Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The surprise, of course, was to find myself at this age: still
whole, still healthy - and still alive. The fact is that I hadn't
made plans for that eventuality. Luckily, I've accidentally had
several successful careers- and successfully learned to live
relatively simply, with a small carbon foot-print. I've also found
a career which incorporates intellectual stimulation, enjoyable
physical work - and sufficient chaos to satisfy my appetite for
On top of that, my interests: photography, book stores, movies,
hiking, gardening, naturalization.
After many years of trying (really!) to be monogamous, I've come to
accept that it's likely that non-monogamy is a state of being that
a lot of people share with me - whether they're "serial
monogamists", "occasional cheaters" or "temporary singles" .
I've been lucky enough to have developed a happy relationship with
someone who feels the same - and has felt the same since we first
met as casual lovers. Surprisingly - and although we both resisted
- we fell from like, to lust, to love - and to a committed
long-term relationship. And all while respecting the fact that we
were capable of commitment to others - as well as to each
Seeking a "relationship" is not my main focus. A relationship is a
long-term accretion based on much trust and much shared experience:
it's the prize we get for treating one another well. Similarly, I'm
not looking for conquests, recreational sex or a harem. Short form:
I'm probably not your "Mr. Right"; nor your "Mr. Right Now".
I'm looking for someone who enjoys the infinite possibilities
presented by the phrase "it's complicated" - and is looking for an
emotionally trusting, mutually supportive, honest and committed
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying every bit of it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people - individually and in crowds
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lorrie Moore, J.M. Coetzee, Sherman Alexie, Thomas King, Michael
Burroughs, Walter Rodney, Self (Will, not My)
Authors on the pile
Winsor McCay, Tezuka, Tatsumi, Delisle, Shiceru Mizuki
Movies (never seen a bad one by)
Federico Fellini(!), Sally Potter, Akira Kurosawa, Wim Wenders,
Portal: "Are you still there?"
Yes. Everything from Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan to George Jones - with a
strong streak of Lucinda Williams and Amelia Curran
I love the restaurant experience as well as cooking, baking, buying
and growing food. Mushroom hunting is a particular addiction.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A warm duvet
A good frying pan
A habit of pushing the limits
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
books, movies, music, food, art, politics
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working or talking about books, movies, music, food, art, and
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
DAVID DUNNING: An anosognosic patient who is paralyzed simply does
not know that he is paralyzed. If you put a pencil in front of them
and ask them to pick up the pencil in front of their left hand they
won’t do it. And you ask them why, and they’ll say, “Well, I’m
tired,” or “I don’t need a pencil.” They literally aren’t alerted
to their own paralysis. There is some monitoring system on the
right side of the brain that has been damaged, as well as the
damage that’s related to the paralysis on the left side.
There is also something similar called “hemispatial neglect.” It
has to do with a kind of brain damage where people literally cannot
see or they can’t pay attention to one side of their environment.
If they’re men, they literally only shave one half of their face.
And they’re not aware about the other half. If you put food in
front of them, they’ll eat half of what’s on the plate and then
complain that there’s too little food.
You could think of the Dunning-Kruger Effect as a psychological
version of this physiological problem. If you have, for lack of a
better term, damage to your expertise or imperfection in your
knowledge or skill, you’re left literally not knowing that you have
that damage. It was an analogy for us.
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