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33 M New York, NY

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English, French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
9 things about me:

1. A friend of mine recently told me: "I wish I could put your sense of reason in a bottle and serve it to people."

2. I consider myself an introvert, but some have disagreed with this — I also love meeting new people and having long, interesting conversations. Anyway, I do date extraverts.

3. I've been a vegetarian since I was 10. Don't worry, I get plenty of protein, iron, zinc, and vitamin B12. (I just had a nutritional screening.) I recently decided to make an exception for oysters, mussels, and clams.

4. I've decided to prioritize being happy and well-adjusted (which applies to myself and others). I've seen too many bright, original people hold themselves back with neuroses and angst.

5. I'm ethnically Jewish but not at all religious. Being Jewish isn't very important to me, but it seems to be a topic of great interest on dating sites, so there you go.

6. I don't care very much about conforming to gender roles, nor do I define myself in opposition to them. I basically think people should live life the way they want to. Why would you waste even one minute of your life worrying about whether someone else thinks you meet expectations about what someone with your type of body is supposed to be like, when you could have spent that time focusing on something more important?

7. I'm somewhat different from most men, at least in that I have zero interest in sports.

8. Politically, you could describe me as an amalgam of liberal and libertarian. I care more about thinking through each issue with an eye toward what can be done to help people in tangible ways, rather than trying to belong to any political movement.

9. I tend to think and talk in paragraphs rather than sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a great job doing meaningful, intellectually challenging work that affects New Yorkers of all different socioeconomic levels. In my free time lately, I've been recording some music.
I’m really good at
Learning songs by ear. Questioning assumptions. Civil discussions of controversial issues.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Lots of nonfiction. Lately I've been reading a lot of economics and philosophy. I used to read more straight-up analytical philosophy, but the books I've been reading lately might be better described as "wisdom": Human, All Too Human by Nietzsche, The Conquest of Happiness by Bertrand Russell, and the Discourses by Epictetus.

Movies: Woody Allen, Hitchcock, Kubrick, Back to the Future, classic comedies.

TV shows: The Flight of the Conchords (does it start with "The"?), The Office, Seinfeld, Stella, The State, Arrested Development, I'm Alan Partridge, Saxondale. (Those last two are both British sitcoms starring Steve Coogan — I've been delving into his work after seeing him in the movie The Trip.) I finally watched 30 Rock, so now I understand the many women on this website who say they're Liz Lemon. I've started watching Shameless — still not sure what I think of it, but William H. Macy is great as always in it.

Music: I'm open to almost anything, and I don't worry about picking music to fit my personality or the times. I love classical, jazz, rock, Motown, and more. A few favorites: the Beatles, Jimi Hendrix, Buddy Holly, Sam Cooke, Leonard Cohen, Stevie Wonder, Queen, Prince, Cyndi Lauper, Tori Amos, Nirvana, Smashing Pumpkins, Bjork, Regina Spektor, St. Vincent, Grizzly Bear, the Postal Service, Lorde...

Foods: butternut squash, mushrooms, red peppers, asparagus, risotto, gnocchi. I love vegetables, and I'm willing to try anything as long as it's vegetarian or bivalve.
The six things I could never do without
Moleskine notebooks, fresh parsley, olive oil, autumn, 9th chords, my little brothers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why do online dating profiles still start out, "I can't believe I'm doing this!"? It's 2014, not 1999. Being embarrassed about using a dating site is more embarrassing than using a dating site. I wonder what these people are like at a party, meeting someone new. "I can't believe I actually went to this party. I wish I could stick to only having conversations with people I either know already or run into on the street. But instead, I've had to resort to attending a social function like this, which feels so contrived and artificial. Maybe that's what this world has come to, but I admit I still have reservations about the whole idea of a 'party.' Oh, I'll stay for a little while, but I want to make it clear from the outset that I am not taking this very seriously..."
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You like going to cafes, bars, restaurants, parks, museums, galleries, karaoke, and would like someone to go there with you. You'd like to read books to each other and talk about them. You like playing chess or Scrabble. You want to tell me your opinion of the best (or worst) episode of one of the TV shows listed in my profile. You have mastered the fundamentals of both written and spoken communication. You're independent, resilient, able to cope with life. You like living in New York City.