, Tezuka, Tatsumi, Delisle, Shiceru Mizuki

Movies (never seen a bad one by)
Federico Fellini(!), Sally Potter, Akira Kurosawa, Wim Wenders, Werner Herzog

Better-Than-Movies
Portal: "Are you still there?"

Music
Yes. Everything from Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan to George Jones - with a strong streak of Lucinda Williams and Amelia Curran

Food
I love the restaurant experience as well as cooking, baking, buying and growing food. Mushroom hunting is a particular addiction.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Gravity
Howling Wolf
Chuang Tzu
Photography
A warm duvet
A good frying pan
A habit of pushing the limits
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
books, movies, music, food, art, politics
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working or talking about books, movies, music, food, art, and politics
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
DAVID DUNNING: An anosognosic patient who is paralyzed simply does not know that he is paralyzed. If you put a pencil in front of them and ask them to pick up the pencil in front of their left hand they won’t do it. And you ask them why, and they’ll say, “Well, I’m tired,” or “I don’t need a pencil.” They literally aren’t alerted to their own paralysis. There is some monitoring system on the right side of the brain that has been damaged, as well as the damage that’s related to the paralysis on the left side.

There is also something similar called “hemispatial neglect.” It has to do with a kind of brain damage where people literally cannot see or they can’t pay attention to one side of their environment. If they’re men, they literally only shave one half of their face. And they’re not aware about the other half. If you put food in front of them, they’ll eat half of what’s on the plate and then complain that there’s too little food.

You could think of the Dunning-Kruger Effect as a psychological version of this physiological problem. If you have, for lack of a better term, damage to your expertise or imperfection in your knowledge or skill, you’re left literally not knowing that you have that damage. It was an analogy for us.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 43–63
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you are looking for an intelligent, passionate companion who will not attempt to take over your life.