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40 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–47
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I’m a Cleveland transplant (9 years ago) now masking as a fog-drenched San Franciscan; a slightly eccentric scientist/physician who's a sucker for foreign films, whip cream, topographic maps, foreign kitsch, and Thai massages; an introvert convincingly disguised as a gregarious extrovert; more or less sane but blessed with an occasional flaw and quirk. I’m a hedonist for sushi splurges, unscripted adventures, and late Sunday mornings spent lounging in bed. I have a curious, imaginative, and creative personality and I like the challenge of discovering/learning new things. I’m an inhaler of nature, and have an inordinate fondness for the outdoors (notwithstanding my acute ‘flying, buzzing, stinging’ insect phobia). For those fond of keyword searches [because he hasn't got time to wade through the mire]: run, bike, ski, backpack, art, theatre, dance, lectures, swing dance, ethnic foods, the Economist, world affairs, orienteering, scuba dive, travel, kayak, and (the ultimate high) riding in the ‘bike lane’ with the renegade drivers of San Francisco.

Besides my family and friends, my most valuable possession is my well-tattered passport. I put a strong emphasis on exploring the world beyond our borders, acquiring a broader picture of life & culture. My favorites so far- Rwanda, Iran and Tibet. Although now more interested in putting down roots than wandering abroad, I make the best of my vacation allotment and get myself to a far flung locale each year.

I am in a great place in my life. I’ve been around the block a couple times, learned some lessons- some easily but many the hard way- which I value immensely, and now am ready to apply them. I am ready to move forward in my life, partnered with a best friend and lover, and focus on building something together.

I am hoping to find that certain someone that can make any event or situation the only place worth being. A personality that is as charming as the smile they share with the world. Out-going, athletic and spontaneous, while at the same time relaxed and leisurely, intelligent, sincere and possessing the virtues that make up a great friend. Brains turn me on as much as sensual things; I love an independent thinker with a vivid imagination. Kindness, honesty, integrity, loyalty, and tenderness are tattooed on your soul! Unwavering curiosity, beaucoup passion, combustible chemistry, seemingly telepathic, incessant, time-defying communication, and cheek-hurting laughter are always nice, too. The frosting would be to meet a man who can also negotiate a rickshaw ride across town for 20 rupees or less. Perhaps most importantly, you want a relationship in which we’d share interests, challenge yet support each other, and expand each other’s frontiers. A long shelf life is desirable. Other than that, surprise me! I love to have expectations shattered now and then .
What I’m doing with my life
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is interesting, challenging, rewarding, and hopefully leaving the world a better place.
I’m really good at
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finding odd-ball activities in which to engage. Treasure hunts? Swimming upstream through 70,000 people dressed as a salmon? Burning Man? Capture the flag in the city? And those are the tame ones.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm energetic, curious, genuine, and usually up for anything... at least once ;).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A day hardly goes by without me perusing the NYTimes and the Economist. I gravitate towards non-fiction these days, mostly essays, but occasionally find myself consumed by a good novel. My favorite author is Tom Robbins.

Although with grand aspirations, I am still learning in the cooking department. I find it unrewarding to cook alone, especially when in a city full of so many amazing restaurants. But I have learned that with a good knife, the right ingredients, and the right partner, I love the challenge.

Regarding those 'amazing restaurants', I love everything from the Off the Grid trucks through a fine meal on the town. If it has a little spice, even better. Best is if it is enjoyed over good conversation with friends.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My morning run
Sunshine filled days
A well worn passport
The darn internet
Supportive family and friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the future and how I can contribute to make the world a better place. Of course scheming my next crazy adventure gets some brain cell allocation as well.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
either relishing a rare night at home, or more likely, out and about having dinner, investigating one of the many cultural options in the city- theater, dance, the Symphony/Opera, or just hanging out with friends. I'd love of course to share a Friday night with somebody special......
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Although a devoted atheistic agnostic, I've recently been intrigued by the tenets of the Church Of the Flying Spaghetti Monster .

Also, as I get older I realize that the 'wants kids' box may or may not get realized. I have frozen some eggs away, so don't have a biologic limit anymore, but also realize that life could be very rich and fulfilling if spent with only a loving partner (and maybe a couple pets). I hope to figure out which path to take when the time comes, together with my partner.
You should message me if
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you believe that life is just a dream, so we might as well make it a fantastic one. You look forward to having a family someday. Also, be ready and open to find love and make a real commitment to something long term.