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48 Menlo Park, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:58am
Relationship Type
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat), LISP (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm not an A-lister, so please just email, if my profile piques your interest.

I feel fortunate to live the life I do. I'm eternally curious and abhor drama. I'm not an E, but tend to be able to talk to almost anyone and often do make a connection. I exercise, so that I can indulge. I work in SF FiDi and lived in SF, so most of my friends are there. I've visited lots of places and try to go to a new one each year. I just got back from Spain and Portugal ... Such warm people and great food/wine! I find that outdoor landscapes are increasingly more rejuvenating and hiked through Joshua Park, Bryce, & Zion last year. I hope to share my love of travel with my nieces and take them anywhere they want to go after they turn 13. I am an INTP, explorer-director-negotiator are pretty evenly split with builder being lowest, and a sapiophile.

I need quiet time to recharge, but have more friends/family globally than I can keep up with. I like people with things to teach me, who roll easily with the punches, and are considerate of others; we are luckier than most people in the world, after all, so not a fan of whiners. I prefer direct communication; if I could read minds, I wouldn't be here... Haha. But we should start with fun, no?

I try to live like the song, "I Hope You Dance" and the poem Instantes, except for the religious parts.

As much as I would love to meet someone to share my life with, I am not in a rush. I do not have children, but am happy to be a step-mom, mom, or not. I love children and adore my nieces.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I like solving dramatically different business problems on a frequent basis. I need to stabilize my new job and then find a volunteer gig that fits. I have rated scholarship applications and used to provide strategy and execution advice on bringing smarter tech into healthcare delivery.

I get a kick out of self-discovery (therefore the number of questions answered and the Okc tests, however vapid). A lot can be done while waiting in line for tea.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- brainstorming for solutions, seeing patterns
- making new acquaintances feel comfortable
- not panicking in a crisis
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've never asked. What do you notice?

If I had to guess, in this country, it might be my ethnicity ...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
- love music, but am not particular, although I prefer any music I can sing to or dance to. I also enjoy the opera, symphony, ballet and jazz.
- independent & foreign films, thought-provoking sci fi, some fantasy, espionage, some action, period films. I don't really have favorite movies, but have enjoyed anything by Joss Whedon, Alfred Hitchcock, David Lynch, Clint Eastwood as director, amongst others. I don't care for horror films or gratuitous violence, except the likes of Pulp Fiction and Kill Bill, which adds to the film.
- love all cuisines and am in search of new creations all the time
- most recently read: Superfreakonomics, Speaker of the Dead, the NY Times online, Tech Crunch, Ender's Game.
- Shows I've enjoyed over time include: Jacque Pepin cooking shows, what not to wear (my version of reality show), 30 Rock, Dexter, Suits, Lost Girl, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Twin Peaks, Angel, Dollhouse, Firefly, NCIS, Two and a Half Men (with Sheen), Anger Management, Star Trek - Next Gen, White Collar, Law and Order, Partners, BBC miniseries - Pride and Prejudice, NPR Snap Judgement, Grey's Anatomy, anything from Joss Whedon.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- freedom
- love of family/friends (Especially my mother and niece)
- intellectual stimulation
- quality of life... the means and ability to do the things I enjoy (e.g., gastronomy, travel, learning, skiing, dancing, hiking ...)
- mobile/internet
- meaningful contribution to society

..... Hmmm ... I cheated a bit
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- how my nieces will shape up as they grow
- the next trip I want to take
- how to get people to do what I want and make it seem like it is their idea ... I wish I could do this
- how to do things faster, better, cheaper
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not sure if there is a typical Friday ... out with friends or winding down from the work week at home or going to a meetup, if I want new conversations (I mostly go to the one for indie films.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I watch animated films without my nieces. I love seeing old couples holding hands.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
(At the risk of sounding negative ... but, I hate to waste people's time and I've learned these things too late after meeting people.)

- don't smoke cigarettes or do hard drugs (I'm sensitive to smells and don't like mood swings),
- are *not* polyamorous (which seems utopian and I wish I were so evolved, but I'm not, unfortunately)
- are single, meaning you are not attached in some *other* person's mind (you'd be surprised at what I've been told passes for "single"), and
- are living near me, meaning you are living most of the year somewhere in SF or on the peninsula ... points along hwy 85 are fine (been there, done that, & know it will not work)
- think we might have fun and/or interesting conversations and value similar things.

Polyglots and polymaths welcome :-)

Wishing happiness and love to all!