Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'd like to meet a woman who enjoys both ideas and intimacy. I like
someone who thinks for herself, expresses her ideas, and expects to
benefit from sharing thoughts. I admire anyone who is aware of how
many possibilities for varying life-choices we have in our society,
is dissatisfied with simplistic roles, and can successfully live an
original life. This does not have to be bohemian or radical - being
consistently kind is rare enough.
I like to balance an intellectual and analytical approach with an
awareness of human experience and feelings. My sense of humor is
sometimes very dry and ironic, and sometimes silly - I like
everything from Aristophanes to Airplane, Bocaccio to Beckett,
Chaucer to Celine, (how many letters do I get here?)
My boys are 21 & 22; they spend most of their time with me. The
youngest drew his first political cartoon when he was 9: George W.
Bush (in tie and cowboy hat) getting a hot foot from a
fire-breathing Pokemon. It's still on our fridge. We are close
& affectionate, and do lots of things together. We have a
nature trail on the hill behind our house, and some small
Once my son asked me if I believe in life after death. I told him,
"Of course. There is obviously life after death. Just look at how
many other people will still be alive after one of us is dead!" For
each of us, I believe the greatest challenge is to live with the
reality that none of us is more valuable than any other. This is
just as much a challenge in intimate, family relations as in public
or business life.
What I’m doing with my life
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I love my work, which is writing software as an independent
consultant. I'm financially secure, have flexible hours and bright,
creative colleagues. I like new ideas, and read voraciously in many
For the last few years I've been working away from home on
consulting projects, but now I'm home to stay again!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking and writing. Sometimes I do them in the wrong order,
though. So I get lots of practice at editing too. Sigh.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually I notice them first. Otherwise it's my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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What I like best is learning to appreciate new things that once put
me off. Black coffee, straight Scotch, rock climbing, Kronos,
Mondrian, hip hop, cylindrical algebra, Bunuel - each has a bite
but also real depth once you are over the hump
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Contributing to the community is important to me. Before my
children were old enough to have activities, I taught reading
skills to inmates in the Durham County jail. Later I coached my
boys soccer team, and helped with Scouts and the PTA.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm quite the thinker. Sometimes I write articles and sometimes I
get invited to interesting places to talk about stuff.
Technically I'm an atheist. But I grew up as a Lutheran and I still
appreciate the tradition of thinking for oneself against orthodoxy.
I've found I have more in common with people whose outlook has been
formed by traditional religion, than with those who are shaped by
All ideas are human products, and none of us need be a pure
consumer of them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With the right person, laundry and dishes are delightful. But while
getting to know someone I like to go to the art museums, concerts
(classical, early music & blues are my favorites), movies
(foreign/indy), ride bicycles, paddle and hike.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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We used to have a lovely Golden Retriever. Once a stranger called
him a "being of light" but that maybe because we were in Carrboro
at the time. I love animals, but I consider pets to be negotiable
in any relationship.
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