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45 M Brooklyn, NY

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and dislikes cats

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My self-summary
Likes: curious events. creative people. hole(s) in the wall(s) & dive bars. prime numbers. sharpies, which i compulsively steal. laughing.
Reads: too much pixelated information, too few books. trying to invert that.
Listens: lots of radio. WNYC, BBC & podcasts at all hours.
Does: yoga-ing, biking, cooking, improvisational carpentry.
Where: Pittsburgh-native, academic family. Ivy League undergrad, degree of dubious utility.
How: mixture of focused and wandering, confident and insecure, externally calm and internally anxious, warmly curious and judgmentally observational, very smart and sometimes flakey.
I bike practically everywhere, as much as I can, hot or cold, rain or snow. Ice does pose a problem, it's true. But I don't like to concede the point. Pro tip for biking in snow? Deflate your tires a touch, and pedal slow but steady!
Joke: user_name. And on a relate note, I apologize, on behalf of the Cro-Magnon contingent of my gender for the apparent ickiness of guy-behavior in the world of online dating. I didn't know: Man poses as woman on OKC.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to minimize inputs, and maximize outputs.
Work: Taught in Indonesia then worked, wrote, travelled in/to/from Hong Kong for a decade, before returning to NYC for family, friends, & big magazine job.
Now: Freelance writer, journalist writing about green things -- energy, environment, carbon, climate, sustainability.
Not me, not one bit: freelancer de-evolution. This, however, rings true (silently, of course): the solitude of freelancing.
Body & mind: run, bike, yoga, cook, hands-on 3rd-Ward-type classes, keeping up with friends. Keeping a beehive or two with some friends. I've been stung twice.
Yep: Park Slope Co-op. Perhaps I have cashiered you?
Style: Minimalist, low-/no-brand. Less is more.
I’m really good at
making slow-cooked, steel-cut oats for breakfast, topping options include dark chocolate chips, dried coconut, baked diced apple, and/or a dollop of crunchy peanut butter.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Radio like: Science Fridays... On Earth... On the Media... This American Life ... Studio 360... Radio Lab ... On Point w Tom Ashbrook ... Selected Shorts... BBC The Changing World... Brian Lehrer.

Radio unlike: irritated by Leonard Lopate - is he ever paying attention?; and Prairie Home, but for some reason can't stop listening, so end up mumbling foul thoughts at Garrison Keillor many weekend afternoons.

Food: Not a foodie, more of a chowhound. Favorites include Spicy Thai, Hunan & Szechuan (soup dumplings, mmm) and Mediterranean. Greek diners. Have been teaching myself to cook in the past couple of years, h/t to

Written wurds: These days I read almost only non-fiction, mostly magazines and web media about cities, energy systems, environment, climate, consumerism, and the like. But I do squeeze in the odd bit of fiction now and then. My favorite-est ever? Coetzee, Disgrace... Nabokov, Lolita... Garcia-Marquez, Love in the Time of Cholera... Delillo, White Noise... Malcolm X, Biography... Nicholson Baker. There's a never-diminishing pile of magazines that drifts around my apartment: permanent fixtures include The Economist, The New Yorker, and New York; others come and go depending on pique, such as, Bicycling, Wired, Discover, PopSci, PopMech, and Nautilus.

Small screen: TV wise, nothing has come close to The Wire. Lots of excellent also-rans, too: True Detective... Game of Thrones... Breaking Bad... House of Cards... Mad Men... Justified... Louie... Portlandia. I killed my Time Warner a while back, so my viewing is mostly guerrilla style now. This has left me vulnerable to the hypnotic power of cable, when i run into it. So if you have cable, I can come and visit and pester you to let me slump on your sofa, mouth-breathing while ogling reruns of This Old House. Hot, no?

Comedians: Louis CK. Maria Bamford. Tig Notaro. Chris Rock. Dave Chappelle.

Visual artists: Wendy MacNaughton and The Oatmeal.

Music. eclectic: receptive to wise guidance... jazz and old stax-kinda r&b... dubstep... new music (as in post classical) whatever it's called now... things that make me happy when they pop up on the ipod: radiohead, portishead, police, postal service, Velvet Underground, Lou Reed, Bowie. I eschew autotune.

Bigger screen: Bladerunner... The Usual Suspects... Dr Strangelove... Donnie Darko... On The Bowery... Had a Peter Greenaway obsession for a stretch -- what happened to that guy? I'm a little movie under-educated, and welcome sage guidance. Just saw American Hustle: impressive, yet not worthy of all the breathless hype.
The six things I could never do without
Bicycles. Aston-blend coffee. Cast iron skillets. Seltzer. Salty almonds. Salty people. The smell of bookstores and good stationery shops.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how the hot + cold in my bathroom are reversed, and how despite countless sensory reminders that this is the case, i still confuse them.

making things, putting things away, writing better words faster, aging loved ones, cooking, what next where, sex, why i always seem to miss voicemails, books I want to read, how to laugh more.
On a typical Friday night I am
focus grouping my OKC profile.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i like box wine and kinda resent capital letters.

in practice, under the right circumstances, i'm willing to admit pretty much anything. honesty begets honesty, and laughter, usually.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
you're smart, curious with a mischievous smile, and maybe bespectacled eyes. Not too materialistic. Eccentric in good ways. Enjoy exercise -- maybe biking, maybe yoga -- motion and physical pleasure. Warmly sarcastic, hopefully not cynical. Open to big things. A healthy, or at least well analyzed, relationship with family. A habit for cultivating great friends that you like to share. As someone once said, a friend, with wings.

If you have a dog, and like to bike around--and if you have a dog *on* your bike, even better. And if your dog can ride a bike, quit your job, call an agent and email me so i can come check it

Alas, full feline disclosure: I'm super allergic to cats, so much so that it's near-to-impossible for me to spend time in homes where they live. A dating no-go, sadly.

Last but not at all least, must confess, I've been lurking here for the past year, watching but un-motived to act, daunted by freelance overload compounded by the essential weirdness of online dating. i'd like it to be fun, but man, it can be exhausting. That said, for whatever reason, neurons have shifted, planets have realigned, hearts have opened, 2014 has turned, and I now find myself pretty eager to find a connection, and hopeful to try, try again. So apologies if you've signaled in recent months, to hear only crickets.