I hate categories, but to give you an idea...I'm a peace loving natural holistic spiritual libertarian old hippie with a NY attitude northwestern mellowness vivid imagination quasi crazy (according to the sheeple) somewhat kinky completely sane (in the eyes of the sovereign-minded) very adventurous but there's no place like home kind of guy.
I wanted to write a book on internet dating, but I figured more people might read this than a book. Here are some basic observations...Profiles don’t mean anything. It’s a self-description…duh. If it were up to me, you should have to get three ex-spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends to write your profile. Then we’d know the real you/me. Reading online profiles is funny. Everyone likes the same stuff. The entire world is “down to earth” and “attractive” and “likes the outdoors” and “loves to travel”. I had to stop going to the beach because it's been so overcrowded with people who have met on the internet. Anyone notice we are pretty far from the ocean here? And what is this talk about baggage? Why does everyone think they don’t have baggage but that everyone else has baggage? The truth of the matter is that we all have some baggage. Some have carry on, some need to check it in at the gate…the ones who carry it around like a full backpack are the ones to avoid. Otherwise, enjoy your baggage. It is what has made you what you are today. Look inside your baggage, there may be something cute for you to wear around. Another profile pet peeve is the serial dating thing. Why does anyone have anything against people dating each other? I am a serial dater because I am looking for someone special for me. You have to search for your own treasure by digging a lot of empty holes. I'll stop dating when I find my treasure. BTW, I like my serials (cereals?) to be crunchy, flavorful, nutty, fruity, healthy, organic, raw, tender (sometimes not so much), natural, sweet, and very wet. For me, relationships begin and end with the chemistry between us. That X factor that no one really understands. In the real world you meet first. That way you know if there is any attraction. On the internet you meet last. We can even give each other great phone and when you meet…nothing. Also, why do people lie on these sites? If you are lying about your age, marital status, height, weight…it’s going to come out soon enough. Why do some people put pictures from 10 years ago? I ain’t no idiot and will figure that one out soon enough too. I have a personal policy…if you lie on your profile…a simple test of honesty, you will probably lie about other things much more important later on. Another point about pictures…the most frustrating pics are the ones from 100’ away (huh?) or how about the ones with the ex cut out, or my favorite is the self-portrait in the bathroom (just leave out the toilet next time...please).
Finally, why do people take it so personally when you tell them there is no connection? If I feel anything, I will try to go on a second date with you. If there is nothing, there is no point. I appreciate it when a woman is honest with me and says there is no connection for her. Why waste time? NEXT! We are all looking for the one…I want it all. Don’t you? Have fun out there for now.
Describing yourself is like talking about someone you admire. You want to be complementary, but you don't want to drool all over them either. I like me. I'm not perfect (far from it), but enjoy life immensely. I consider myself very fortunate that at this point most days have been a lot of fun and consider it to be blessed (some call it luck). I have also worked very hard for what has been accomplished. I think my good points outweigh my (very few) negatives. They say two positives can never equal a negative....yea, right. Laughter is the key...and I do spend a lot of time laughing. This world is a pretty funny place. I don't live life outside the box, I say, "What box?" They laugh at me because I am so different. I laugh at them because they are all the same.
I was born in Brooklyn (turdy-turd street) and raised on Long Island. I have lived from the Florida Keys to Oregon and from NY to San Diego. In my younger daze (pun intended), I moved around a lot. Yea, I’ve been to all 50 states. In the last three years I've spent time in NY, Florida, Texas and now I am back in Oregon and will be searching for my new home shortly. The reasons for this would take at least a 16 oz latte to explain. I lived out in the woods of Williams, OR for 17 years and loved every minute of it. I miss the solitude of being in nature. Having my morning coffee out on the deck, feeding the deer. Watching my neighbor, a fox, come into my compost pile at dusk to eat. Looking out at the snow capped peaks with a 360 panoramic view. Walking in the woods where the complete silence was deafening. It was a great experience. I am ready to find another spot somewhere to build another life. This time it would be nice to have a partner to share it.
Why is that the second thing people ask each other is when they meet is "what do you do?". When answering that question in the past (after the usual evasive "I do quite well"), I think teacher got the most respect, but business consultant got the funniest looks...you know, that slight head tilt that shows utter confusion. Bartending in my 20's was a lot of fun, but working for yourself is always the most rewarding. I've done that several times.
My spiritual beliefs are most important (to me), but I don't go around talking about them. I just try to live it. I try to experience as much of life as possible. I believe we should be able to choose our own paths so long as we don't threaten or harm each other. One of my mottoes in life is "Your opinion of me is none of my business." Bottom line is that nobody is perfect and I am the perfect example of that. I am a work in progress. I can listen. Life is about learning. The desire is to become a better human being at all times. My life is a spiritual journey to seek the truth in all matters. I do not get caught up in the material world. I know that the most important things in life aren’t things. I don't believe in coincidence. Everything happens for a reason. Karma baby…
What am I looking for? Yes, I am a hopeful romantic. I can also be non-vanilla at times. But I am also a realist. For me finding that elusive spiritual connection is the toughest part. I'm always willing to try...I feel better now that we have that passion connected. Was it good for you? BTW, this profile was written by my ex-wife and two ex-girlfriends...yea, right!