The gal that is "IT" / "THE ONE"...whatever term works for you will be the person who sees beyond the fact that I'm chunky in a Kevin James way rather than thin in a Brad Pitt way. She'll see my heart, my want and love for family and see past my flaws as I'll see past your flaws to focus on your kindness. I'm not at all looking for a model or size 5.......a size 16 with a heart twice that works for me! Someone I can make laugh till it hurts and makes me smile even on a bad day! The one that will smile lovingly while we and friends and family sit around a firepit on a cold night, hold my hand or just love listening to me play my acoustic guitar while we all mess up the words to whatever songs we are attempting!!
I am a creative, warm, affectionate man who doesn't take myself or life too seriously. I'm an intellectual (but NOT a snob) who is open minded and non-judgmental yet loves to think outside the box, laugh and seeks to enjoy life. I don't just ask "why?" but also "why not?" or "why not this way?" I believe when two people find each other that click they should seek solutions to issues that arise other than "it's over I'm gone". While I'm more than capable on my own I want to share the good as well as the trials and tribulations of life with another as one. To that end I'm seeking my life partner, best friend, lover and soul mate that is the first person I wish to share with when something wonderful happens and the only one I turn to when life throws a curve ball...and I can be the same for them.
I'm aware many women (and men) just scope out the pictures and never bothers to READ these summaries. I tried the long version of "I'm this and that and seek this and that" in great detail with little success so now I'm trying the short, emotional 1040EZ route! LOL!!! YEAH, I KNOW TRYING BUT SEEMS LIKE IT STILL IS LONG!! You want to know about me get off your ass and ASK! One of my virtues (though often viewed as a negative) is I'm extremely direct hence I don't play games. Hell, read the 2000 or so questions I've answered....which gives a pretty accurate idea of who I am. Again, anything else simply ask. While I stand by what I say here I also believe when two people come together compromises on both sides have to happen. There are some things that just "are" with me and others where wiggle room exist as long as this hypothetical unknown as of yet person is also willing to bend and be flexible.
Over the last XX??? months I've met, spoke with on the phone, had dinners with every version of game playing, lying, batshit crazy women in the greater St. Louis and So. Illinois area (as well as a few who just weren't emotionally ready for anyone or just weren't at my level of intellect/compassion/passion). Surprise me......BE A LITTLE NORMAL! You don't need to be thin (I prefer chunky women)..I'm not even asking for someone who doesn't have some baggage and shit in their past (at our ages who doesn't have baggage?)......I almost prefer it as you will better understand me as I'll better understand you.