I'm seeking a rare creature that may not exist. One that wants to know me for me....not whether I'm chunky or thin....Female, 37-48, wants a relationship AND IS SURE THEY DO....none of this getting into things then "OH I THOUGHT I WAS" BS, someone who loves to talk....I really believe that mental/emotional connection makes a sexual one that much more. I want someone that can laugh and cry if they need to. Not 420 friendly...nor drugs of any kind. Alcohol in moderation is fine. None smoker and loves kids and dogs.
Summarized version: I like people with a wide variety of interests who can and love to talk. Somewhere along the way conversation seems to have become a lost art. Just because I do or don't agree doesn't mean that who I'm sitting with has to feel the same way! If you're capable of holding a conversation about your personal thoughts and beliefs with an open mind even if we have different views on some beliefs, while also maintaining a genuine healthy sense of humor about life then I'd love to know you. :) / Primary short-term goal: To be on my way home from a first date that DOESN'T remind me of the virtues of being single!
My ideal relationship/partner is having dinner out somewhere casual but comfortable, sharing about each others day with a little people watching thrown in. A drive after then home where we might have some goofy conversation or maybe serious chat where we each have our own views enough for spirited debate----fade to some creative lovemaking that may or may not involve messy food or may or may not involve the Jacuzzi followed by a relaxing, long, soapy shower followed by throwing in a DVD or just cuddling and talking about something or just laying there listening to the silence. When conflicts arise they are settled with normal voices sans any Jerry Springer nonsense or seven police cars responding!! LOL!!
...and here we go!!!! I guess this is where I'm supposed to tell you what a great guy I am and convince you I'm perfect by telling you about my imaginary yacht, huge house, expensive sports cars....blau, blau, blau...the standard bullshit most guys claim and later you find they live in their mom's basement and ride a bicycle! I'm going for something refreshing...THE TRUTH! I'm neither rich nor poor, just a down to earth nice guy with a big gut, ability to say the wrong things at the worst times, maxed out credit cards and basic flaws in general! I want someone who can see and accept me for my virtues as well as my flaws. I am incredibly direct which leads to be often misunderstood till you get to know me so ONE phone chat and ONE meeting won't cut it. I can be sarcastic and sometimes lose site of the "off" button so a simple smack in the head gets me back on track....LOL!! Said sarcasm is especially perceived wrong in email & text which IS WHY if you aren't willing to quickly skip to phone conversation you really won't get to know me. I play by my own rules but am very open to others needs.
What I find attractive traits in a woman have little to do with dress sizes and how many revolutions the scales does when you stand on it! I'm attracted to your soul and the unique quality the right woman for me will see me though the eyes in your heart! Someone who wears their heart on their sleeve and isn't afraid to laugh or cry as needed! If I was to attempt to break down God's odd train-wreck that makes me who I am it would go like this:
44% Introvert, 36% Extrovert, 20% just faking it!
Analytically, kinesthetic thinker.
The spotlight is not my friend yet once was.
Anti-planner, pro spontaneity usually late - ALWAYS show up!
An inner shy geek and big kid rolled in one....
....that’s approximately me!
In lieu of "I am this and I am that" I feel sharing a story from my past best embodies who I am and my philosophy on life and personality better than anything I babble on about.
Back some years ago, prior to the internet, I received a call from this girl named Amy who had her own radio show while attending Stephen's College. One 15 minute conversation became a string of 2-3 hour conversations every night. Without as much as a picture of what she looked like, after several weeks of AMAZING phone conversations I flew from Los Angeles, CA to Columbia, MO to meet her. It was a triple whammy considering I'd never flown before, never traveled this far from home and jitters of meeting a woman WITHOUT A CLUE what she looked like all rolled into one. The end result was a wonderful nine days and lasting memory for life I wouldn't trade for anything. Many might find that silly and compulsive but THE ONE whose heart that touches is the one that can get me!