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-jayferd

26 / M / Bisexual / Single

Berkeley, California

His Details

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Today – 6:34am
Ethnicity
Height
Body Type
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I try to cultivate patience, loyalty, and thoughtfulness. I love to smile. I tell a lot of silly jokes.
What I’m doing with my life
In general, I'm in a "trying new things to see if they fit" phase. Here are few of the things I'm doing:

* Working for GoodGuide as a professional programming-languages propeller-hat

* Trying to start a band - current working name is Suspicious Package and the Unknown Individuals.

* Meditating - I practice passage meditation.

* Trying to become better informed about the system I live in - right now I'm researching the connections between the mortgage system and modern homelessness.

* Living in a community! I live with the so-called Conspiracy of Sharing, a small community in south Berkeley, where we organize gift-economy rent and food, make useful stuff for our neighbors, and last summer organized a nonviolence immersion program in collaboration with Nonviolence Lab.

* Arranging music from the Ocarina of Time for my brother's high school drumline

* Climbing
I’m really good at
Computer-nerdy things, playing the piano and singing badly, and probably a few other things.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically, probably my big red beard. Otherwise, that I'm constantly drumming on things, and am easily distracted by ambient music.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm on an Ursula LeGuin kick right now, and I've loved basically everything I've read - my favorites so far have been Always Coming Home and Changing Planes (a collection of short stories). I also loved Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. I'm currently reading Stanislaw Lem's "Tales of Pirx the Pilot", which is hilarious.

For more serious reading, I've got David Graeber's "Direct Action" and everything by Robert Neuwirth in my "to read" stack.

Movies: I recently saw The Twilight Samurai, which is a good relatively recent Japanese movie. Best In Show, Waiting For Guffman, A Mighty Wind, et al are all old favorites. Everyone I know thought Napoleon Dynamite was dumb, but I literally fell out of my chair laughing at the movie theater, and everyone looked at me sideways. Gandhi (the movie) is always inspiring, although I have to get up and go somewhere else for the Amritsar massacre scene.

Shows: The only show I really watch anymore is The Daily Show. I'm not very ashamed to admit it's how I get most of my national news.

Music: As a musician, I'm sort of all over the map. I tend to like things that cross and combine genres in surprising ways. Sometimes I listen to James Kochalka for some reason; I can never figure out why.

Food: Locally grown, organic, tasty, and prepared and shared with good friends. It's pretty hard to beat that.
The six things I could never do without
+ My community :). Seriously, these folks are closer to me than my family.
+ My spiritual practice
+ A reason for doing the things I'm doing
+ Music
+ Fun and games
+ I dunno, air, probably
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Nonviolence, community living, spirituality, various applications of feminism, programming languages (type systems, expressiveness, parsing, etc)
On a typical Friday night I am
Climbing or playing board games with friends from the CSUA.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've read the entire archives of both QC and QP.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
+ If you want to come to one of our awesome community dinners
+ If you've heard of Hindley-Milner type inference
+ If you live in a community too
+ If you're already against the next war
+ ...or any other reason really, I love getting messages.

I rarely initiate conversations on this site, because toxic gender dynamics. So send me a message :).