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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 22-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Oct 18
5' 10" (1.78m)
Post grad
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Intensely creative guy, looking to date. I have usually been in a long-term relationship and I will again. Till then, I am happy with all kinds of entertainments, from romance to casual sex. I am tender, funny, and romantic. I think getting Japanese noodles and then seeing a film at the Kabuki is one form of heaven. There are others.

I'm a nurturing kind of guy. I am always cooking for my friends, and generally interested in food, from l'Arpege in Paris to a Uighur--Muslim Chinese--restaurant I discovered out in the avenues here in San Francisco. I am a writer, and that takes me on a lot of wonderful trips.

I am 5'10" and 200, so stocky, with big chest and shoulders, white hair on chest, some on shoulders and back.. Sort of your classic daddy/bear, though not so heavy. HIV-, sane and relaxed. Kissing is important, and I have insanely sensitive nipples.

I was a carpenter and house painter for some years. A potter too. Then I became an arts administrator and then a teacher. Meanwhile, I was writing.

I'm looking for a slim to average build, muscles are fine, or none, say 25 to 50 with a lot of wiggle room, and a head with something in it. Someone with cultural interests would be great.

One thing about this site is that there is no place, it seems, for age preferences, so I hope my demographic can find me!

I am creative, kind, and funny
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a writer and a professor at a local university. I write fiction, poetry and some art criticism. For example, I wrote a catalogue essay for the Havana Biennale that took me to Cuba this year. I am interested in visual art, and decorative arts, film, and most things cultural especially if they have some edge. I like Warren McArthur and Paul Frankl (furniture), California Faience and Jalan (obscure ceramics). Once I had a garden column called Mr. Plantier. I like early opera. I read the NY Times in the morning in bed with a cup of tea.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I help people brainstorm, problem solve, or just talk about problems. I am an excellent cook, a good traveler, and I love domesticity. I put a lot into sex, and into relationships, and expect the same. What else?--I am good at parallel parking (though when it comes to sex, I often prefer to be the parking space).
The first things people usually notice about me
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Oh, my eyes I guess. And a nice smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like all film, from summer blockbusters to silent movies to the experimental and obscure to the truly stupid--I like the horror genre, and movies from the 30's. I am probably the only person on this site, or maybe in the world, to have seen Curucu, Beast of the Amazon--twice! A movie that couldn't afford a monster--it was invisible--or even gore. I suppose the French philosopher Georges Bataille was important to me, and lots of other writers, Frank O'Hara's poetry, Henry James. I have been reading Roberto Bolano with great pleasure. Juan Goytisolo, Phillip K Dick, Jim Thompson, Jane Austen, Kathy Acker. Too many poets to name.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, sex, interesting food, romance, Turner Classic Movies, books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Friends, sex, interesting food, romance, books, my home, travel, politics, and how to write the third section of the novel I am working on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friends, sex, interesting food, romance, books, my home, travel, working on that third section.....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a mild addiction to the NY Times Home Section--it comes out on Thursday.
You should message me if
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you see me as a new hat that you want to try on. You are serious. You are not serious. You are looking for a labor saving device. An obsession. A house painter.