Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
How do you distill half a lifetime into a few paragraphs? I'm still
learning about myself.
Like most people I’m full of contradictions and layers. I am
usually (and strive to be) kind, generous, compassionate,
thoughtful, considerate, loving, responsible, fully present and
GGG. I can be the opposite at times but at my best the opposites
don’t surface very often or for very long. I can be lighthearted
yet intense, engaged but also solitary at times. Intellectual
pursuits and discussions are wonderful but lowbrow humor is often
hilarious (think Harold and Kumar).
I like to have fun, to laugh, to make others laugh and be happy.
Serious and businesslike when I must be and relaxed and playful
when I can. Happiness is my choice.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Several years out of a 20 year marriage and I’m looking forward to
the rest of my life. I have a gratifying practice that allows me to
help others improve their lives, three wonderful children, two of
whom are on their way out of the nest, good friends and close
family. I’m very fortunate for all I have and try to never forget
Non-work time is taken up with looking after and keeping up with my
children, playing basketball and baseball, swimming and walking. I
love to get out and about for Town Hall lectures, live music, road
trips, outdoor concerts, bookstores, “good find” restaurants,
movies and new experiences (Polar Bear Plunge on New Year's Day the
most recent example). Cooking up a good meal at home with someone
special and staying in for the evening is a real pleasure. Quiet
Sunday mornings with a full pot of coffee, a newspaper and homemade
brunch are a treat. I love books, magazines and TED talks.
Continuing to learn, to ask questions and to look beneath the
surface are extremely important to me.
Rich experiences, quiet or not, make life so enjoyable. I stay open
to opportunities and whatever presents itself. I hope to cross
paths with a woman of depth and substance who revels in the
differences between us and treasures the energy we have together. A
woman who is as accepting of me as she wants me to be of her. A
woman who doesn’t mind challenges or being challenged, lovingly, of
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Putting people at ease, listening, drawing out smiles, befriending
dogs and children, trivia, massage
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, my smile...I'm told I have a pleasant demeanor
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Recently read Cormac McCarthy, Michael Lewis, Stieg Larsson, Graham
Greene, John Updike, Paul Harding, Gabriel Garcia Marquez; I enjoy
history, biography, Buddhist and spiritual works, news and issues
Indie movies, thrillers, action, mysteries, Pixar, some sci-fi,
Favorite music lately has been adult alternative, alt-pop, some
indie, nice guitar.
Almost any food is alright by me: Italian, Thai, fusion,
Mexican/Southwest. I'm a pretty adventurous eater and like trying
new things, and sometimes a great burger is just perfect.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Aside from the obvious necessities - Curiosity, smiles, laughter,
touch, hot showers, warm socks, music, learning - I can't limit
myself to six
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why? Why not?
What exactly is short-term dating?
Are we evolving, progressing or moving in some other direction?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With one of my children, out with friends or just relaxing after a
You should message me if
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If who I am or what I want sounds interesting
Or if you are a compassionate, empathetic soul and hope to find a
friend, lover, companion and playmate.
I'm not actively seeking my soulmate (not exactly sure what that
is), "the one" or even a particular type. I want to connect with
others and see what happens. Compatibility is hard to define but
easy to recognize. You know chemistry when you feel it.
Who are you looking for?
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