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54 • Phoenix, AZ • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 38–56
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Apr 24
- 5′ 11″ (1.80m)
- Body type
- Mostly other
- Aries, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Seeing Someone
- Has kids, but doesn’t want more
- Likes dogs
- English, Spanish (Okay), Vietnamese (Poorly), Malay (Poorly)
Thank you for taking the time to stop by - enjoy the ride.
In a nutshell: Married for 15 years, divorced for 7. One LTR since that ended due to the economy and her having to take an out of town job. I'm available, open to anything, and well adjusted/sane (your mileage may vary). Physically: I'm fairly fit and bike when I can (downhill and cross country). I'm 5'10.75" and 187lbs, and am like hugging a slightly padded oak tree. And if you need a reason to write, here's 15 reasons to date a cyclist:
Though I've bred quarter horses and my mount was a stallion, I am equally at ease hosting a dinner party, or enjoying the arts. I don't speak Italian, but Pagliacci has moved me to tears. Much like dark beer, some like me immediately. To others, I'm an acquired taste (though life is short and some would say I tend to expedite that process). That being said, there's nothing metro about me. I'm a big fan of creature comforts over snobbery. I appreciate intelligent or confident woman, but happy, fun, or nice get equally high marks with me. Some say I have eclectic tastes in friends, but warmth and genuineness seems to be a common trait. A sense of humor and adventure isn't mandatory, but I sure think it's helpful.
What I'm Looking For:
Do you enjoy simple pleasures such as grilled steak (or tofu, seitan, veggies, vegan sausage, etc.) , dark beer, red wine, or kissing? Perhaps you have a passion for Asian, Mexican, or Italian cuisines? Enjoyment of home cooked meals, including but not limited to: gumbo, jambalaya, Vietnamese food, steaks, handmade pizzas? Do you like chocolate? Preference given to those that are sweet, genuine, and are willing to take their time with the things that matter. Ability to perform slightly demanding tasks outdoors or in preferred. Ability to laugh at life or oneself also preferred.
Care to join me for a run, bike or hike, or perhaps some fun indoor activities? Or maybe a glass of wine and some conversation would be more your speed? I am passionate about food and always enjoy sharing a meal and some conversation.
o Anything to do with food
MOVIES: Pulp Fiction, Pale Rider, The Unforgiven.
TV: Legit. East Bound and Down. Anger Management, Nikita, Chopped, Call of the Wildman
MUSIC: Recently: really enjoying the Santana channel on Pandora, as well as Joe Bonamassa, Keb' Mo' and Chris Thomas King.
I grew up in New Orleans, so my tastes are diverse: Guitar Blues from BB King, Clapton, Buddy Guy, Howling Wolf, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Bonnie Raitt, Mavis Staples, Blind Boys of Alabama, Son House, John Lee Hooker, Clarence Gatemouth Brown, Back Door Slam, Johnny Lang, Hendrix, Jimmie Vaughan, John Mayall, Santana ... Skynard , Nevilles (Charmaine, Aaron, Cyril, John, the entire family), Radiators, Tab Benoit, so many many more ... Maroon 5, Adele, Josh Thompson, Don Williams, Sheryl Crowe, George Winston, Jean-Pierre Rampal, Alanis Morissette, Meredith Brooks, Tal Bachman, Shawn Colvin, Joss Stone, Amy Winehouse, Norah Jones, Freddie Mercury, Myles Kennedy, Alter Bridge, Tina Turner, Johnny Cash, Saliva, Alice Cooper, Tenacious D , Ray LaMontagne, Leona Lewis, India Arie, Mary J. Blige, Colbie Caillat, Lisa Loeb, Marie Digby, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Amanda Palmer, Dresden Dolls ... (guess I'll stop, this profile is already way too long)
FOOD: YES! or more specifically ... Latin, Caribbean, Asian, Italian, American. If it wiggles, swims, crawls, walks, flies, or in any other way locomotes, I'll probably eat it - probably already have, and most likely know how to clean and cook it.
And yes that includes mammals, fish, reptiles, amphibians, insects, marsupials, bivalves, colenterates, ... if I left something out, probably that too. Oh, and Bok Choy.
My kids (it's a safety issue: coffee and humor first!)
Conversation/Kissing (one is a prerequisite for the other)
Dark Beer/Red Wine/Bacon
Rules to be followed
A Sarcastic Font
I don't dwell on things, so here's some recent thoughts:
People that are unhappy with their situation, but unwilling to make a change in their lives baffle me (so ... moving on ...)
Should I respond to every visitor or assume if they didn't message they weren't interested? I'd assume women in my age group would say something. Otherwise, how am I supposed to tell the difference?
I had an epiphany recently as I told a friend, "... and sex is one of my favorite things, but no matter how good looking a woman is, if I'm not sure I'd want to hang out with her, why would I want to hang out with her naked?" So I'm curious, is this attitude unusual for a guy?
I hate having to use emoticons, you know those stupid smiley face things? I wish they had a font for sarcasm. I think I could find that really useful.
How did my strongest personality trait change from "more confident" to "more into exercise"? I answered a few questions recently, but none had to do with exercise. Did I cross some age threshold where more men are couch potatoes?
Mmm potatoes. Now I'm remembering some potatoes roasting in the fat rendering under a pork leg I was grilling ... So now I'm thinking about grilling again. And maybe some wine or a dark beer while things cook.
Looking forward to Saturday. Drinking wine and listening to my friends' jazz band. Or some fun outdoor activity.
Perhaps driving up into the mountains to escape the heat for the weekend?
The get to know you first date still makes me a little nervous. At least I'm not the overconfident guy that thinks he knows everything. I am pleasantly surprised to find I don't have to have to be the one with all the smooth moves anymore. Women amaze me. Your confidence and grace put me at ease. As nervous as I am beforehand, I am surprised at moments at how comfortable I feel during one.
Then there are those other moments. All those firsts I had forgotten about, Butterflies and chemistry. That first walk to the door or car, first kisses ... oh, so many many things I seem to have forgotten.
I'd like to devote more time to philematology and am hoping to find someone with similar interests. Catch me quick, while everything old is new again.
If nothing above made you laugh or smile, I have a friend who's an entomological proctologist. He may not be able to help, but he could probably give you some handy information. If THAT made you smile - definitely write. If not, you should come to my parties - my friends will find you a hoot.
Thank you for your time and good luck with your search. Have fun and be nice or you'll be punished - and not in a fun way.
A good start for a conversation would be to mention what caught your interest, made you laugh, or prompted you to write.
And for those of you that keep emailing me nude photos, I'm only going to warn you two or three more times before I block you.
Not that it's at all required, but if you're one of those intelligent or confident women that either seem to intimidate men, attract them until they figure out what intelligent/confident REALLY is like up close, or end up in some sort of weird competition or power struggle dynamic - you really should write me. And don't let the cooking and culture mislead you, you'll know you're with a manly man. And I don't mean those over compensating macho types. That is SO UNmanly. If you've ever dated that strong, successful CEO type only to find out much later they're a total submissive in the one area that counts ... let me say the time it takes to get to know me won't feel wasted.
Actually, I'm fairly well balanced there too (with test results for "proof").
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