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49 F Irvine, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:13am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Wait - Stay for a moment. I just might be who you're looking for. I’m a bright, bubbly, hopelessly romantic, artistic, and socially-conscious gal living life on purpose rather than by accident. I make the world a better place while having fun along the way.

Beaches? Babies? Candle-lit dinners and kissing? Sure…I enjoy these too. But here’s what makes me different:

I have little drama in my life. . .
1. My life is full, with many interests – painting, writing, sailing (learning), yoga, volunteering, theater, swimming, to name a few. Rather than looking for someone to fill a void in my life, I'm looking for someone to enjoy it with.
2. While I enjoy kids, I have none of my own. Translation: no custody issues. I’m a flexible, untethered soul (with lots of vacation time accrued)
3. No evil Exs to complain about. I’ve enjoyed romantic relationships with some wonderful men, and while they didn't last forever, I grew from every one. In fact, I'm still friends (without benefits) with a few.
4. I get along with those who swing from my familial tree. True, some of us laugh too loud, others not enough and some should see a shrink, but at the end of the day we’re family.
5. My circle of friends extends to both coasts, full of positive, creative, caring individuals.
6. Both sides of my brain are well-developed (creative and analytic). A former dancer (no, not that kind!) I also had a successful career as a visual artist for 2 decades. Now I develop educational programs for a non-profit.
7. I thrive around different cultures. I haven't climbed Mt. Everest or made the Haj to Mecca, but I’ve been to Europe, the Middle East, much of the U.S. and even an island here and there.
8. I love the arts - all kinds. They make my electrons spin.
9. I'm not impressed by designer brands, the latest gadget, or what everyone else is doing. I march to a different drum.
10. I'm not always on the go, nor want to be. I value quiet time alone or with my sweetheart. Meaningful conversation is very important.
11. I was raised Jewish (culturally, not religiously), resonate with Buddhist principles, and will open my life to anyone kind, compassionate and smart - regardless of flavor or texture.
12. I'm more interested in what's between your ears and in your heart than what's in your wallet. I can't be bought - it's been tried.
13. I'm authentic, straight-forward, and wear my emotions on my sleeve. You’ll always know where I (and you) stand.
14. I don't enjoy online or serial dating. But I’ll persevere until I find my heart's delight.
15. Sorry fellas...I don't get physically involved with every guy I meet for coffee or a drink. If you're a "one-marshmallow" man, I'm not your gal. (
16. Despite the direct nature of my profile, I'm very playful and an awful lot of fun to be around (with the right man)

And who whets my whistle?
A gentleman, cultured and highly intelligent, who genuinely admires and respects women, celebrates her differences while valuing her as an equal partner. He also knows there’s a tender young girl lurking deep inside, and how to protect her and make her feel safe.

Finally - I'm in my early 50s. My profile says 49 to stay within the search criteria of men my age. Photos are very recent and I’m usually told I look better in person.

If anything here floats your boat, please say hello.
What I’m doing with my life
Live a purpose-driven life and looking for ways to give back to the community.
Learning how to sail, painting - making it a high priority with the goal of exhibiting
I’m really good at
Listening, observing, intuiting, feeling.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a 'heightened awareness'
Am very perceptive

Physically, my green eyes, and stature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Memoirs of a Geisha; Eat, Pray, Love; Books on art, Buddhism/meditation; I read a lot of non-fiction, and some fiction.
Movies with good character studies: Ordinary People; Good-by Girl; Rain Man, Frozen River, The Immigrant - Love documentaries.
Shows: Love musicals, and dance companies - but savor any good theater or art.
Foods - Eclectic - love to try new things - I eat healthfully
Jon Stewart, Colbert Report, TED talks, NPR, PBS, Shark Tank,
The six things I could never do without
Tubes of paint, brushes and a canvas (counting these as one)
TED talks
Warm bear hugs
The warm sun on my skin
Close friends/family
Some quiet time alone
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can leave a legacy since I don't have kids.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably in my studio painting, with a glass of wine in hand while listening to TED talks; or making a nice dinner for myself and enjoying a good movie. Or might be out with a friend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I masquerade as an M&M - hard shell, soft inside.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 46–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
I made you smile - or even curious