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1x4x9

46 / M / Straight / Single

San Francisco, California

His Details

Last Online
Today – 6:48am
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Virgo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Construction / Craftsmanship
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Depending on your perspective I'm either a contradiction in terms or very well balanced. I'll let you be the judge.

I can be super playful, quite funny and annoyingly energetic yet I also value and am able to sit in a place of depth, quite, and stillness for as long as it takes. That could be me meditating in silence or simply connecting with you at the end of the day. I'm grateful to have the most incredible, supportive community of friends around me, people who would do anything for me and yet I treasure my alone time. I plan my trips loosely and then look forward to getting lost on the way.

How I relate with others is incredibly important to me and I spend a lot of time getting that right. I'm a big fan of responsible communication and really believe that at any given moment we are all doing the best we can, even if what we're doing seems not so bright. What this leaves me with is a lot of empathy and compassion for others along with the ability to express myself, my love, my disappointment or whatever is actually up with me in the moment. Authenticity is the name of the game.

I have big plans for the future but put a huge emphasis on the now. I'm quite good at accepting things just as they are but that doesn't mean I'm inclined to roll over and play dead either. A wise man once said, "The world is perfect just the way it is, including my desire to change it."

I’ll definitely hold the door open for you, but I’m just as likely to smack you on the butt & chase you down the street when you least expect it. You're beautiful to me, reasonably athletic & know how to let your hair down even if it's short. You like to flirt (preferably with me) & love to kiss (also preferably with me). You also love to sweat a little, whether it’s from dancing into the wee hours, a little outdoor athletic activity or a good roll in the hay. Ok, we'll call it perspiration. Essentially you have a strong mind, body & heart, & you’re not afraid to use any of them. You are silly and playful, radiant and affectionate.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to change the world.
Yoda would say there is not try.
Give me a moment; I'm working on it.
I’m really good at
architecting
making stuff
fixing stuff
relating
feeling into what i'm actually feeling
feeling into what others are feeling
The first things people usually notice about me
my eyes, my teeth, my lips, my smile, my presence
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: all kinds of non-fiction (I'm a boy, we can be that way.) from books on the Enneagram to the shop manual for my little four-wheeled restoration project
Movies: Coen Brothers, Stanley Kubrick, Ridley Scott
Food: anything but fast; mostly Vietnamese (Slanted Door or some hole in the wall), really good Pizza (Delfina, A16), Japanese (Eiji), Italian (Delfina & my mom's home cookin')
The six things I could never do without
a Pentel Sign pen (heavy line weight), Pilot Fineliner (light line weight) & my sketchbook [I'm counting these three as one.]
woven dental floss (this stuff will change your life; amazing!!!)
my MacBook
fingernail clippers
love
touch
hot showers
That's 7... or 9 depending on how you're counting.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to not think so much.
On a typical Friday night I am
eating out with friends
staying in and watching a movie
snuggling with my peeps in a puppy pile somewhere
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm likely to admit just about anything that's true but you've got to ask me first... that is unless we agree to playing full out, with complete transparency right from the get go, which can be fun too.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're looking for someone with whom you can have a decent conversation... or at least an indecent one. And if you think I'm hot and doubt you'd be able to keep your hands off of me that would be cool too. ; )