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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 47-58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 29
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Christianity and it’s important
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English, Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm a person of deep faith, despite some spiritual wounds that I'm still working through. My deepest self is a boy that loves to go exploring and feel the wonder of belonging in a living world--including the wonder of the energy between two quiet, attentive, embodied, loving, present human beings.

I was happily married for 24 years and later amicably divorced (2008) after an amicable five-year separation. Raised two healthy, beautiful, self-sufficient girls now 30 and 32, each of whom was long out of the house before we separated. Have been dedicated toalternative Christian community-building for 25 years. Very intelligent but blessed to be well-balanced and not geeky. Have a PhD in biblical studies. Enjoy discussions about Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, Wicca, the new cosmology, life sciences, the theory of morphic fields. Love learning new science facts. (e.g. did you know that cornsilk is hundreds of individual falopian tubes? Does this mean that there is one strand of silk for every kernel on the cob? Yes it does...I actually counted the silk strands on a cob to make sure.) A biblical scholar and theologian. A published translator of the New Testament called The Spoken English New Testament. My friends say I'm funny and very curious--so much so that I will join in almost any discussion about things of significance, not just about religious or spiritual stuff. I'm in great health, ride a bike, eschew owning a car, love hiking and wilderness camping--look more like 45 than 58. Love to climb trees, smell flowers, converse with birds, discover wild bees, feel a close friend's chakras humming with mine.
What I’m doing with my life
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Founder and director of a small non-profit that feeds some of the neediest people in Oakland (see Participant in a spiritual community based in worship and mutual support in inner-city activism and spiritual renewal (see Low on paid work right now (used to command high fees as a civil case analyst and persuasive graphics specialist, but work has decreased to a dribble since 2009). Intensely involved in scholarly writing work (biblical and theological). I mostly write books and feed the hungry.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
[Note: the links below all work; they're mine, not just OKC's. Check them out.] Climbing trees (really--see the profile pic with the redwood trees and the arrow), Scrabble, giant outside political art, biblical interpretation (non-fundamentalist). Analysis--I'm a Sherlock Holmes style detective by proclivity. Playing Bach on the piano. Playing Joplin rags and improvising jazz and blues. Troubleshooting. Inventing things. Affectionate friendship. Making Indian curries from scratch using individual spices (coriander, cumin, fenugreek/methi, cardamom, fennel, etc.). Wilderness camping, backpacking, and exploring above 10,000 feet in the Sierras.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm one of those people that seem kinda nerdy on first impression, eccentric. (scored "Pure Nerd" on OKCupid's Nerd/Geek/Dork test.) Little innate interest in fashion (I can look good if I want to, but the desire to decorate myself doesn't come naturally)--a lot of my best clothes were recommended by others.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Walter Mosely--everything but that rather pornographic one
Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe stories (despite Wolfe's misogyny, etc.)
I tend to forget movies, but I remember I really liked...
Run, Lola Run
Stand By Me
Harold and Maude
Jean de Florette/Manon du Source
Seven Samurai
The Unbearable Lightness of Being
Tampopo :)
Jackie Chan films
Doctor Strangelove

Music: Baroque Music, mainly Bach
Downtempo electronica, triphop

Food: Japanese, Thai, Cambodian, Nepalese, Indian, Ethiopian
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A sense of God in my life
Friends & spiritual companions
People to show me things about myself that I can't see
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The dire state of the world
How to make positive peace (=harmony+justice) where I am
What does truly radical spiritual community-making look like?
How to explain and unpack the ongoing power of sacred scripture for a 21st century audience
How can I open myself up to more aliveness and vulnerability to my deeper emotional/spiritual reactions to things?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dog sitting and watching a video
Arguing theology over the cutting board in a gourmet friend's kitchen
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can't seem to fit into the matrix of (protestant) Christian cultures. Far too free, sexually open-minded, mystical, nature-loving, inclusive-minded and politically radical for evangelicals, too fascinated by Jesus for progressives. And I love comparing notes about the mysteries of life with atheists and people of other spiritual traditions.

Free bonus admission: I like verbalizing my thoughts when I'm by myself, and I'm not embarrassed about it. Hmm--should I be?
You should message me if
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Any one of the following:

a. you feel like it.
b. you're interested in or open to relaxed, sensual affection that doesn't have a "get there" goal
c. you're interested in intimate, spiritual friendship that promisesmutual healing and empowerment--but probably doesn't lead to sexual mutual obsession or becoming a couple.
d. you're desirous of finding a permanent significant other, but in the mean time you can't stand (or are burnt out on) living in the dilemma between (a) trying to get your heterosexual friendship and affection needs met through sexual liasons, and (b) being bereft of touch and intimacy.
e. if you're not even slightly interested in me, but you want to just talk about the above.

Anyway, it's ok to reach out and say hello if you feel moved--friendliness desires to express itself in the universe.

B well and B blessed!