60 Santa Barbara, CA
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My self-summary
I'm a person of deep faith, despite some spiritual wounds that I'm still working through. My deepest self is a boy that loves to go exploring and feel the wonder of belonging in a living world--including the wonder of the energy between two quiet, attentive, embodied, loving, present human beings.

I was happily married for 24 years and later amicably divorced (2008) after an amicable five-year separation. Raised two healthy, strong, beautiful, self-sufficient daughters now 32 and 34, each of whom was long out of the house before my ex wife and I separated. Have been dedicated toalternative Christian community-building for 30 years. Very intelligent but blessed to be relatively well-balanced and not geeky. Have a PhD in biblical studies. Enjoy discussions about Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, Wicca, the new cosmology, life sciences, the theory of morphic fields. Love learning new science facts. (e.g. did you know that cornsilk is hundreds of individual falopian tubes? Does this mean that there is one strand of silk for every kernel on the cob? Yes it does...I actually counted the silk strands on a cob to make sure.) A biblical scholar and theologian. A published translator of the New Testament called The Spoken English New Testament. My friends say I'm funny and very curious--so much so that I will join in almost any discussion about things of significance, not just about religious or spiritual stuff. I'm in great health, ride a bike, drive a WVO (waste veggie oil) powered car, love hiking and wilderness camping--look more like 45 than 60, act more like 35. Love to climb trees, smell flowers, converse with birds, discover wild bees, feel a close friend's chakras humming with mine.
What I’m doing with my life
After eight years as founder and director of a small non-profit that fed the neediest people in Oakland (see sharefirst.org), I have wrapped up that corporation and have moved here to Santa Barbara to spend more time with my father, who is 91. Looking for a spiritual community based in worship and mutual support in inner-city activism and spiritual renewal (in Oakland I was doing spiritual and social justice activism with seminaryofthestreet.org. I only need a modest amount of paid work right now (used to command high fees as a civil case analyst and persuasive graphics specialist; now doing occasional academic editing and construction work). Intensely involved in scholarly writing work (biblical and theological).
I’m really good at
[Note: the links below all work; they're mine, not just OKC's. Check them out.] Climbing trees (really--see the profile pic with the redwood trees and the arrow), Scrabble, giant outside political art, biblical interpretation (non-fundamentalist). Analysis--I'm a Sherlock Holmes style detective by proclivity. Playing Bach on the piano. Playing Joplin rags and improvising jazz and blues. Troubleshooting. Inventing things. Affectionate friendship. Making Indian curries from scratch using individual spices (coriander, cumin, fenugreek/methi, cardamom, fennel, etc.). Wilderness camping, backpacking, and exploring above 10,000 feet in the Sierras.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm one of those people that seem kinda nerdy on first impression, eccentric. (scored "Pure Nerd" on OKCupid's Nerd/Geek/Dork test.) Little innate interest in fashion (I can look good if I want to, but the desire to decorate myself doesn't come naturally)--a lot of my best clothes were recommended by others.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Walter Mosely--everything but that rather pornographic one
Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe stories (despite Wolfe's misogyny, etc.)
I tend to forget movies, but I remember I really liked...
Run, Lola Run
Stand By Me
Harold and Maude
Jean de Florette/Manon du Source
Seven Samurai
The Unbearable Lightness of Being
Tampopo :)
Jackie Chan films
Doctor Strangelove

Music: Baroque Music, mainly Bach
Downtempo electronica, triphop
Bebop piano (Bill Evans, Oscar Peterson)
Classical Indian
Folk Guitar (Kaki King, Pierre Bensusan)
Female pop/jazz/folk/alternative (e.g. Joni Mitchell, Bjork)
Dead Can Dance

Food: Japanese, Thai, Cambodian, Nepalese, Indian, Ethiopian. I'm not really a strict vegan, but vegan is close. I do not purchase land animals, and I eat fish and seafood once a week or so. I accept fowl if it is offered to me as hospitality, but I almost never eat four-footed animals. My philosophy is, everybody gets eaten sooner or later, but I prefer not to eat any being that did not live free until the day it died.
The six things I could never do without
A sense of God in my life
Friends & spiritual companions
People to show me things about myself that I can't see
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The dire state of the world
How to make positive peace (=harmony+justice) where I am
What does truly radical spiritual community-making look like?
How to explain and unpack the ongoing power of sacred scripture for a 21st century audience
How can I open myself up to more aliveness and vulnerability to my deeper emotional/spiritual reactions to things?
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out playing games or watching a video with friends
Arguing theology over the cutting board in a gourmet friend's kitchen
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can't seem to fit into the matrix of (protestant) Christian cultures. Far too free, sexually open-minded, mystical, nature-loving, inclusive-minded and politically radical for evangelicals, too fascinated by Jesus and deep theological threads in the Bible for progressives. And I love comparing notes about the mysteries of life with atheists and people of other spiritual traditions.

Free bonus admission: I like verbalizing my thoughts when I'm by myself, and I'm not embarrassed about it. Hmm--should I be?
You should message me if
Any one of the following:

a. you feel like it.
b. you're interested in or open to relaxed, sensual affection that doesn't have a "get there" goal
c. you're interested in intimate, spiritual friendship that promisesmutual healing and empowerment--but probably doesn't lead to sexual mutual obsession or becoming a couple.
d. you're desirous of finding a permanent significant other, but in the mean time you can't stand (or are burnt out on) living in the dilemma between (a) trying to get your heterosexual friendship and affection needs met through sexual liasons, and (b) being bereft of touch and intimacy.
e. if you're not even slightly interested in me, but you want to just talk about the above.

Anyway, it's ok to reach out and say hello if you feel moved--friendliness desires to express itself in the universe.

B well and B blessed!