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  • Ages 35–45
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Last online
Yesterday – 7:36pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Likes: curious events. creative people. hole(s) in the wall(s) & dive bars. prime numbers. sharpies, which i compulsively steal. laughing.
Reads: too much pixelated information, too few books. trying to invert that.
Listens: lots of radio. WNYC, BBC & podcasts at all hours.
Does: yoga-ing, biking, cooking, improvisational carpentry.
Where: Pittsburgh-native, academic family. Ivy League undergrad, degree of dubious utility.
How: mixture of focused and wandering, confident and insecure, externally calm and internally anxious, warmly curious and judgmentally observational, very smart and sometimes flakey.
I bike practically everywhere, as much as I can.
Joke: user_name. And on a relate note, I apologize, on behalf of the Cro-Magnon contingent of my gender for the apparent ickiness of guy-behavior in the world of online dating. I didn't know: Man poses as woman on OKC.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to minimize inputs, and maximize outputs.
Work: Taught in Indonesia then worked, wrote, travelled in/to/from Hong Kong for a decade, before returning to NYC for family, friends, & big magazine job.
Now: Embarking on a big change. Lately returned to the Land of Big Media as an editor/manager of a group of digital whiz kids. Exciting and a little scary. Once and future freelance writer, journalist writing about green things -- energy, environment, carbon, climate, sustainability, though I assure you this was never me. No, not one bit: freelancer de-evolution. This, however, rings true (silently, of course): the solitude of freelancing.
Body & mind: run, bike, yoga, cook, hands-on classes (RIP 3rd Ward), keeping up with friends. Keeping a beehive or two with some friends. I've been stung twice.
Yep: Park Slope Co-op. Perhaps I have cashiered you?
Style: Minimalist, low-/no-brand. Less is more.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Irish goodbyes. Making popcorn on the stove, in a pot — coconut oil is key.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Radio like: Science Fridays... On Earth... On the Media... This American Life ... Studio 360... Radio Lab ... On Point w Tom Ashbrook ... Selected Shorts... BBC The Changing World... Brian Lehrer.

Radio unlike: irritated by Leonard Lopate - is he ever paying attention?; and Prairie Home, but for some reason can't stop listening, so end up mumbling foul thoughts at Garrison Keillor many weekend afternoons.

Food: Not a foodie, more of a chowhound. Favorites include Spicy Thai, Hunan & Szechuan (soup dumplings, mmm) and Mediterranean. Greek diners. Have been teaching myself to cook in the past couple of years, h/t to

Written wurds: These days I read almost only non-fiction, mostly magazines and web media about cities, energy systems, environment, climate, consumerism, and the like. But I do squeeze in the odd bit of fiction now and then. My favorite-est ever? Coetzee, Disgrace... Nabokov, Lolita... Garcia-Marquez, Love in the Time of Cholera... Delillo, White Noise... Malcolm X, Biography... Nicholson Baker. There's a never-diminishing pile of magazines that drifts around my apartment: permanent fixtures include The Economist, The New Yorker, and New York; others come and go depending on pique, such as, Bicycling, Wired, Discover, PopSci, PopMech, and Nautilus.

Small screen: TV wise, nothing has come close to The Wire. Lots of excellent also-rans, too: True Detective... Game of Thrones... Breaking Bad... House of Cards... Fargo... Justified... Louie. Funny wise, we're in a rich, rich period: Portlandia... High Maintenance... Man Seeking Woman... Broad City.

There have been a slew of fantastic, dark UK series of late, too:
Utopia and Black Mirror. Why is it nobody does dystopic quite so well as the British?

I killed my Time Warner a while back, so my viewing is mostly guerrilla style now. This has left me vulnerable to the hypnotic power of cable, when i run into it. So if you have cable, I can come and visit and pester you to let me slump on your sofa, mouth-breathing while ogling reruns of This Old House. Hot, no?

Comedians: Louis CK. Maria Bamford. Tig Notaro. Chris Rock. Dave Chappelle. Key & Peele. Amy Schumer, so much so.

Visual artists: Wendy MacNaughton and The Oatmeal.

Music. eclectic: receptive to wise guidance... jazz and old stax-kinda r&b... dubstep... new music (as in post classical) whatever it's called now... things that make me happy when they pop up on the ipod: radiohead, portishead, police, postal service, Velvet Underground, Lou Reed, Bowie. I eschew autotune.

Bigger screen: Jodorowsky's Dune... Bladerunner... The Usual Suspects... Dr Strangelove... Donnie Darko... On The Bowery... Had a Peter Greenaway obsession for a stretch -- what happened to that guy? I'm a little movie under-educated, and welcome sage guidance.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bicycles. Cast iron skillets. Seltzer. Salty almonds. Salty people. The smell of bookstores and good stationery shops.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how the hot + cold in my bathroom are reversed, and how despite countless sensory reminders that this is the case, i still confuse them.

making things, putting things away, writing better words faster, aging loved ones, cooking, what next where, why i always seem to miss voicemails, books I want to read, how to laugh more.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i kinda resent capital letters.

in practice, under the right circumstances, i'm willing to admit pretty much anything. honesty begets honesty, and laughter, usually.
You should message me if
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you're smart, curious with a mischievous smile, and maybe bespectacled eyes. Not too materialistic. Eccentric in good ways. Enjoy exercise — maybe biking, maybe yoga — motion and physical pleasure. Warmly sarcastic, hopefully not cynical. Open to big things. A healthy, or at least well analyzed, relationship with family. A habit for cultivating great friends that you like to share. As someone once said, 'a friend, with wings.'

If you have a dog, and like to bike around — and if you have a dog *on* your bike, even better. And if your dog can ride a bike, quit your job, call an agent and email me so i can come check it

Alas, full feline disclosure: I'm super allergic to cats, so much so that it's near-to-impossible for me to spend time in homes where they live.