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22Melanie

22 / F / straight / Single

Anoka, Minnesota

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Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 7" (1.70m).
Body Type
Full figured
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Capricorn but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Owns dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Sign_Language (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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I am poised, genuine, and sometimes crazy fun!.

My Self-Summary

First, despite my answer to if I'm looking for someone to have children with on here, I'm not. I'm looking for friends and/or friends to start but then progress. I'm open about the kids thing but that's not until years from now. Love them, but not sure if they're for me. Important factors go into that decision and I'm not into rushing things w/o being prepared, so if you're goal is to find someone to marry very soon and have a family with . . . we might be just good friends. I'm okay with that :)

Also, despite the oh so funny photo I chose to include here, I'm actually not looking to give you head :) Also not looking to fuck around :D You want to do that this site is probably not for you unless it does have an nsa section. I just joined so I have yet to find out...or maybe I just skipped over it since that's not what I'm looking for. Nope. It's just a photo showing a bit of my humor . . . and skill . . . but mostly humor :p

And please, don't write me with a "hey what's up?" only. If you do, I probably won't respond. I may sound like a bitch b/c of this but if you got a lot of messages a day containing just that and nothing else, they pile up and are annoying :( So set yourself apart from that group ;)

What I’m doing with my life

I'm still alive so that's a start...and getting better at living longer by actually taking care of my body now :) So that's even better :]

Figuring out what I am supposed to be doing. Where I'm supposed to be. Who I am supposed to be.

I've been to college and a technical college so at least I've made efforts. So when you see the "dropped out of college/university" on the right, please don't think it was from something bad or stereotypical. There are a few factors that made those decisions and if it's that important you know why now, then just ask. When I'm ready and capable I do want to go back, but right now those factors are preventing me from doing so. If I find something that doesn't have a degree/certificate then I'm willing to go for that too. Right now I'm just figuring out what these things are. So at least I'm trying.

In addition, I don't have a job now. Even though I live at home with my family, I can't wait until I get out. I'm no moocher. I can't pay back my family in money yet but I help around the house and transpo when I can. If I'm gonna live under their roof I should do that. Label me as you like, but I do what I can in the meantime until I do get a job and move out. Someday a career.

I’m really good at

Communicating. Blow jobs :p Ummm....thinking, doing, and...chilling like a guy sometimes but dressing like a lady :]

Teaching people about animal behavior and how to train their dogs (someday I hope to make this into a career, but more than just a "dog trainer"). Memorizing things I enjoy learning about like behavior and medicine. Driving too! Love driving and I'm good at it which is always nice to know, right? haha :p

The first things people usually notice about me

My size. Next summer I hope that will be different and I can put something cool like my boobs or smile :D lol

And when they get to know me, they notice I'm pretty open about stuff haha. Which in turn often makes them feel like they can be open also and don't have to worry about saying stuff. It takes a lot to get me upset as I'm so laid back, but I can be serious too, of course. Just like anyone when the place and time calls for us to be. Being more open than others does have it's consequences sometimes, but the benefits of it far surpass the negatives. People just seem more relaxed around me, and I like that :)

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

For now until I update:

Book: The Stinky Cheese Man & The Giving Tree
Movie: The Last Samurai, Spirit, all of LOTR, Top Gun, Cool Runnings, A League of Their Own, 50 First Dates, anything with Sandler and Carrey, Transformers 2 only b/c of Megan Fox on the motorcycle (nah it is actually a good movie:), and... any action, thriller, comedy mostly like Ferris Bueller's Day Off :)
Music: Oh gosh. Everything has a beat, but I'm all country'd out. I grew up with that stuff so the new country stuff doesn't get in my blood stream as much as the classics. So in other words, almost everything but most country :) OH~!!!~ And that one on Ferris Bueller's Day Off!!! :D
Food: Look at me. What do you think? lol . . . Nah in all honesty, it's not that I used to eat a lot, it's that I didn't exercise enough and that's what did it for me. I don't eat much, but not as little as an anorexic. Just thought I'd point that out:) Italian, vegan stuff can actually be good, recently been turned on to some Mediterranean, Middle Eastern and Asian foods even though I have no idea what is what most of the time :p

The six things I could never do without

1) Someone to care for
2) Swimming in a lake on a hot summer day
3) Living with at least one big dog (all are good but I'd trip over a tiny one haha)
4) Music

I spend a lot of time thinking about

haha numbers 5 & 6 from above :p

Life. Where I'll be in mine years from now, how I'm going to get there, and how I will pay for it all (like everybody else). They say money isn't important but I think it is to an extent. You need it to get by in this life. I'm no gold digger and if I ever married a rich guy I wouldn't spend hardly anything of that on myself. Most of what I have is given to me b/c I don't buy expensive things for myself. I find that a very hard thing to do sometimes...accepting things I could never afford. This is what I think about a lot, too. It's a block to certain things and in a way a sort of weakness. Something I'm working on but really... all I want in life is to live, and I don't NEED everything to do that. Sometimes I think it'd be nice, sure just like everyone else, but it's not a NEED to me.

Other things would be the feeling of being torn in two directions in my life. I love my family and others and want to be near them, but then there is this other part of me that wants to just get away from everything and leave the baggage behind. Go somewhere and really live . . . maybe with someone if they feel the same way. Just be with that one person . . . where ever we are as long as we're just together (most of the time :).

A bunch of other stuff floats around in my head too, but that gives a good idea haha

On a typical Friday night I am

If I can afford to be out I will, but lately it's like this:

Not drinking or at a party. Maybe someday if I meet the guy I'll change my ways, but I actually like staying home some nights, and Friday is one of them. Maybe at the movie theatre, otherwise at home watching one. (and yes, I like to spell my 'theater' the French way :p . . . at least I think it's French heh)

Or asleep if I'm dead tired. The thing is I don't mind it, and while I would enjoy going out to parties and drinking every now and then, I don't want to do it constantly. I don't want to be the person who feels it's tradition to get wasted every Friday and Saturday night and recover on Sunday. I don't mind hanging out with people who do those things, no not at all :) I just don't want to be with someone romantically and have him bummed out b/c I don't like to do it as often as he does. Rather have him be happy with someone who likes that to the same extent he does.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I kitchen dance when home alone listening to music when cleaning. If you don't know what kitchen dancing is . . . well . . . I guess you're on your own on that one b/c I'm not going to show you lol :P

I sometimes say stupid stuff to make people laugh . . . and chuckling IS laughing!!! It still counts! :D

I don't mind putting this out here now (yeah, in front of everyone) because it's best if you all know now. I'm a virgin. However, I am NOT looking to get that "problem" fixed. It's not a problem to me. I'm actually quite proud of this. If you have a problem with this tiny bit about me but are fine with everything else, then there is probably something wrong with you. You're on this site where people put effort into their profiles hoping to meet someone to share parts of their life with (short and long term) yet you are concerned about THIS?? Sorry to be harsh but seriously THINK about that :-|

You should message me if

If you read something that interested you :)

1) Then you should share what that was.
2) What you're looking for/why you made your account
3) What you are looking for in relation to me if it's different than number 2 (like if I'm not what you're looking for on a romantic level but you think we'd hit it off as friends).
4) Other stuff that you come up with on your own w/o my guide :P

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(I try to reply to everyone who writes me b/c I believe in being polite like that, but if I don't then please don't jump to conclusions. Not everything is based on looks alone, so maybe there's something I read in your profile that I didn't put in mine, but I know it won't work out. Nothing to get frustrated about. This is for everyone, and that stupid stalker)

Have a lovely day! :D lol