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53 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33–49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 14
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Not at all
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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with a lot of work and practice- some cross between the examined life and the 8 fold path- i've managed to become (something like) the man i want to be and live the life that i want to live.
even had a bit of fun along the way.
What I’m doing with my life
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i studied english, though i never got my degree. so now i just read a lot. well, let me rephrase that. i spend a lot of time reading.

i dropped out of university to renovate my first house, and, through a few twists and turns, stuck with it- both the dropping out and the renovating.

whenever people ask me what i do, i tell them- i build things and i read. [and, because saying 'whatever i want, mostly' would make me sound like a dick, even though it's mostly true.]

through a combination of circumstance and intent- good fortune and hard work- i don't work full-time. but i never did more than i ever had to. though work has its merits and virtues, and i could never give it up, the world is too art soaked and information rich for me to spend so much time swinging a hammer.

i get to do a lot of what i want. and i want to share that with someone.

but not just anyone. i like spending time with caring and creative and intelligent people. not necessarily activists and artists and academics, but anyone who is able to slow down enough to see the world, and maybe even do something that helps the world see itself a little bit differently.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening, talking, talking when i should be listening.
The first things people usually notice about me
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all black everything.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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2014 book list:

The Particle at the End of the Universe: How the Hunt for the Higgs Boson Leads Us to the Edge of a New World
Carroll, Sean
Hell-Bent: Obsession, Pain, and the Search for Something Like Transcendence in Competitive Yoga
Lorr, Benjamin
The Fortune of War (Aubrey/Maturin, #6)
O'Brian, Patrick
Lost Girls: An Unsolved American Mystery
Kolker, Robert
Worst. Person. Ever.
Coupland, Douglas
Son Of Heaven (Chung Kuo Recast, #1)
Wingrove, David
A Madman Dreams of Turing Machines
Levin, Janna
A Light That Never Goes Out: The Enduring Saga of The Smiths
Fletcher, Tony
Daylight On Iron Mountain (Chung Kuo Recast, #2)
Wingrove, David
The Neutronium Alchemist 1: Consolidation (Night's Dawn 2)
Hamilton, Peter F.
Mastering the Art of French Eating: From Paris Bistros to Farmhouse Kitchens, Lessons in Food and Love
Mah, Ann
Dept. of Speculation
Offill, Jenny
The Neutronium Alchemist 2: Conflict (Night's Dawn 2)
Hamilton, Peter F.
The Genius in My Basement
Masters, Alexander
Barry, Max
Keshiki Bonsai: The Easy, Modern Way to Create Miniature Landscapes
Kobayashi, Kenji
The Naked God 1: Flight (Night's Dawn 3)
Hamilton, Peter F.
The Naked God 2: Faith (Night's Dawn 3)
Hamilton, Peter F.
The Poincare Conjecture: In Search of the Shape of the Universe
O'Shea, Donal
welcome to utopia: notes from a small town
valby, karen
the ghost brigades
john scalzi

a few of songs:
wu lyf- dirt
kaye- black skinhead and one of the most beautiful things i've heard:
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books, "ink and paper", movies, laptop, my tools.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how do introverts meet people? [INTJ]
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
i don't live my life for or around the weekend. but some people do, so- making a meal and watching a film, alone or with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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not private; just didn't have anywhere else to put this, so.
for my screen name i went with the closest i could get to 'one eyed man', of course an allusion to the old proverb. [though now i'm thinking that it might imply some physical disadvantage. that wouldn't be good.] but i was thinking of going with 'the curator'. i thought i read this somewhere- 'after introverts go out into the world they have to come back and curate their collection of experiences.' but i did a google search and nothing came up, so now i just claim it as my own.
You should message me if
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you think the world could be different.