In a nutshell, I'm a little fed up with going it alone. I'm looking
for someone who shares some of my interests (but not all--how
boring would that be?), someone who is independent and confident
yet can admit when they really need someone close by. Ultimately,
that woman would be the first person I think of calling when
something particularly exciting, or funny, or troubling occurs in
my life. They would be the first person I thought of when I wanted
to do something fun with someone; the person whose hand I would
grab when adventure rears its wonderful head. I've found that the
attraction and physicality things usually sort themselves out, and
it's when you are on the far side of burning desire that you find
yourself searching for something with substance. Oh, I don't mind
the process of getting there at all, and there is a sort of sweet
poignancy when you emerge on the other side of lust to discover
that lust was almost all the two of you had together. It's been a
while since I got to that strange territory and found someone had
made the journey with me, and I'm very eager to experience that
again.
I am a romantic at my core, in the sense that I adore adoring and being adored, but also in my capacity to see the world as if it were a series of different settings and scenes, each with its own mysterious backstory, its convoluted history. It is like my life is spent on an endless location search, and it makes me attentive to details in landscapes, and cityscapes, and even (if you can believe it), the suburbs. As an historian this helps me communicate a sense of place that is often missing from academic writing. I suppose I sort of empathize with the past.
I am open and honest, sometimes to a fault, but it seems the safer direction in which to err. Conversation is nourishment, and the wittier the better. I am just as comfortable with whimsical speculation as I am with more meaty topics, my only hope is that those sharing the conversation also value intellectual curiosity and critical thinking. The sort of people who ask the question "Why?" a lot are usually my most favorite people of all.
I'm not expecting the perfect companion to just land in my lap. Again, I understand that these things tend to follow a process, that there are steps along the way (though these steps often shift about and follow no particular order). I DO expect that there be a spark, an energy between the two of us that is palpable and real. I WANT to be caught in the dilemma of wanting to call but wondering if I am calling too soon. I want to be excited to see someone for a second date, or a third, or a thirtieth. Most of all I want to share those feelings with someone.
I would like there to be a bit of mystery, but on-line dating seems to have killed a great deal of that, with our profiles being so damned specific and detailed. The goal here seems to be to find someone who is most like yourself, and I'm not sure if I totally agree with that. I like different people, and, beyond the biological differences, I'd like my partner to disagree with me about things. I'd like to have my mind changed by them every once in a while. In order to maintain a little bit of that mystery, I try to avoid an endless chain of emails, and prefer a real conversation, where the words are not edited, and the personality can shine through.
If any or all of this interests you, read on...
I am a romantic at my core, in the sense that I adore adoring and being adored, but also in my capacity to see the world as if it were a series of different settings and scenes, each with its own mysterious backstory, its convoluted history. It is like my life is spent on an endless location search, and it makes me attentive to details in landscapes, and cityscapes, and even (if you can believe it), the suburbs. As an historian this helps me communicate a sense of place that is often missing from academic writing. I suppose I sort of empathize with the past.
I am open and honest, sometimes to a fault, but it seems the safer direction in which to err. Conversation is nourishment, and the wittier the better. I am just as comfortable with whimsical speculation as I am with more meaty topics, my only hope is that those sharing the conversation also value intellectual curiosity and critical thinking. The sort of people who ask the question "Why?" a lot are usually my most favorite people of all.
I'm not expecting the perfect companion to just land in my lap. Again, I understand that these things tend to follow a process, that there are steps along the way (though these steps often shift about and follow no particular order). I DO expect that there be a spark, an energy between the two of us that is palpable and real. I WANT to be caught in the dilemma of wanting to call but wondering if I am calling too soon. I want to be excited to see someone for a second date, or a third, or a thirtieth. Most of all I want to share those feelings with someone.
I would like there to be a bit of mystery, but on-line dating seems to have killed a great deal of that, with our profiles being so damned specific and detailed. The goal here seems to be to find someone who is most like yourself, and I'm not sure if I totally agree with that. I like different people, and, beyond the biological differences, I'd like my partner to disagree with me about things. I'd like to have my mind changed by them every once in a while. In order to maintain a little bit of that mystery, I try to avoid an endless chain of emails, and prefer a real conversation, where the words are not edited, and the personality can shine through.
If any or all of this interests you, read on...
