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63 Kīhei, HI Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 53–71
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:06am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Christianity, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids

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My self-summary
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ADVISORY: The default setting of my temperament is agreeable, good natured, and guardedly optimistic. If you are disagreeable, consistently pessimistic, or somehow feel that the fates have conspired to deal you a bad hand in life, or in love, please ignore my approaches.

And while I am a skeptic about many things, my mistrust of official, or personal, statements falls far short of a belief in Black Helicopters, or that the Pres. and the UN are out to take your guns.

I am a free thinker who believes that each of you has the right to your own values and lifestyle; just don't ask me to respect it, try to sell it to me, lord it over me, or offer to pray for me. If yours is a great idea you don't need the hard sell.

Let's start over before my latent Type A and my grumpy old man start fighting it out.

Assuming (perhaps hoping is more apt) that most of us are here (trophy hunters and players aside) because we remain socially engaged but just aren't meeting anyone who arouses any interest, or moves the meter, or who isn't just like the last two or ten, maybe it is better to free associate rather than try to spell out who and what I am.

I love the y'all got issues feature here because we do.

I have issues with folks who believe that they are intrinsically better people than the homeless man/woman that they see on the way to work; I have issues with folks who have a sense of entitlement; I have issues with folks who believe that a supreme being would be critical of the various and natural permutations of the human condition; I have issues with folks who believe that we should drug test people who receive the benefits of the shabby safety net we provide the less fortunate.

I am left leaning, free thinking, egalitarian, unimpressed by fancy titles, big egos, expensive automobiles or people whose exotic vacation pictures portray them as treating the world as a theme park. I do not play well with others who are hidebound by convention or espouse conservative religious views. I do play well with those who find their values are not connected to their stuff or their superficial accomplishments.

So this is what you get here. I am not mellow, but neither am I big, loud, nor persuaded that I am anything but a small voice in a big world where many are unable to discriminate between the things that are important and those which are not.

I prefer small venues (e.g. the Palms in Winters, CA) to big venues, small funky quiet restaurants to the eatery du jour, dark bars to glittery palaces, grumpy older bartenders to showy know it all kids, outdoor stuff rather than indoor - although I am not resistant to cultural events, flip flops to shoes, shorts to long pants, and substance rather than show.

I AM NOT interested in anyone who has misrepresented their true age in their profile - no matter the excuse, or someone whom I would not recognize in person from the photos in their profile. We are what we are at this stage in life and I, for one, have the desire to live this part of my life gracefully rather than wistfully.

And just to be clear, this process is visual. I may stop at your profile because you are interesting looking, or attractive (in the rare case it may be your dog that is), I take note of your age, location, and biographical data, and I understand the constraints of geography, and I understand that many of you are much more focused on the object of this site than I am. But I am the type of guy who believes that you can always find a little more room at the table so I may well reach out despite the fact that we aren't going to connect in person. It is what it is.

And I do have an interest in genealogy, with my Father's family having lived in many wide spots in the road in the American south. So if I visit you in Pipe Creek TX or Carnegie OK, or lots of other small places, it is based on my recognition of place. And, you may be kin.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to live it as if there aren't too many more tomorrows.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at being pretty good at a wide range of things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm quiet, but funny. That all folks get treated with the same courtesy, and that I refuse to be saddled by convention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I wish I had a limitless music library. Love it from the Big band era to Woody Guthrie and Hank Williams. Opera to Amy Winehouse.

Books are a passion: Richard Ford (Independence Day); Saul Bellow to Phillip Roth:John Irving ( A prayer for Owen Meany) to the procedurals and mysteries I consume by the dozen.

Film is more problematic. From intense theatre going as a kid, I find most commercial films lacking in substance or even entertainment value. Loved Harold and Maude, The Big Lebowski, American Beauty, to give you a sense.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My three kids(family & friends), good coffee, red wine, down pillows, a high thread count, music, peace and quiet. And yes, I know that some of these are not "things". But this is my answer.

*not necessarily in the order given except the first
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why the world is so connected to stuff, and why people act as if their worth as a person is somehow connected to stuff. Would you really rather be Donald Trump than Nelson Mandela?

Why I have been on this site a year longer than I imagined. (Though it is less than a year) And why it is that people can't unconnect and unplug, and see what is in front of them.

Do I spend too much of my down time browsing this site rather than getting out more? Am I overimpressed with match percentages? Why am I annoyed with people who like to laugh while walking on the beach with their glass half full? You get my drift.

And last, stop with the "I look younger than my age"; it is your heart and mind that you need to keep young. We're living this one in real time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical Friday night. Friends, dinner, music, whatever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I confess. I would rather meet my next love interest through friends or in the produce aisle. I dislike phone conversations with people I do not know. And, while this process is far from perfect, I think it is occasionally adequate provided you are honest and engaged.

And, I still have one school age child - Second Grade to be exact, so I am not a completely free man. In the parental sense.

And one last thought. I am sure that when you come across a man's profile, and his desired age range is heavily skewed in favor of younger women, you are inclined to believe he's an idiot. I feel the same way when browsing.
You should message me if
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(1) you don't want to worry if it's a toupee;(2) you don't want a ballroom dancing partner;(3) you are able to discriminate between self confidence and narcissism; and, you want a kindred soul who is always a solid friend, and might perhaps be more if the attraction of a personal meeting allows for the possibility.

And, if you're left leaning, indifferent to organized religion, and want a golf partner, I'm game.