- You're a guy who believes men and women are political, economic, and social equals. But of course you do.
- You're looking for a full-on partner, someone who over time becomes the best part of your day to day life.
- You're looking for a whole bunch of giving and getting, building something joyful, exceptional, lasting, FUN, one laugh, one lovely/silly/moving/awkward/confusing/smile-inducing experience at a time.
So far so good?
At 72, my grandfather met a cute little number - a never-married, recently retired 65 year old high school English teacher. They fell crazy in love, spent 30 years like newlyweds. (My grandfather lived to be 109.) This is probably why I haven't given up yet.
Honest and direct, whole-hearted, intuitive, empathic, quick to laugh, passionate about living consciously and well. Come from a family where academics trumped athletics - expressive, visually attuned folks, readers, creators, and 'do-ers' who take pride in what they've accomplished on any given day, who naturally gravitate to studios, libraries, and workshops, folks who actively, intentionally grow their minds and hearts. Clueless re: pop culture - don't own a tv, malls/franchises depress me. News comes from NPR and the NYT, valuing progressive thinking over conventional wisdom. Don't ski, play golf or tennis (a 30-year marriage taught me the best relationships leave room for non-shared pursuits) but thrive outdoors - kayaking, swimming, planting, biking/walking/hiking anywhere, city or country. A 'toucher' when conversing, a spontaneous smoocher, quick to show appreciation for kindness and emotional generosity, my partner will never lack for attention, affection, engaging conversation, goofy observations to laugh about. Financially independent - the career's been good to me - have raised two adult daughters to be critical thinkers, ethical and kind people.
Guys I find attractive are openly warm, kind men who laugh throughout the day, seeing the world and the humans therein both nuts and amusing. I respect guys who explore differences to find common ground rather than to win arguments, who read widely, consider alternate points of view, taking it all in for consideration. Have pretty much no tolerance for the boastful, the cocky, the fitness or looks obsessed - at our age, we better have learned we're but dust in the wind.
I don't expect the cosmos has conspired to posit my special guy conveniently in the next town over: I do expect to travel to spend time together. Looking forward to seeing new places, meeting new people.
This appeal to you? If so, please do drop a line to introduce yourself.