58 Seattle, WA
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My self-summary
How do you distill half a lifetime into a few paragraphs? I'm still learning about myself.
Like most people I’m full of contradictions and layers. I am usually (and strive to be) kind, generous, compassionate, thoughtful, considerate, loving, responsible, fully present and GGG. I can be the opposite at times but at my best the opposites don’t surface very often or for very long. I can be lighthearted yet intense, engaged but also solitary at times. Intellectual pursuits and discussions are wonderful but lowbrow humor is often hilarious (think Harold and Kumar).
I like to have fun, to laugh, to make others laugh and be happy. Serious and businesslike when I must be and relaxed and playful when I can. Happiness is my choice.
What I’m doing with my life
Several years out of a 20 year marriage and I’m looking forward to the rest of my life. I have a gratifying practice that allows me to help others improve their lives, three wonderful children, two of whom are on their way out of the nest, good friends and close family. I’m very fortunate for all I have and try to never forget that.
Non-work time is taken up with looking after and keeping up with my children, playing basketball and baseball, swimming and walking. I love to get out and about for Town Hall lectures, live music, road trips, outdoor concerts, bookstores, “good find” restaurants, movies and new experiences (Polar Bear Plunge on New Year's Day the most recent example). Cooking up a good meal at home with someone special and staying in for the evening is a real pleasure. Quiet Sunday mornings with a full pot of coffee, a newspaper and homemade brunch are a treat. I love books, magazines and TED talks. Continuing to learn, to ask questions and to look beneath the surface are extremely important to me.
Rich experiences, quiet or not, make life so enjoyable. I stay open to opportunities and whatever presents itself. I hope to cross paths with a woman of depth and substance who revels in the differences between us and treasures the energy we have together. A woman who is as accepting of me as she wants me to be of her. A woman who doesn’t mind challenges or being challenged, lovingly, of course.
I’m really good at
Putting people at ease, listening, drawing out smiles, befriending dogs and children, trivia, massage
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, my smile...I'm told I have a pleasant demeanor
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recently read Cormac McCarthy, Michael Lewis, Stieg Larsson, Graham Greene, John Updike, Paul Harding, Gabriel Garcia Marquez; I enjoy history, biography, Buddhist and spiritual works, news and issues magazines.
Indie movies, thrillers, action, mysteries, Pixar, some sci-fi, dramas
Favorite music lately has been adult alternative, alt-pop, some indie, nice guitar.
Almost any food is alright by me: Italian, Thai, fusion, Mexican/Southwest. I'm a pretty adventurous eater and like trying new things, and sometimes a great burger is just perfect.
The six things I could never do without
Aside from the obvious necessities - Curiosity, smiles, laughter, touch, hot showers, warm socks, music, learning - I can't limit myself to six
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why? Why not?
What exactly is short-term dating?
Are we evolving, progressing or moving in some other direction?
On a typical Friday night I am
With one of my children, out with friends or just relaxing after a busy week
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This may have to wait...
You should message me if
If who I am or what I want sounds interesting

Or if you are a compassionate, empathetic soul and hope to find a friend, lover, companion and playmate.

I'm not actively seeking my soulmate (not exactly sure what that is), "the one" or even a particular type. I want to connect with others and see what happens. Compatibility is hard to define but easy to recognize. You know chemistry when you feel it.