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52 M Berkeley, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I will suppress the urge to put my sugar coated self in the best possible light and instead try to present my personality in a "warts and all" fashion. Hopefully this doesn't completely backfire. But, I am trying to find just ONE person, so maybe turning away the faint of heart is a good thing.

Here goes...

I am an outgoing introvert. Often friendly with complete strangers, as I try spread a little good will in a world that can feel cold and harsh. However, I can also be quiet and withdrawn among friends at a party, preferring to play the piano in the corner, rather than engage in small talk.

I can be logical and analytical, a thinker, yet those things never rule me. I am happiest when I am in the moment and untethered from my logical mind. Laughing, Playing, Feeling, Loving and Connecting are not logical endeavors, and I can freely flip from one hemisphere of the brain to the other, without much trouble.

I have a tremendous capacity for non-judgement and forgiveness. It is all about one's intentions. We all can be less than artful at times, but if your intentions are good, then you and I are good. And, if you cut me an inch of slack, I will give you miles. On the other hand, if you take pleasure is ridiculing others, deserving or not, you will likely find that I won't be playing along with you. Rational criticism is welcome. But, it is not a blood sport for me.

I love absurdity, the non-sequitur and inexplicable humor.

I relish competing in games and sports, yet I don't care if I win or lose, and often lose track of the score.

I am proud of my accomplishments out in the world (some fairly impressive), yet I am the last person to toot that horn.

I am a mature adult male who takes seriously all those things that come with adulthood, but I still completely relate to the inner kid who wants to balance atop a boulder, skip rocks, or build sand castles at the beach. (And I am not ashamed to go ahead and do those things.)

I always need some sort of creative project (usually music, but it can also be a drawing or some writing), yet the result of the endeavor might be tossed away after it has been toiled with to be 'just right'.

I'm very into aesthetics and design and can have strong opinions what works with someone's creation, yet my personal appearance is often far from fashionable or well groomed. (Although I do have great hygiene, and can "clean up" nicely when I need to)

I'm the person who can remember precise details from an event many years ago, but who can't remember where his cell phone is while he is talking into it. (True that.)

I am non-materialistic. While I greatly appreciate a nice gift, especially when it makes me look a bit more stylish, I can just as easily feel like a gift is a burden, if it is something that will just add clutter to my simple life. (Even while I truly appreciate the sentiment behind the gift.).

A stoic who tries to bottle irrational emotions for fear of losing control… a sucker for heart string tugs in cheesy TV commercials... an effusive musical performer who loves to lose control while in public on stage.

An avoider of conflict, who will never back down from his principles and isn't afraid to get in someone face if I have to. (Although I never feel good after a confrontation, even if I prevail.)

I hate arguing, yet I love intellectual or political or philosophical discussions where differences of opinion are probed.

I can come across as arrogant, yet I am actually humble, and don't feel that anyone is above anyone else.

I believe that the character of a person is the only thing that SHOULD really matter, yet I can't help feeling disheartened by the fact that there ain't as much hair sprouting out of the top of my head than there once was. "Oh, where have you gone, beautiful tresses?" And to add insult to injury... hair sprouting out of other places I would prefer it not to. Sigh. (I warned you about "warts and all".) The good news, I would think, is that I love smile lines around a woman's eyes. A few extra pounds is not a big deal. I have a some of those myself at the moment. (Maybe we will shed those pounds doing an activity together. That would be great.) I want a mature woman who is at ease in her own skin, not someone who is fighting tooth and nail to preserve what's left of her former youthful glory.

I am able to pick up subtle social cues and read situations well, yet can completely stumble when it is my turn to interact.

I will boldly stand up for the disadvantaged when I observe injustice out in the world, yet I can be very self serving/preserving when I face a chaotic environment.

An ascetic minimizer of things and desires, who can become an indulgent hedonist when the urge surfaces. Although my indulgences are strictly limited experiences rather than "things".

I am very self sufficient (comes with being an introvert), and it would not be the end of the world for me, if I were to spend the rest of my life alone. Life is good. The world is beautiful. I have great friends. But, it is so much more fun to share all those things with someone special. That is the point of my being here.

If you can be easily annoyed, or are suspicious of the world, or have a tendency to point out faults in others, or have a quick temper, then I will come across as non-empathetic. I might even challenge what you are saying.

I am sometimes absent minded (head in the clouds), my intentions are always true, but I will absolutely forget to get the milk at the market at least once. If we can both laugh about this, that would be ideal. It should never be taken personally. It is not a reflection of what is in my heart, just the jumble that can exist in my brain from time to time. I will always be happy to scurry back to the market to get the forgotten item.

I don't want to be EVERYTHING to someone else, and I'm not looking for someone to be EVERYTHING to me. I am not needy, and to be truthful, I do poorly with emotionally needy people. I will be more than supportive in time of real need, but don't think I will do a good job of filling an empty void inside of someone else.

I will be your strongest ally, supporter and confidante if you will accept me "warts and all", and not judge me harshly. I will do anything you want if you ask nicely. If you become my harsh critic, I will tend to revert back to my self sufficient introvert, who finds life good and the world beautiful, and there will be distance between us. Communication is key. Letting go of the ego, and being completely honest, is hard, but I am ready for that.

I will bring the best of myself, if someone else can do the same.

Okay… congratulations! You read this far. Woo Hoo.

There's one more thing….

I am a #5 enneagram personality. I don't place a lot of currency in pop psychology, but I have to say, that enneagram just nails my personality.

If you web search "OkCupid Enneagram" you will find a personality test on this site. That test does a good job of characterizing my personality as a #5 which is know as "The Thinker" or "The Investigator" or "The Observer". You might want to check that out. Fives have good traits and not so good traits (like all personality types). The next relationship I get into, if it is a healthy one, will bring out the best traits. I'm sure of it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Parenting, Music Making, Radio, Skiing, Hiking, Biking…

I am the father of two daughters. I have a good relationship with both of them although they are both teenagers so we do have our share of teen drama from time to time. My girls have two solid parents who love them, and I am always there for them. But, they are becoming more independent, so it is a reasonable time in life for me to do things like creating an OKCupid profile.

I am passionate about MUSIC. I love to listen. I love to play it at home on my guitar or piano or mandolin. I love to DJ at a local radio station (KALX every Saturday Night at midnight). I love to go to live shows. I perform on stage with a couple different bands. I love to write music. I love to record.

If you meander over to Facebook and search for Markomatic you will find sound bites of original content I produced for my radio show, and get a taste of my distinctly off-beat sense of humor.

I also create Mashups from time to time. If you search for Mojochronic in youTube, you will find my mashup videos. Over 1 million views and counting.

My profession is as a software engineer. I am the original designer and developer of something called Pro Tools. Maybe you've heard of it. If you haven't, no worries, you are in the majority. I have a stable job with an employer who is reasonably flexible in the hours I keep.

I also do volunteer work at San Quentin prison where I help inmates learn to do radio production work for their broadcast called The San Quentin Prison Report which can be heard on KALW (not to be confused with KALX).

But, it is not all about sound and music for me. I have other interests such as downhill skiing, and telemark skiing, both of which I am pretty good at. I used to live in Tahoe in the 90's and got deep into those things, as well as mountain biking and rock climbing, but it has been a while since I've done that latter.

I try to do one backpacking trip a year. Last year was up and over Mono Pass into Pioneer basin.

I also like to keep up with world event, national politics, art and culture.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at thinking beyond limitations. Thinking of possibilities. I am a great collaborator. Really a better collaborator than I am a creator. If you have the germ of an idea, I can really help you explore the full potential of that idea.

Music: composition and performing.


Improvising a sorbet with herbs and spices out of whatever fruit happens to be ripe.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know. I don't get much feedback in that department. I think I blend into the crowd. No shame in that. I like being anonymous.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like reading non-fiction. Biographies. Not a huge consumer of books because I have other things I prefer to spend time doing.

Movies? I loved Terry Gilliam's Brazil. Just revisited a couple Hitchcock film's from the 50's…. so well done. Fritz Lang's Metropolis… what at treat! Hugo… Mais Oui! I much prefer quirky indie films, to Hollywood blockbusters. I can do without most Action Adventure films. Same goes for most Horror and Sci-Fi. But, again, not a huge consumer of film.

Shows? like TV Shows? I don't watch all that much TV, but when I do it's usually The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report, Portlandia, Metalocalypse or South Park, plus a little news or a documentary.

On the Radio, or Podcast… This American Life. Sound Opinions. Snap Judgement. Radio Lab. Bullseye with Jesse Thorn.

Music? It would take me hours to do that subject properly. My taste is broad. There are some things I don't like. but many more that I do like. I DJ at KALX and get exposed to much new music there. The latest Meshell Ndegeocello album Comet, Come To Me… that's good.

Love the Bay Area for its wide range of ethnic food. I don't eat much beef. I don't care for "fishy" fish dishes. But, I am open to all styles, and I don't get too bent out of shape about needing to eat a specific style, or about eating the same style three nights in a row.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My most valued "possessions" are experiences, ideas, conversations and connections. Perhaps they possess me, more than I do them.

Im am not a needer of many material things… although a fine guitar or mandolin, a well tuned piano, a decent bike and a good pair of skis will help me with some of the experiences I want to have.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Currently… Researching new music for my Saturday night radio show by scouring my music library and surfing the web.

In the future… Researching new music for my Saturday night radio show by going out to a club with my OKCupid girlfriend after enjoying a nice meal together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Oh geez... I admitted some amazingly private things on that OKCupid questionnaire. Not ashamed, but they sure didn't pull any punches, with some of those sex questions.